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Real Men/Women of Genius is meant to poke a bit of harmless fun at the not-so bright members of this site. Disguised as playful rants, the nobler side of these posts holds the hope that some light will be shed on the sometimes irreparable mistakes that men(and women) make. What makes me the expert? I'm not, but there are two ways to learn from mistakes. By making your own, or by watching others. I've made plenty of mistakes, and seen plenty of them, and I have learned a great deal, and I wish to share my knowledge. I usually post once a week, on what I affectionately call Bloody Sunday. Check back for new posts!
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius"? #33
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Posted:Mar 7, 2009 11:19 pm
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2009 4:08 pm
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius"? #33
This week's post is dedicated to a friend of mine, who recently had an experience that she shared with those who cared to listen. I figure that one of the best ways to show my support for her, is to give the "genius" that wasted her time a bit of grief.
The problem is, the guy she met listened to her, and seemed to care, but after all was said and done, communication from his end became nonexistent.
Today, I salute you, Mr. Silent As The Grave
It seems to me that with the reputation that so many guys have for being insensitive jerks, that you would make some concerted effort to dispel that idea. But, instead, you do NOT choose the road less travelled. You do what SO many other guys have done, and you bolt after getting what you wanted.
It makes me wonder if it's possible to disqualify a person from calling himself a man.
Of course, then we'd have to come up with a title for the unfathomable amount of people that no longer reserve the right to be included in the male gender of the species. I can only dare to imagine how creative the names that everyone might suggest would be.
Honestly, it makes me shake my head when I try to figure out WHY so many men treat women like they are nothing but pieces of meat with which they can have their way.
Now, Mr. "Genius", if you had spoken with her beforehand about not getting attached, and that you would not be keeping in touch after meeting, maybe I wouldn't be writing this post, and you might not be looked upon as the guy who is too immature to respond to numerous forms of communication. Still, you played the "game" by being nice and polite, and of course, at first you left out any sexual advances, leading her to believe you would actually be one of a rare breed that will show her the respect she deserves.
But, let's assume for a moment that you DO have a good heart, which I believe everyone does, and that your actions are misunderstood because of the lack of confirmation of your intentions. Let us also assume that you believe you don't deserve her, the fact to which the evidence is overwhelming, and due to this you chose to break all ties with her. One wonders if being able to prove this would lead to you being forgiven.
I'm reminded of the saying, "It is better to remain silent, and be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."
In this case, remaining silent will make everyone continue to think of you as a fool.
The only problem is...I'm not convinced that finally opening your mouth remove all doubt.
GLC
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius" #32
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Posted:Mar 1, 2009 11:57 am
Last Updated:Mar 6, 2009 4:52 pm
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius" #32
Okay all. Bloody Sunday got cancelled last week due to a connection problem. The repairman was supposed to be here at a certain time, but due to unforseen complications in his schedule, the repair had to be postponed. Glad to be back.
It did make me think about how people say things, yet don't keep their word. Too often they say something which can quickly turn into, in the recipient's eyes...a LIE.
"I promise."
Today, I salute you, Mr. Promise Maker
Now, don't let the title fool you. This isn't about broken promises exactly. This is about MAKING them.
In my opinion, making a promise should be reserved for those who regularly use the phrases, "Money-back guarantee" or "Lifetime warranty"
Why? Because making a promise entails having total control over the ever-changing circumstances involving said promise.
For instance, you arrive late for work one day, and your boss gives you hell. You tell him, "I promise I'll never be late again." Then, due to events beyond your control, you get a flat, or your car breaks down, and guess what? Promise BROKEN. Then, your trust comes into question, and may or may not ever be repaired. To me, the best thing would be to say, "I'll make every effort to arrive on time from now on." Sometimes, even though we try our best to make things go our way, life can throw a wrench into the mix, and all hell breaks loose.
What to do? Deal with it, and move on.
I've noticed that the majority of those who make promises are the ones who either have little credibility, or even worse, do not trust themselves.
What is too often overlooked, mainly because it is nearly undetectable, is the person's INTENTION. Like in the example above, the person can have every intention of keeping their word, but when the the "curve ball" comes, and no matter hard you swing, you miss...well, intention becomes the farthest thing from others' minds.
It all comes down to trust. If the trust between you and the person you make the promise to is a bit shaky, you are setting yourself up for a potential fall. However, if the trust is unbending, then the need for a promise becomes obsolete.
Some make promises they try to uphold, and others make promises simply to appease their loved ones, with absolutely no intention of keeping their word. What needs to be done is for people to say what they mean, and mean what they say.
Also, others should understand that people make mistakes, and sometimes no matter how much you want them to, things don't always go according to plan. See the intention, not the end result.
Perhaps someday, trust, which unfortunately has been torn down by corrupt politicians and scam artists, to name only a few, will be restored to this world.
Until then, make no promises, but tell no lies.
GLC
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius" #10
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Posted:Feb 15, 2009 10:34 am
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2009 4:11 pm
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius" #10
Today, I salute you, Ms. Cookie Cutter Profile Creator
It happens all too often. A guy is browsing the profiles, searching for a bit of eye candy, hoping upon hope to find something stimulating....intellectually, of course.
How disappointing is it when a lovely lady can't come up with her own words to describe herself?
It's a problem that Viagra doesn't have a chance to remedy.
I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, although some might disagree, but I TRY to voice my opinions in my own words. When I created my profile on my first day, and I saw the "Writing ideas" section, needless to say it was worth a hearty chuckle.
However, I have encountered countless profiles that have the same generic fill-in info from that same help section. For example:
1. Most of my friends would say I have a (dominant/easy-going/shy/other) personality.
How about, "I think my personality ROCKS, but I'll let you find out for yourself." What matters is what one thinks of themself. No need to mention what friends think, because if they weren't your friends, it's likely that they wouldn't give you any good references.
2. When it comes to physical health, I exercise about (5 to 7, 3 or 4, 1 or 2) times per week (or never), and expect my sex partners to be at about the same fitness level.
I would think that the "body type" section would clear this up, because if you get any kind of exercise, be it a walk in the park, or a two-hour workout three times a week, it is going to affect your body. A pic usually speaks volumes about one's physical fitness, though.
3. I (like/dislike) the bar scene. I prefer (lots of partying/not to party) when I'm involved in sexual encounters.
This one pops up in profiles about as often as #1. Why, may I inquire, is it called the "bar scene"? Why can't someone say, "I enjoy hanging out in local pubs while having a drink with people I've recently met. Oh, and if I get lucky enough to take someone home, that's good too."? "Bar scene" seems so generic these days.
4. I like my partners to (tell me what to do/follow my lead) in the bedroom.
Well, it's for certain that SOMEONE is gonna take the reins under the sheets, so I'll let this one slide...for now.
5. I love sex, but I'm more interested in (short-term relationships/long-term relationships/marriage).
Okay, I've never actually heard of anyone saying I HATE SEX. Although I'm sure there are a few out there who may not enjoy it, anyone who has a profile on this site shouldn't have to say they love sex. As far as looking for relationships on an adult site, well, to be honest, I can't knock it, because I've seen people actually find love here, so my thinking is...good luck to them.
6. In the bedroom, I tend to like (traditional, straight forward/kinky, experimental/other) sex. Some of my favorite positions are...
Correct me if I'm wrong (and I've been wrong before), but isn't this one covered in the additional questions? Even if it isn't, sometimes these topics should be discussed with potential partners. A little mystery can be a good thing.
7. I prefer one-on-one sex, but wouldn't mind trying it with another (man/woman) in the room.
This one, again, pops up WAY too much...in these EXACT words.
8. One-on-one sex doesn't interest me much. I prefer (threesomes/swapping/orgies/other).
This one is covered in the "Looking for" part at the TOP of the profile. No need to be redundant.
9. I'm (seldom/always) willing to try some light bondage or blindfolds.
Again, this one is covered in the "Additional Questions" section. What sexual activities turn you on?
Now, for all you ladies that are reading this, I want you to think of what your profile says about you. It doesn't have to be perfect. It just has to be YOU. Writing the words, "I don't know what to write here." in the description section will NOT do any good for your social life....or your sex life, for that matter. In fact, your profile will probably be thought of as fake.
Be creative. People should want to get to know you based on what you say in your profile. If you don't say anything...well...I hope you have a really good picture.
It makes me think of someone telling you, "Say the first thing that comes to your mind."
Your response?
SILENCE.
GLC
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GLC Presents: Real Men of Genius? #31, Mr. Wait for Valentine's Day
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Posted:Feb 10, 2009 10:43 am
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2009 12:55 am
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GLC Presents: Real Men of Genius? #31
Today, I salute you, Mr. Wait for Valentine's Day
Yes, I know. Bloody Sunday was two days ago, but something came to my attention that made me take a few days to think.
As stores pack their shelves to overflowing with chocolates, stuffed animals, and one-of-a-kind greeting cards, florists are preparing for the weekend rush, and jewelers are expecting a sudden jump in sales.
Of course, I'm talking about St. Valentine's Day. One of the few days out of the year when guys pull out all the stops to show their lovely ladies how much they care.
Here's my question.
What about the OTHER 364 days? Why can't they all be just as special? Why can't you take a little bit of your time each day to express your feelings?
I'm not talking about saying, "I love you." Anyone can say those words, or a few just like them, but can you say how much you care without actually SAYING it?
Forget greeting cards, chocolates, and those cute little stuffed animals. I'm talking about DOING something to show what's in your heart. It's there. You just need to make the effort to express it.
When was the last time you opened the car door for her? How about offering your arm as you walk side by side? Ever try cooking her a nice dinner? It's not rocket science, but matters of the heart too often, these days, are looked upon as something more difficult than threading a needle with a garden hose.
Recently, someone told me what she wanted for Valentine's Day. Now, anyone else might have guessed that she would say chocolates, flowers, or even the elusive diamond ring.
They would have guessed wrong.
No. She asked for a letter. A letter from the man she loves expressing the love he feels.
I would ask all guys to do two things.
First, put down the needle and garden hose, because it isn't going to happen. Second, give writing a letter a shot. But, before you do, I want you to imagine your life without her. Imagine that she's gone, forever, and all the things you wish you had told her will never be said. Now, take all those things and write them down. Tell her, as if tomorrow will never come, what you feel.
This doesn't only apply to the guys. It is directed at anyone who waits for the "right moment" to express themselves. As I said earlier, actions speak louder than words, and can leave an impression that will stand the test of time.
Now, I say to all of you. The next time you see your partner, do something to express your feelings to them. Hug them. Kiss them. Hell, pinch them on the behind if you feel it's what will say it best. Keep in mind, that it isn't about keeping score. It's not about expecting something in return. It's about doing what feels right.
Just don't wait for one special day out of the year to open your heart.
Make every day special.
Make every day count.
GLC
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GLC Presents: Real Men of Genius? #30, Mr. Couch Potato
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Posted:Feb 1, 2009 8:02 pm
Last Updated:Feb 12, 2009 8:46 am
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GLC Presents: Real Men of Genius? #30, Mr. Couch Potato
Today, I salute you, Mr. Couch Potato
Okay, so you meet a great woman, shack up with her later on down the road, and then...
Courtship is over.
Could someone please hit the "WRONG ANSWER" buzzer?!
Let's take a stroll down memory lane for a second.
You met her, right? You were both attracted to each other, right? You had FUN together, right?
So, tell me something. Why did you STOP what you were doing?
I mean the FUN part.
Don't give me the "we're working on our future" line. No one should have to sacrifice the fun in life in order to better themselves...financially OR otherwise. If you bought a house that you have to work sixty hours a week to pay for, then you should've considered a less expensive home. Life is meant to be enjoyed. It isn't some diabolical demon that is out to get you no matter what you do.
It isn't an excuse to sit on the couch every weekend, not making an effort to get out of the house and enjoy life. If your response is, "I worked all week, I need to rest.", then let me tell you this.
You work too much.
The key is to work smarter, not harder.
I speak with the voice of experience. I wanted the finer things in life, and I believed that I had to work harder than everyone else to get them. Boy, was I wrong. Where was that buzzer when I needed it? I could've saved myself a LOT of pain and suffering.
So, instead, I hope I can save YOU before it's too late.
Take time for yourself, and for her. Spend the day in the park just talking about whatever comes to mind. Take a walk, hold hands, and remember the "good times". Stop and smell the roses.
Above all, have FUN.
You'll be glad you did.
GLC
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Sailin' away...
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Posted:Jan 13, 2009 10:50 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2009 9:49 pm
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To all my loyal readers...
Bloody Sunday, for the next two Sundays, will not come with a "genius" post. I'm going out of town on Thursday, and will be gone until January 25th. I plan on spending a few days in Miami before I go on a cruise to the Caiman Islands. It couldn't come at a better time since the temperature is hitting single digits by the time I leave.
I went on a Caribbean cruise in September of 2007, and LOVED it! It was my first cruise, and when I stepped onto that ship for the first time, I felt like I was on the Titanic. Needless to say, I was hooked.
So, don't worry. Bloody Sunday will be back.
GLC
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Real Men of "Genius"? #29, Mr. Why Not Me?
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Posted:Jan 11, 2009 11:40 am
Last Updated:Feb 2, 2009 6:20 am
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius"? #29
Today, I salute you, Mr. Why Not Me?
You meet the woman of your dreams, and you hit it off great.
There's only one problem.
You're not the man of hers.
Even though she still remains friends with you, it seems that almost every time you talk to her, she's either hanging out with him, on her way to his house, he's on his way to hers, or they already hung out, and are headed home. Even though the two are only friends for the moment, you clearly see something more in their future.
Your best response?
"Why not me?"
I'll tell you why. Because you seem to be unable to accept that someone else is happy. You whine and bitch about not getting what you want, and would gladly accept being with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Who cares if she would be miserable, right?
WRONG.
Part of being happy is being able to see the beautiful things in the world. This could be a bright, sunny day, a family spending time in the park, or two people who connect on a level that you struggle to understand. Someday, you will see these things. They haven't been hidden from you. You've been IGNORING them. Just like you ignore the fact that the woman you want is happy with someone else.
I've seen it before. A man who thinks someone belongs to him, and ONLY him, and due to that twisted way of thinking, he's willing to crush her hopes and dreams to fulfill his own.
The sad thing is, sometimes a woman is willing to risk it, thinking that obsession is somehow akin to love.
The words, "ticking time bomb" come to mind.
That's right. The chance she takes will light the fuse on a stockpile of pent up frustrations, and when she's had enough...
BOOM!
It will explode with such force, it will make Hiroshima seem like a cherry bomb.
Even though everyone should take responsibility for their own decisions, the responsible thing can often be more easily accomplished by not placing someone in a precarious situation that puts pressure on them to make a potentially disastrous decision.
So, in closing, let me suggest this. Don't try to make her feel guilty for not choosing you. Be happy for them. Find your own happiness, and when you do, you will most likely begin to look around and see the beautiful things that you've been missing.
GLC
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius"? #9
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Posted:Jan 4, 2009 3:16 pm
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2009 12:56 am
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius"? #9
Today, I salute you, Ms. It Was Love At First Sight.
I heard someone say it, and I had to give my opinion.
Okay, now this one, as many already know, has sparked controversy since the beginning of time.
Love at first sight. Is there such a thing?
I hear it often, in movies, on TV, or even in everyday conversation. She will say, "When I met him, it was love at first sight. We just clicked like we had known each other forever."
My theory? She might just be onto something. I'm not talking about the "love at first sight" thing, either.
Bear with me for a moment, because this might get a bit farfetched for the less than open-minded. I am, in no way, trying to convince you to believe me. I'm simply asking you to think about what I'm about to say.
Anyone who believes in the fact that, as immortal souls, we are reborn into new bodies in order to learn new life lessons will understand the concept of reincarnation. Though it is very difficult, if not impossible, to prove, I strongly believe that living one life doesn't make sense. How can one learn everything there is to know in ONE lifetime?
It's simple. You CANNOT.
So, that being said, the fact that we have lived before presents the possibility of having known another soul in another lifetime. Crossing paths again in THIS lifetime often will spark the "deja vu" feeling. The sense that you've met before. The "love at first sight" could mean that love began in a past life, and has the chance to continue in this one.
The words, "love at first sight" also create a dilemma. Physical attraction happens every day, but usually is not associated with love. Lust may be a more appropriate term.
Also, in my opinion, love is a conscious decision that one makes. Sure, people say, "I fell in love" and "I couldn't help it", but if you really think about it, you made the DECISION to love someone. No one forced you to do something against your will. It could have stemmed from a need for the connection, or a powerful desire to share your heart with someone. Either way, love is entirely up to you. It wasn't those ripped abs that put you under some powerful spell. You wanted to love, and you decided to. Even though love may seem to have full control of your heart, you always have the final say.
Now, when I hear, "I don't love him anymore," I must strongly disagree with the meaning of those words. The thing about love is...it is an unbreakable connection. Once it is established, it is forever. That doesn't mean that you won't be able to be happy with someone else, it just signifies that you will always care for that person, no matter what the circumstances life may present. Anyone who speaks those words either never loved the other person, or they are simply lashing out in anger.
That brings me to being "in love". To me, being in love means you WANT to be with someone, to spend those meaningful years of your life by their side as their companion, and best friend. You never stop loving someone once you start, but you can stop wanting to be with them. This does not mean you have ceased to care about them.
So, when you hear the words,"Love at first sight" or you feel the urge to say them yourself, think for a second. Perhaps a better way to express your feelings about the situation would be, "I felt a connection the moment I saw him."
Love IS, in every sense of the word, a HUGE decision, but it is the source of an immortal soul's power, the very essence of one's being. Without it, we would all be strangers in a crowd.
GLC
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius"? #28
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Posted:Dec 21, 2008 9:53 pm
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2009 10:28 am
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GLC Presents: Real Men of "Genius"? #28
Okay all, do you remember those unfortunate times when someone said they would do something "when hell freezes over"? Well, if I were you, I'd give 'em a call right now. The last time I checked, it was minus 3 degrees outside. In light of these circumstances, I choose to remain indoors, to post today's Bloody Sunday blog post. Enjoy.
Today, I salute you, Mr. Nice Guys Finish Last.
I was recently talking to a friend, and he was going on and on about his "fuck buddy" relationship with a girl he met. Apparently, she has a boyfriend, and he knew about this when they began their extracurricular activities.
So, I started thinking. Then, a big question in my mind just wouldn't go away. So, I asked him, "What goes through a man's mind when he's sleeping with a woman who has a boyfriend?"
His response? "Nice guys finish last, my friend."
I wasn't aware that life was a competition.
I asked him to elaborate. He told me that he used to be the guy that bought flowers, candy, and wined and dined the ladies, but when it came to getting dirty, he couldn't get out of the "friend zone". So, when an opportunity presented itself for him to get what he wanted, he took it. Perish the thought that he could've politely said, "No thanks. You have a boyfriend."
Imagine what kind of world we would be living in if everyone disregarded everyone else's feelings?
The problem is in the definition of the word, NICE.
Nice is an adjective, meaniing:
1. pleasing, agreeable, or delightful
2. amiably pleasant; kind
He THINKS he was being nice to the woman, but in reality, he was doing something entirely different.
I call it KISSING ASS.
It's no wonder why he wasn't getting any farther than dinner and a movie.
Being nice doesn't mean you bow to each and every whim of the object of your desire. It doesn't mean you empty your wallet for the small possibility of going for the "home run". It's the same as begging for someone's attention, and paying for it is even worse.
There is another word I like to use for "nice". RESPECTFUL.
Before his "change of heart", not only was he out for one thing, which was disrespecting her, he was doing things he really didn't want to do, which was disrespecting HIMSELF. Now, with the new girl, he adds insult to injury by disrespecting her AND her boyfriend.
When I asked him to place himself in the boyfriend's shoes, he hesitated to respond. He did, however reply with, "If she can't get what she wants at home..." I zoned out and missed the rest.
Okay. So, she isn't getting satisfied at home. I don't think that justifies cheating in any situation. If she isn't happy with her boyfriend, then she should leave. Plain and simple. In my opinion, staying together will only make things worse, and when the boyfriend discovers her infidelity, something's gonna hit the fan.
The disturbing part of the story is that the girl seems perfectly comfortable with cheating on her boyfriend with this guy. I'm thinking she'll be single soon.
But, I see the day coming when my friend cuts her loose, and finds someone he's really interested in. He'll probably treat her like a piece of meat also, and she'll probably leave him for a nice guy.
GLC
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Real Men of "Genius"? #27
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Posted:Dec 14, 2008 11:33 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2013 8:32 am
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GLC Presents: Real Men of Genius? 27
Today, I salute you, Mr. I'm the Member With the Biggest Member.
Or are you?
You worship the words, "Size matters." like a pagan god, boasting about your above-average measurement to all within earshot. It doesn't matter that no one has actually SEEN what you've been bragging about. All that matters is that someone is gullible enough to believe you.
You fend off rumors that what your packing is nothing but "packing", adamantly stating that your bulge is real as all your well-rehearsed "witnesses" deny the contrary.
You keep your secret locked away like the Holy Grail itself, allowing no human eyes to discover what many already suspect...that your secret fits neatly in your sock drawer.
Or, maybe you're one of those guys that feels that the wonders of a certain type of pill gives you an exclusive right to gloat. There's only one problem with that. What happens when the pills run out? Will she?
Please...don't answer a rhetorical question. It kinda takes the fun out of asking it.
Okay, let's say the pills DO run out. Did you know there are actual EXERCISES you can do to enlarge your...uh...membership?
When you finish gasping in surprise, I will tell you that what I just asked was NOT a rhetorical question. There ARE ways to make yourself larger. With a little time and effort, you would actually have something to brag about, not to mention something to show for all your hard work.
But, even if you change your name to John Holmes, size means nothing unless you know how to use it. Learning the two words IN and OUT, more often than not, don't cut it. Your lover may not have the heart to confront YOU about it, but you can bet that she'll be complaining to her best friend.
I'm sure that it would make a very interesting case for Small Claims Court.
Adding insult to injury, two words will come up in her conversation with her friend. The problem is, you won't know if she's talking about YOU, or a...
USELESS DICK.
GLC
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Real Men of Genius? #26, Mr. Chatroom Post Repeater
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Posted:Dec 6, 2008 10:52 pm
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2008 6:54 pm
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GLC Presents: Real Men of Genius? #26
Today, I salute you, Mr. Chatroom Post Repeater
Let me see. Where do I begin?
Maybe I should talk about how annoying it is for someone to post the SAME thing over and over, trying to get someone's attention. Perish the thought that the person is OBVIOUSLY not interested. The fact that you receive no reply in fifty posts just doesn't make it sink in.
So, what do you do next?
You go to ALL CAPS, THINKING IT'S GOING TO STAND OUT, AND GET A RESPONSE.
Maybe that's what I should do. Perhaps I should write this entire blog in ALL CAPS. Maybe then, and ONLY then, will the message penetrate that thick skull of yours, and you will realize that no one enjoys seeing the desperate actions you choose to take.
Even more pathetic, is the addition of the word PLEASE in all caps. Not once. Not twice, but THREE times or more in the same post. The last time I checked, that is a BIG show of insecurity, and I've yet to meet a woman that actually LIKES a man that will stoop to such a degrading level.
You might as well be PAYING her for her attention. Of course, that would change the context of your actions altogether. You would then be a customer who could actually EXPECT what he is looking for.
But, your best strategy is to annoy the hell out of someone until they toss you a scrap of attention just to get you to shut up.
So, with that said, here's MY strategy.
STOP REPEATING POSTS.
STOP REPEATING POSTS.
STOP REPEATING POSTS.
Am I annoying you yet?
No?
Here are more detailed instructions. Follow them carefully.
Step 1. Read this entire blog post.
Step 2. Repeat Step 1. until you stop repeating posts.
Step 3. If you are at this step, and don't understand how ANNOYING the repeating posts thing is, go back to Step 1.
Step 3. If you are at this step, and don't understand how ANNOYING the repeating posts thing is, go back to Step 1.
Step 3. If you are at this step, and don't understand how ANNOYING the repeating posts thing is, go back to Step 1.
Go back to Step 1. We'll meet back here at half past NEVER. M' Kay?
GLC
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The End of an Era
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Posted:Dec 3, 2008 7:05 pm
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2013 8:28 am
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The End of an Era
It has taken some time for me to be able to write this post. Seeing the words on the screen through the tears is difficult, so I waited until I was able to compose myself to break the news to everyone.
Some of you may roll your eyes when reading this, and that is only because you choose not to understand. I never condemn anyone for their opinion, as anyone who knows me will testify to. However, if you've ever heard the phrase, "You don't know what you've got until it's gone.", then I hope you will gain a bit of insight from what I am about to say.
For twenty years, I was the proud owner of a beautiful black cat named Merlin. Many people didn't believe me when I told them how old he was. Typically, cats rarely live longer than fifteen or so years. I knew he wasn't going to live forever, and keeping that thought in mind, I was able to cherish each and every moment we spent together.
Two decades ago, my girlfriend at the time, and I took a stray female cat into our home. It wasn't long before we discovered she was pregnant, and soon gave birth to a litter of nine kittens. Merlin was the first to be born, and because I was the first one to physically touch him, it created a bond between us that few were able to understand.
He was so small, I could nearly hold him in the palm of my hand. This made it easy for him to crawl into small spaces to hide. In fact, he was so adept at it, it would take me hours to find him. The problem wasn't his skill at hiding, but the fact that he would fall ASLEEP in his hiding place. Since he could disappear anytime he wanted, like a wizard or magician, I named him Merlin, after the most famous wizard of all.
He became my shadow, always nearby, even at the door when I came home from work. He preferred to either be in my lap, at my feet, or lying on top of my recliner as I sat watching TV.
Recently, I noticed that his age had begun to take a toll on his mobility. Even climbing into the litter box seemed to be a difficult undertaking. This past Sunday, I went to run some errands, and returned early in the afternoon. I felt an inexplicable urge to spend time with him, and I was quick to give in to it. I brushed his fur, removing any loose hair, and afterward, I gave him a bath. That was the first time he ever seemed to actually enjoy it. He was purring the entire time, and didn't try to jump out of the tub to run away as he used to.
After getting him nice and clean, I dried him off, and sat in the living room with him in my lap, purring just as loudly as ever. Occasionally, I would stop stroking his fur when something interesting on TV caught my attention. He would quickly raise his head, giving a soft "meow" to remind me to continue. We sat there for several hours. So long, in fact, that I didn't realize until it was well past midnight.
When I finally decided it was bedtime, I tried moving my legs to wake him. He wouldn't move. His breathing was very shallow, and he was unresponsive. I knew, somehow, that the end was near. Less than an hour later, it was over.
I can definitely say that it was painful to lose him, and I'm certain that the memories will provoke tears from time to time, but I do not look back with regret. He spent his first moments of life with me, as well as his last. He was born into my arms, and he died there. I cannot imagine a better farewell. It was as if that was all he needed to say goodbye.
To those of you that are thinking, "It was only a cat.", think about this. A pet only wants ONE thing from you. That thing is love. It NEEDS food, water, shelter, and a clean place to do its business, but the only thing it wants, is your affection. It's not going to ask you for money, or to borrow the car, promising to bring it back. The only thing a pet wants is for you to show how much you care.
I can proudly say that I loved my cat, more than I would be able to explain to anyone. I rarely passed up the chance to show him.
It could've been different for me, but I knew what I had, and that someday it would be gone. I could've come home and found his lifeless body. Instead, I had the chance to send him on his way with the one thing that I never denied him.
Love.
To all, I say this. Don't wait to show your loved ones how much you care. Your next chance may be the last one you'll ever get. Make each one count.
It is true. You don't know what you've got until it's gone.
GLC
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Posted:Nov 29, 2008 10:17 pm
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius"? #8
Today, I salute you, Ms. I Don't Have Any Friends
This week's post is actually one of a sadder tone, because too often I encounter people who actually think they are alone in this world. Just because they don't feel comfortable enough with someone to be able to spill their heart to, they don't consider them a friend.
Well, I met someone like that recently, and my kindness toward her struck a nerve. She told me that she trusts me, yet she cannot explain why. She also added that she has absolutely no friends, meaning no one she trusts.
Her and James Bond 007 would get along great.
My advice to her is this. Redefine your definition of friend. Anyone you don't consider an enemy, you could very well consider a friend. It doesn't mean you have to tell them your life story or lend them money, nor does it mean that all your secrets will be entrusted to them. It means that they are on your side.
Trust is hard-wired into your system. You know right away if you meet someone with bad intentions. The problem nowadays is that too many people ignore their first impression of someone, and allow (yes, I said ALLOW) themselves to be deceived.
Now, the worst part of this is that there is a staggering percentage of people out there who second guess their decisions on a regular basis. They have little or no confidence, usually stemming from a lack of self-esteem. Those are the ones who have the INTENTION of keeping their word, but break the bond of trust by not following through.
Take, for instance, the semi-handsome guy who manages, by some miracle (in his mind) to get the number of a very attractive woman. Of course, the conversation ends with "I'll call you.", but the guy waits at home, while convincing himself that he's doesn't have a chance with her. One day goes by. Two days. Three. Meanwhile, the woman is expecting the call, saying to herself, "I knew he wasn't going to call." Of course, he never finds the courage to do so.
Here's the kicker. She WANTED him to call her, and he WANTED to make the call. The problem is that the guy second guessed himself, creating a situation in which HE was the untrustworthy one. If encountered again by the woman, surely she would accuse him of being a liar, when his every intention was to pick up the phone to talk to her. He didn't say to her, "I'll call you." without ever planning to do so.
Confidence is so scarce these days, that when it is found, it is too often confused with arrogance. Arrogant men are perceived as heartless, conceited jerks, and assertive women are seen as bitchy.
So, where's the incentive to be trustworthy? Self-esteem, that's what. A trustworthy person is usually a confident person. They will tell you the truth because they aren't concerned with your opinion of them. They stand their ground on their beliefs, yet do not waste a second trying to convince others to agree. They don't argue, they discuss. They don't debate, they present. That's it. Here I am, take me or leave me.
A few years ago, I met one of the best friends I have today. She, at first, was very rude and bitchy to me, and because of my confidence, still often jokingly calls me an arrogant -of-a-bitch. But, I knew that her rudeness and attitude was simply a mechanism to weed out the men from the boys, and sooner or later her true personality would shine through. I'm glad to say that she did show a better side of herself, and that I'm proud to call her a friend.
To consider someone a friend, they don't have to know everything there is about you. They just need to know your name. That's why, whenever I go out, I say hello to people I see. Whether it's the 27 year-old waitress at a restaurant, or the 89 year-old greeter at Wal Mart, I introduce myself, shake their hand, and after finding out their names( either by asking, or by looking at their name tag), I say their name back to them. It makes people feel connected, which we all are.
We're all in this together. The world isn't playing the divide and conquer game, nor is it playing favorites. No one is better than anyone else, nor does anyone NOT deserve to have a friend.
A wise man once said...
When divided we stand, united we fall.
GLC
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