Resolving Issues
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Posted:May 3, 2015 7:42 pm
Last Updated:Aug 8, 2015 5:57 pm
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Sometimes a relationship becomes lopsided. One person feels different than the other, or one sees a future the other doesn't. Yet there can also the feeling that the other party isn't really on a different page, but is holding back, is being overly cautious, and at the same time is very much aligned with your own feelings.
It is most unfortunate that when this point is reached as it often leads to the demise of an otherwise outstanding relationship. Resentment, misunderstandings, jealousy, fear - there are a thousand things that go through the mind. And it can lead to the relationship ending prematurely or unnecessarily.
I was beginning to go to that place. Not that I was ready to end it, but the liberal nature of our relationship had lead it to an emotional confusion and frustration. I must add it is a fabulous relationship and I absolutely adore this woman - I was not close to walking away from her. But we had agreed upon being in an "open" relationship where we could see others providing we altered the other first. Neither of us has done so over the course of a year. But I was much more committed through my bio and blog than she; that is to say, I was quite openly involved with only her. And she is in regular communication with other guys who all have the same goal in mind.
This weekend, we talked about this. That has been the difference in this and any other relationship I've been in. We talk. Really talk. Because of what she has been though, I've been more receptive to her testing the field, seeing what is out there. After all, if I was right and the right one, I would shine through the others. But this has gone on and on and has been more of a strain on me.
She more or less made it clear today, publicly, that we are together. We're a pair. We're a couple. While this has occurred in social media recently, it hadn't happened here, which was truly the place to me it had to happen. And it did.
I am grateful.
If you are serious about someone, if you think they are the person you've been looking for your whole life - even if they are different than you expected you'd ever find - talk. Talk openly, honestly, uncomfortably. Say what you have to say coming from your heart. Not through aggravation, frustration or anger. Patience and understanding will trump anger and bitterness every time. But talk.
Talk.
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Not looking?
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Posted:Mar 2, 2015 2:19 pm
Last Updated:Aug 8, 2015 5:58 pm
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You might be surprised at the number of people who have contacted me asking why I'm here if I'm not looking, or why I'm not looking.
I'm here for entertainment, an occasional voyeuristic look into what others are doing. And I'm not sufficiently frustrated with my job and life so I can always count on HotMatch.com to fulfill any missing technical frustration in my life.
I'm not looking because I have found someone to which no others could possibly compare.
It's not complicated.
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What's With Not Wanting To Send a Face Pic?
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Posted:Nov 7, 2013 1:32 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2014 10:26 am
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In the last two weeks, I have communicated with 3 people who have all expressed desire to meet for coffee but refuse to send a face pic. It's always the same reason - I'm well known in the community blah blah.
I am, too, but if I'm asked for a face pic, I send one.
Is this a universal red flag that marks those who are just talking with no intention of acting?
So confused...
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A No Show
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Posted:Oct 8, 2013 1:47 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2014 10:26 am
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I had arranged to meet a woman at a specific public place and at a specific time. I left after she didn't show within an hour. She since has written saying she got delayed, but she had my cell number and didn't call.
She wants to set another time to meet at the same place.
I've been played on this site before, and I don't like it. I wonder if this woman intends to meet or if she is having second thoughts at the last minute. My gut tells me it's the later.
Suggestions?
Chuck
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