Search for the Hero Inside Yourself
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Posted:Dec 15, 2008 2:39 am
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2009 10:22 am
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I barely noticed 2008...It was only in October did I first notice it as I lifted my weary head above the parapet..
Its been one fuck of a year! No summer to speak of (again)...
Collapsed house equity and collapsed investments...Soaring credit costs for mortgages in the spring ...my livelihood took a nosedive...My ex cut his support substantially again....My mothers health has deteriorated ...A female friend died of cancer at 45...I had a fire in the house...Someone provided me with his love and support for 9 months and then withdrew it callously ...Continual unsolicited female hostility towards me on this site...The whole year was absorbed by the stress related to my sons transfer to secondary school...the realisation thats its unlikely I will ever be able to find a boyfriend... ever again...so the optimism that has driven my life for the last 3 years has been eroded...
Just for the sake of balance...On the positive side...
*** I managed to get out most Saturday nights to party and dance...discovered Im a bit of a party animal!!
*** I met some great men and made some friends whose help is immeasurable to me
*** I had some sex
*** I conquered my fear of the M25 and motorway driving...so I could go out and party..
*** My started at grammar school earned a commendment for his all round academic performance and won an art competition in his first term...Go boy go...Everything to play for now!!
*** We adopted a beautiful ginger mouser tom cat who is a continual ray of sunshine and lavishes us with his love!
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GILFS....
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Posted:Dec 12, 2008 3:12 am
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2009 1:52 am
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Very very rarely do you come across a piece of information in life that one can perceive has the power to create a new social status quo and is contrary to popular or current belief....When and if you are lucky enough to come across one then its WOW WOW WOW time...
The most significant and empowering knowledge I have come across in years is this: Women in their fifties and sixties no matter what their physical condition can and do have sex with any number of fit, young black Adonis, rippling with 6 packs, handsome, gorgeous, educated, professional black males and in their twenties and thirties....The epitome of male physical perfection infact...
Now from an ordinary female point of view I would never have thought these two extremes of physicality would be attracted??? Its a jaw-dropping phenomenum when you publicly witness this at swinging clubs...The women, to put it diplomatically are usually of a type who some would consider to "have let themselves go"...Generally falling into the size 18 to 30+ size bracket...Its an astonishing sight to see 5 ripped young black men gangbanging a Rubenesque granny...From the male point of view pussy is pussy...But the implications are huge for all women in this age range...
I am bisexual so I reserve the right to comment on female physicality...without being lynched!! I come from the Fat is a Feminist Issue generation...and I understand what a sensitive issue size has become...I am not commenting in this blog on womens size issues I am here to talk about what a radical phenomenum I have witnessed and one in which could change the lives of women in their fifties and sixties forever...They would be queuing up and down the road and round the block to be fucked by men like these...infact any women of any age group would!!!!!!!!! The men are hot, horny, pin up quality and seemingly unaware of their physical desirability and status...Black men can be curiously innocent about their own physical impact and demonstrate an ingenuinity about their physical selves...even tho they work out continuously!!
We live in a society so rigidly ageist, sizeist and anally inflexible in its understanding of sexual and emotional attraction that this particular information is potentially explosive...along with the spread of swinging to married couples which will change our society once it becomes mainstream...
Women in this age bracket 50 to 60 are no longer considered in general society to be sexually attractive...although a few celebrities are changing things slowly ...Each decade I have lived has seen womens sexual attractiveness pushed back further and further...It was only in the recent past that women when they reached their forties were no longer thought as sexy and became invisible...and relegated to the shelf...now the 40s are the new 30s...
This is a sexual niche that few women have discovered...and those who have are smiling permanently...lapping up as much cream as possible...these women would never have dreamed to be able to attract men of this type ever...Women of this age group disappear off the sexual radar in society at large...
As the population grows larger, en masse, the social stereotypes are having to change as a result...Size 16 is becoming the average so all sizes are being reappraised ...which is all for the good...One day women may release themselves and be released from the physical rigours and torment they place themselves under to be smaller...
I know for a fact that having discovered this sexual niche many of the women have been able to raise their self esteem, revise their own body images and love their bodies for the first time for some and come to terms with their own bodies...They have been the lucky and brave few...
I personally am thrilled to have this revolutionary sexual knowledge because no matter what happens in my future, if I dont find a partner, no matter my age or physical degeneration I wont have to be celibate or physically lonely ever again and I can have sex with the most sexually and physically perfect embodiments of masculinity...OH YES thats empowerment!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I shall be logging on at 70 and fucking 30 years olds....Big Grin time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hes Behind You!!!!
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Posted:Dec 8, 2008 2:38 am
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2008 4:37 am
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One of my favourite positions and pantomime moments!
I love to laugh...you may have noticed in my literary offerings here that theres a strong vein running through them of humour and irony...I hope you enjoyed that..IF you did then you may like to know me in person...GET IN TOUCH...cos Im actually like that in real life...I laugh and smile almost continuously even alone...I entertain myself..Ive learned to as Ive been single for a decade...I am always looking for humourous funny men...there are so many serious ones...cos I dont like to laugh at my own humour as much as that of others ...
Tis the season to be jolly! I thought id take this opportunity to wish all my favourite characters a VERY MERRY AND SEXY CHRISTMAS... and as Im going to be part retiring from the pantomime after 2 years of continual fun and games after Christmas...a bit of a sadness mixed in for me...as I go away with my stockings well filled but empty handed...Santa never brings me the only present I want... more than anything in the world...
Every site seems to have its lifespan and Im not finding the men I fancy coming forward anymore here...Ive run out of them!! I have been a busy industrious woman...Ive done well here to meet the lovely guys Ive met cos they probably fall into 1% of the male population anyway...My tastes in men are very particular...I am an unusual woman, im told, in many ways and different in a very good way...Ive become even more discerning by being on the site...I now know exactly the profile of the type of man I fancy and am seeking for a Boyfriend...but can I find one???? No.....
So probably back to a few dating sites next year...armed with some very important experience and knowledge...
Well the pantomime is almost over for me...Its been a blast...
Ive pushed my own boundaries way beyond my wildest dreams ever, I had no idea any of this existed and ive rediscovered myself, renovated myself and finished some growing up as a woman...
Ive moved over to the darkside...Now I know what vanilla and chocolate means!! Had group sex which is absolutely a must...Become Bisexual...Been to the best parties of my life and met the most broadminded confident warm and sexy people ever...Ive danced everyday and kept my dream of a boyfriend alive in my heart by harnessing my own passion and energy and acting upon it...Ive come to realise the importance of sex in my life and ive given it the priority it should always assume in future...Keep young and beautiful and sexual if you want to be loved!...
Ive been likened to Alice in Wonderland and Puss in Boots...Ive been Cinderella more times than i care to mention on this site cos men string women along and let you down at the last minute and its been a continual problem with finding a reliable date on a Saturday night to go out with...the Ugly Sisters have been working away in the background of my site life to try to put off any men who showed any interest in me ...women! Infamy infamy theyve got it in for me!! I have felt like I was in Jack and the Beanstalk when a 6ft 8" friend of mine scaled a ladder to climb in through his 2nd floor flat kitchen fanlight...to save the date..omg...I was in a production of Snow White and the seven dwarves this year at one of the swinging venues i went to as the dwarves were dancing all around us...we practically decapitated a few...
I am just like my namesake..Maid Marion...I have a lot in common with her...passionate, feisty, principled and romantic...I can see that and Im looking far and wide for my Robin Hood...good looking man with big heart wanted!
So thankyous to: In no particular order...
Guy, Si, Paul, Henry, Ben, Carl, David, Roberto, Joe, Robert, Ton, Paul, Manni, Drew, Ben, Obi, Tony, Jake, Gary, Lloyd, David, Jason, Rob, Edward, L, D and T and my best friend B....who has always looked out for me on and off the site...
Mari xxx
I have a few more blogs to write before I go and Im always looking for dates...sexual and non sexual...
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Friends n Lovers....
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Posted:Dec 5, 2008 3:00 am
Last Updated:Mar 10, 2009 8:06 am
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I had some warm, cosy, caring sex yesterday...Love it, love it, love it. We met 16 months ago and it had been distinctively different to others on the site from the start...one of those natural friendships with great mutual understanding...He never held his feelings back perhaps cos hes a Dane..Ive no idea..and he always called me my sweetest Marianne and there was no doubt he meant it...we emailed a lot at the beginning and had established a mutual regard...In the interim we have remained in touch intermittently..I have never had a moments doubt as to how much he likes me as a person and vice versa...When we met yesterday it was like no time had elapsed and we got on alike a house on fire...He pays attention to making sure all the elements of the date are just right...the chat, the lunch, GREAT risotto, our communications have warmth and humour, some photography and some lovely sex...he knows how to pleasure a woman in all departments...hes not someone moving through a queue of women and that is actually reflected in the depth of interest he shows and translated into the sex...
It was great to be reunited again and just what I needed to lift my spirits as Iam working through a difficulty...I am on the one hand trying to move away and avoid casual meaningless sex with faceless men, ubiquitous on the site, who dont impact on my life in general...I dont have the time or energy as a single parent and lone woman to dedicate myself to anything which doesnt considerably enhance my life experience and hopefully future ....and on the other hand I am reeling from an unfortunate attachment, I permitted to happen against my better judgement...Shon crept under the wire of my well guarded emotional defenses which I have kept firmly in place for many years, as I have a to consider...I cant do the emotional rollercoaster of futile romantic involvements...and its left me feeling empty and exposed...
I like going to parties where the atmosphere, social side, dressing up, dancing, flirting and casual meaningless anonymous sex is part and parcel of the whole experience and for me thats a good nite out...One of the reasons Ive been on this site is for the social connections, friendships and Saturday nights out...and I couldnt find a white man over 30 to take me dancing!!
Well with my good friend yesterday I noticed several things that dont happen with casual sex with people you dont know very well...I could relax quicker and deeper into my sexuality, give myself more freely to the experience and the man, cos I know he cares, admires, respects and feels close to me as a person. I came harder, better, louder and more easily because all those facets had been established previously...I felt no pressures to perform and I wasnt wondering about his enjoyment level of me which does happen with those men who are more active in the swinging scene...I was in no doubt how much he enjoys me as a person, woman, sex partner...He is very vocal during sex, which is unusual but great cos the noises are like a continual dialogue and they filter through as muffled sounds to my brain when in an orgasmic plateau....I like that level of vocal direction and feedback...He also does something I particularly like and i dont think many of my lovers have done... as oral is still a work in progress for many men regardless of what they actually say in their profiles... which is lick my clit until totally sopping wet and then play with it manually and with his tongue at the same time when its really wet so it can be directly touched...that sent me completely over the edge...mmmmmmmmmmmm
The sex for us was like the extra frosting on an already well iced cake!!
Yes I can categorically say we are Friends n Lovers...and its possible with great friendship to get the two balanced..
However if the communication is skewed by one party not being completely honest and upfront then unfortunately the relationships can go terribly wrong... S persued a very close friendship with me over 9 months...he made it clear he wanted to be emotionally close to me...and I resisted his daily dedicated attention for a good 4 months...Well done me!! Lesser women would have caved in much earlier..He chased me, befriended me and made himself indispensible to me in every way...He made me his top priority...I did well under those conditions to resist for so long..I also issued cautions to him as I am very straightforward, perhaps some space may be advisable, to be in less touch and to speak less I suggested and for him to take care and not mess with my affections...I told him that I was getting attached...he reassured me over and over everything was going to be fine for us and not to worry...He wanted to be Friends n Lovers...He was very much mistaken in this approach cos he asked for an emotional involvement from me cos HE needed to feel closer to someone than have the meaningless NSA sex thats on offer on the site normally....in reality it was a means to an end, he was looking for a swinging companion who he could rely on and someone emotionally attached to him in between his increasing interest in swinging...cake and eat it syndrome! So when we met for sex even tho we knew everything about each other and fancied the pants off each other I didnt have relaxed sexual responses to him as my emotions were already on high alert and I was not being reassured by his towards me...I didnt trust him...by that point...and he had created a situation where I had a lot invested...which scared me...
So is it possible to be Friends n Lovers?...well yes if you get the communication clear and honest from the outset, keep the balance right, and dont mix a vanilla romantic approach with a swinging outcome!!
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Not only currency suffers from devaluation...
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Posted:Dec 3, 2008 6:58 am
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2008 5:05 am
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Yes pussy does too!!
After money i would say that pussy is the most desired object for men in Western civilization...Could be the other way round for some males..
DISCLAIMER: NOT APPLICABLE TO ALL MEN...
Here is a site full of pussy...given up freely and without strings attached...this is a male lifelongdream come true!! Its a sexual wonderland and a totally new phenomenon in our sexual culture...pussy men dont have any responsibility towards, dont have to pretend to have any towards, dont have to do much to get, can discard and get as many as they want really easily, have as many sexual partners simultaneously and legitimately as they want for the first time in our recent history nor have to pay for...and I wonder why I cant find a BF????????? I think monogamy may be on its last legs...
You can dress up the friendships established on the site but the bottom line for men is getting the pussy attached...It took a while for me to understand this fact...probably cos I am an ordinary nice middle class educated woman, not naive about sex and men tho as I was very promiscuous in my teens and early twenties...and far too nice Im told for a sex site...and Ive spent thousands of hours over two years selecting, chatting to my chosen sexual partners with a view to establishing the foundations of friendship first..providing both of us with a depth of sexual chemistry for good sex and ensuring they are as discerning, maintaining their own sexual standards in their sexual choices, as I am!! Lol...just get the pussy out!!
I think men and women dont speak the same sexual language!!!!! And subsequently men dress it all up in female terms to entice them to give up their pussy to them....If men said Heres my cock ..Give me a fuck then I wonder just how many women would actually want that in those terms??.....
I know many women on this site dont even want cock shots sent to them....And write all over their profiles to that effect...Why would we be interested in your face if it was only your cock we were interested in??? Just as the men are not that interested in the womens faces only the pussy...See the contradictions!
Obviously I am aware that some men do on occasion lie (lol) to get sex but I thought in vanilla land it was only those who couldnt get any pussy who resorted to that...I didnt know that fit goodlooking single completely-fuckable men also think they have to...weirdddddddd
Then the men I had spent time getting to know disappeared off the face of the earth as if they had been transported to Mars...and I didnt understand why that should be when we had become friends...I felt disappointed at that point..it took a few months on this site and several cases of missing persons to realise that they were probably married, attached to girlfriends and cheating on someone so they had to disappear....
I interpreted NSA as no emotional strings attached ie serious relationships, not absolutely no strings of any kind attached including friendship or ongoing acquaintance.....or even speaking to me again. For me one of the cardinal sins is not calling a woman (and texting wont cut it) after youve had sex with her...thats common courtesy cos you have had an important part of your body inside that person...and presumably shared some sexual moments!!...with another human being...thats respect!
Ive also come to realise a few other facts about pussy...It becomes devalued in male minds once it has been fucked automatically less attractive if already experienced and new pussy is always highly sought after...
Males will say anything and probably do anything to get pussy...bit of a male weakness there I would say...
This site provides free access to as much pussy as a man can manage and no financial outlay attached..not even a date or dinner is offered...they all want to come round to your house for a meal which you cook for them and enjoy your hospitality...financially probably the woman is out of pocket on that deal...
One of the top male fantasies is NSA sex with a stranger or with a strong sexually assertive female is constantly relived here...
New pussy is always coveted and exciting...other mens womens pussy is even more desirable and interesting..an added piquancy to fucking someone else woman legitimately. Single female pussy has risk attached...apparently Im told 2 or 3 fucks if she is any good maximum and then run before the woman starts to get attached...
Men dont actually believe sex gets better with frequency, they only pay lip service to that idea cos women say it all the time, no one off shags wanted...and the men just go along with it..like anything the women say....then they have one off shags...and propell the women to search for more sexual partners...
I think when the penny finally dropped with me was when I realised that it doesnt matter to some men (not saying all men in any of this blog by the way) what the person attached to the pussy is like...there are men who couldnt care less what the woman looks like, what she is like as person, what size, age, nor any other details about her...irrelevant who the person is...and horrifyingly in some cases, of no concern what they look like...im told beauty is inside...obviously the men who say this mean inside the womans pussy!!... theres a male expression..."You dont look at the mantlepiece when stoking the fire"...
The most relevant fact for a male is that pussy is offered freely...thats the only worth of the woman...
Pussy is pussy...
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Dream ...
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Posted:Dec 2, 2008 2:31 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2008 5:01 am
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I had an extremely vivid dream last night...the type of dream that stays with you when you awake and into the morning...intoxicatingly seductive...
Incredible for several reasons...so real and detailed I was totally conviced i was there when i awoke, every sense of mine was absorbed, I never have very visual or memorable dreams anymore and as for the location of the dream, I have never been there in real life but I had visited it in a dream several months previously...
It took place in a house which stood alone in the centre of a sandy promontary in the middle of a large sandy sea bay and estuary with water in a 180 degree panorama...The house was a type of modernistic, white Art Deco style building...I had just bought the house with a partner who was unknown to me in the dream...the house needed total revamping, i remember the imitation brown veneer panels in all the rooms...It was a semi-detached with a large white concrete balcony around the upper level...We walked through each of the rooms and discussed needing new double glazed windows cos the weather would be fierce close to the sea...I felt the different temperatures of the rooms as I walked through..the previous occupant had emptied the house except for one room...I found a black silk dress size 44 on the bust and tiny on the hips...I tried it on and it surprisingly fitted...as soon as I had it on it changed to a patterned dress...The neighbour had a very strange washing line.. It was up a massive ladder in the middle of the sandy beach in front of the house...She had to scale the ladder to reach the washing...The sandy bay, the sea, the weather all were very striking and tangible...I felt the power of nature there and the danger of it also...I was worried about flooding...Then I was in a car with the female neighbour and another unknown woman, she said she was a homosexual and asked about our sexuality...I said I was bi and the other woman said she was too...
And then I woke up....
Let me know if you recognise the house and location!
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21st Century Marriage Therapy???
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Posted:Nov 27, 2008 4:10 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2009 5:45 am
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Is it just me or does anyone else think its a bit odd that white men are actively offering up their wives for sexual servicing by other men and especially to black men...
Is this just another aspect of increasing white male emasculation? A gesture of marital desperation? A type of marital sex therapy? An acknowledgement of the husbands sexual impotence? A misplaced generosity? Another aspect of white male sexual confusion? A subservient streak sexually or in life? Or just downright foolishness? Perhaps all of those apply and more!! Does the white male enjoy being a cuckold??
I fear my white brothers are going down a slippery slope of
identity confusion...and my black brothers waste no time in exploiting their befuddled thinking and fill the gap LARGE..
I say white males cos Im well informed that the vast majority of black males would NEVER offer their women to another man for sex...and they
cannot understand how white men can do that despite themselves actually going along and fucking their wives...hypocritical but sex is on offer...it actually has been said to me that they find it all rather SAD...Other guys have said that they now detest that type of sex having cuckolded many white men as they felt considered as little more than a black dildo...and a racial element can underpin it all with black cock being more illicit for them than white...and the bottom line being.. they want black men to fuck their wives but how about marrying their daughters??...
I can understand the appeal of all group sex...I can see how FFM would appeal to husbands introducing another female in a safe environment into their bed especially if his wife is bicurious or bisexual...I can see the appeal of MFMF all parties being equal...
Is not MMF where one man offers his wife to another for servicing just an admission of not being able to do the job fully himself anymore, an act to keep the woman from straying as they no longer can find sexual satisfaction as a couple together or a lack of sexual interest together anymore...after a few years sex in relationships can and does get boring, predictable and uninteresting...couples often come to the stage when they still like each other, dont wish to break up a family but have no sexual interest in each other anymore...they become like brother and sister so they then search around for answers...
Men being men the husband then thinks, well I need to fix this situation so my wife will stay with me...He may feel a sense of deep guilt cos he cant satisfy his wife sexually anymore which is a great blow to a male...Practical as ever, he then will get in another male to do the job ...If you have a leaky tap you get in a plumber to fix it.. If you have a wife who you cant make orgasm anymore you get in a stud... The difference being you usually have to pay through the nose for a plumber tho! The stud is giving his services for free!!! The husband of course will get some deferred benefits from this new sexual arrangement...he gets to organise the sex himself with the stud, he gets to watch or participate in a group, he gets to have dp and spit roast practised on his wife, he gets to see another man fuck his woman...he gets to control and direct, he fulfills his wifes sexual fantasies indirectly, he often just watches passively in the corner, playing with himself, takes photos or film, and even just cook some food and serve it to the stud and wife afterwards ...and of course the main benefit will be that his wife will be absolutely delighted by his new endeavour...
Its a major psychological step for one male to give his woman to another male and I believe has a deeper significance to the female...
Fundamental to how relationships are initially set up is the instinctive knowledge that a woman has that her man will never let another man touch her cos he loves her so much and that the man will defend her against any other sexual advances from competing males...if the males approach he would kill them...metaphorically speaking..She respects her male for it...
Is this going to become the new 21st Century marriage therapy? It seems to provide a quick fix answer to sexual boredom in LTRs but does it work in the longrun???
I even saw an example of it on Gavin and Stacey on TV last week...one of the couples in their fifties had met a young black African man for an intended MMF...suddenly my secret life was on the screen infront of me and it felt strange to see it there but i reasoned it must be going mainstream for the writers to include it in the comedy...altho it was meant to be absurd and comical!!
If I was a sexually and emotionally bored married woman (happy memories!)and as a good friend of mine said, after 20 years of marriage, he was aware that "virtually any man other than himself could make his wife orgasm" then I would think all my blessings and Christmas's had come at once if my husband came up with the idea of introducing a fit, hung, young, virile, sexually explosive, totally insatiable fun handsome black man with a cock the size of a log, the likes of which most white women who have sexually limited experience would never have seen before, let alone fucked! I would just say "well husband that seems like a very good idea of yours ...Ill give it a go but only if you are sure!" But secretly be absolutely over the moon!!
Infact Im told that the women do pretend to their husbands about the extent to which they enjoy the sex with black men so as not to upset their husbands...the wives also get obsessively needy for the men who satisfy them sexually and give rise to emotional desires aswell ...understandably so...
As a white woman I now crave black cock and more specifically the love and sex of black men, having experienced it...so I understand...
You could have a very good non sexual or an inadequately sexual relationship with your husband but the man who gives you the most sexual satisfaction beyond your wildest desires and dreams will be the one who rocks your world and who you will never wish to be without....beware husbands!! You are playing with fire!! Black sex is incomparable to white sex...You are not dealing like with like ...Once youve gone black, youll never go back....Oh so true...
Couples I am told go to great lengths to secure their black studs...Favours are offered, invitations to dinner, paying for all the hotel costs, making them a 'friend' of the couple, part of the family, the males become buddies, and even holidays and menage a trois occur....I was even told that a particularly subservient white male insisted on cleaning my black friends windscreen cos a bird had pooed on it...So obsequious behaviour is quite common cos the black male is so important to the couple...I dont think black males have acknowledged yet the significance and importance of their services to couples...they are offering freely much more than just sex...The need is greatest on the couples part...The stud is also there to provide marriage enhancement or marriage repair services...
Often the white males Im told are also subservient as personalities to their wives. Their satisfaction is in purely watching a more dominant male, epitomised often in the figure of a strong black male, fuck his wife...to be cuckolded..Some even lick up the black mans cum after he has finished...
At the interracial parties I go to, the white males just accompany their wives for sexual servicing by bbc...They are invisible like white sexual ghosts...I avert my eyes cos frankly I find it a sorry sight for white men to be emasculated like this...
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Lets get Real....
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Posted:Nov 25, 2008 4:29 am
Last Updated:Nov 27, 2008 1:50 am
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Oh heck now this is a pickle!! A fellow male blogger highlighted a few issues regarding men and this site...incidentally the same topics which men i know from the site have also commented to me about:
..."Sex sites are 4 sex"...true, but not exclusively, cos they are also for people who enjoy all types of social, sexual and partying contacts...out of which the dreaded word...'relationships' do form
and Ive met enough people from this site to know that many people do link up for emotionally based relationships as a result of a casual sexual meeting...infact I would go so far to say that the slightly larger proportion of those Ive met socially over the past 2 years, who were in reality single, actually do find some form of shorter/longer term relationships ..I have even met people who have now married..fact is that when people meet for sex they like each other...and cut through the preliminaries...and physical intimacy can as we all know lead to emotional based intimacy...
So I can see no ambiguity in sex sites being used for dating and sex...Im a firm believer in using what is on offer in your own way to meet your own needs and not fitting into the prescribed pattern of expectation...its incredible what you find when you step outside of the box!!
Another misconception is: "That you are more likely to find a longer term partner on a site marketed for Dating"....even tho men acknowledge that the dating sites are just glorified sex sites for them...you may have to date twice before the sex!! And Ive been told that the dating sites are actually richer hunting grounds for sex than the sex sites...
Well I started my internet male search for a boyfriend on Dating Direct 2 and a half years ago ...and it was an eye opener...At that point the site was free to women but later on I had to pay to contact males...
Not only did I find the thousands of men i browsed not physically attractive and struggled to choose any to approach, I thought there must be some mistake...how could the male population of Britain between the ages of 35 and 45 look like this?..I was concerned ...I then looked at Match in an attempt to find others and found none I wished to approach there and then I looked at a third major site and found absolutely none there either....I was getting very frustrated and worried by this point...and wondered what was I to do?...I then managed to find a dozen men to shortlist on Dating Direct and some men in their early thirties wouldnt even contemplate me...cos in dating terms men are very age conscious..I was inundated with mails from men much older than myself who not only didnt fit my age requirements but also were unfortunately not at all physically attractive to me...some just a few years older than me in age actually could have passed for my grandfather!
So it wasnt the panacea it promised to be...I had been single for 8 years prior to coming onto the internet...
Perhaps at this point I must make clear that I had been living in Italy for several years as a younger woman...I actually have Latino type looks myself and I was traditionally attracted to those men who are tall, dark hair, dark brown eyes and fit bodies....spoiled by my past I know......
I also consider appearance, especially in a visual medium like the internet, to be of great importance...not paramount by any means but easy on the eye is essential to me... first impressions do count...basically when looking at mens photos I just ask myself do I fancy him?? So a face pic with eyes visible is pretty important!!The second question, is he the type of person I would wish to meet, so personal details are essential and has he an appealing personality...which becomes clear from emails and chatting on the phone...I use the same parameters for this site...
So of the dozen men I spent time getting to know I dated 6 of them and found three very good friends who remain my friends to this day..And lovely dear friends they have been to me...
But I would say from my experience on dating sites a significant proportion would be men who come with various levels of personal problems... their confidence naturally enough has been quashed aswell...usually related to their previous relationship breakdowns...as they join the dating sites as soon as they fall out from their relationships...but with no clear direction in mind...engulfing personal problems do not facilitate new relationships...
I then wandered one day onto passion.com....and found a whole brave new world...
Where men look like phoooaaarrrr and some young men dont care what age, shape, size or looks their sex is packaged in...from 18 to 80, theres someone to fuck you if you are female...Where men believe that a picture of their cocks will get them a fuck (ho ho ho)and everyone is much more honest in their sexual needs (except for the timewasters, fantasists, married men cheating on their wives, men posing as women on their profiles and people using old photos of course) and men are on here for sex predominently (but not exclusively) and women are on here for sex predominently (but not exclusively)...a parity between the sexes exists, I believe here in that contract of honesty in their intentions...
Although I must address one other issue...Some men on the site still hold double standards in their sexual assessments of women...and it comes forth in this particular statement that Ive heard on several occasions that "No Male on a sex site is interested in an LTR with a female that he met on a sex site."..excuse me, why on earth not, when the male himself is on a sex site???? Should a woman not be interested in a male cos hes been on a sex site or sexually promiscuous?...In which case that would exclude a few men!!
Personally I think that sexual and emotional honesty is a high recommendation for establishing a close intimate longer term relationship with a highly sexed, tried and tested partner and one who you can reach great sexual heights with you ...the probability of finding sexual compatibility and ensuring a continuing sexual relationship greater than with someone who hasnt had this wonderful sexual enlightenment and less sexual experience....I am always hearing woefull stories from men about the number of women who STILL dont know how to do a BJ properly (perhaps I should take the bull by the horns, so to speak, and blog on the perfect BJ?) or with conviction or who lie there and do nothing during sex....
I am here to find a man who has become a great lover...and experience does make for great lovers...Especially those who have been in LTRs...and I wouldnt consider him a poor choice because of his advanced sexual skills and techniques or if hes shagged masses of women infact I would think he chose me over and above all others cos he finds me a great lover too!! It is those people who live their lives thinking "what if?."..I had had that particular sexual experience...What if I had fulfilled my fantasies? What if I shagged another woman would she give me something extra I cant find with the ones Ive had?.... and it is those people who then are the discontent...and hanker restlessly after the forbidden fruit...if you have already gorged yourself on forbidden fruit you appreciate the bread and butter!
This site is a wonderful opportunity to hone your sexual skills...get in contact with your deeper sexuality, especially necessary for women, Id say, and make love to physically some of the most beautiful men on the planet...Oh have I been a lucky girl, and YES
i can have NSA sex and simultaneoulsy YES i am looking for a BOYFRIEND aswell!!!! No contradictions at all...once the BF appears of course all the NSA goes out the window...its just a temporary stop gap! You cant build a future on NSA sex....
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Witch ???? ...Nigeria
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Posted:Nov 18, 2008 2:00 am
Last Updated:Nov 18, 2008 2:18 am
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Halloween just been. Our go out to play trick or treat, dress up as witches, go to parties...have a laugh. They are lucky...
I watched Dispatches last week with true horror...Very young , as young as 3 months old are being branded as witches and wizards in Nigeria by their Christian preachers, communities and families to put the blame on someone to explain seemingly 'inexplicable' events such as a sudden death in the family or disease or misfortune. The whole community then colludes and the witch are imprisoned, starved, shackled in chains, tortured, beaten until a confession is extracted from the and then killed...or banished from the village forever...
Total barbarism and its occurring commonly in Nigeria, 12th largest oil producer in the world and I believe one of the richest countries in Africa with a very well educated middle class and this is permitted to occur because of the belief in the supernatural and these are mentally traumatised and die because of it...
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Pornostyle ....
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Posted:Nov 7, 2008 4:31 am
Last Updated:Nov 10, 2008 6:54 am
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I am no sex freak and no nympho...sorry to disappoint...I am an ordinary woman with a healthy sexual appetite linked to a joie de vivre, a love of men, an explorative nature and a belief that pleasure is an important part of our physical and emotional well being...
I dont do sex tricks, performances of extreme sexual activity, nor do I fuck -size dildos up my arse...I dont aspire to be fucked in every orifice with massive cocks, 2 up my pussy, one up my arse, one in my mouth and two in each hand...although I know where to get it and it would be on offer to me!! I am actually astonished some women can physically accommodate such extremes...I am obviously not physically made like that..I do enjoy group sex as you have probably noticed from my blogs ...
I have a tight juicy pussy and I am good at what I do. The sex I seek is sensual rather than testing the physical boundaries of my body...and certainly discomfort is not at all appealing...I enjoy roleplaying, dirtytalking, some kink, some domination and being tied up, exhibitionism, photos, mirrors and watching others...amongst all the usual stuff...
I dont have massive extremes of stamina tho I do enjoy long sessions of repeated sex nor can I provide endless quantities of juices by the cupfull! Like some men here seek...and I wont be "outfucking" you...I am not here to give pornostyle sexual performances to satisfy the curiosity of men to see extraordinary sexual feats which unfortunately so many men are here to witness...I dont consider sex as a marathon, a competition or an endurance race...
I would never promise multiple orgasms cos frankly its dependant on a number of factors...not least how we connect as people; how much I feel the man likes me as a person, woman, sexual partner and what sexual stimuli i receive and the mans touch and understanding of my body...
My sexuality is quality based not quantity based...and good lovers in my book definitely dont count...measure...quantify...rate and judge in comparison to other experiences...
Some men on the site are seeking women who offer something extra or freakily different from the rest and this mentality imposes an expectation which I personally dont think is a good place to start a sexual relationship with...I am an individual woman...not a performing seal or a race ...Its unrealistic on both sides to have enormous expectations of sexual nirvana on your first encounter...although it does happen occasionally! I view each encounter as a new journey, an adventure and each man as his own person...its a work in progress...I dont expect him to give me a pornostyle performance of an outstanding nature, I dont require him to demonstrate excessive degrees of stamina nor continually hard erections nor be anything other than himself as a sexual person...releasing his spiritual,fun and playful qualities and feeling his intimate self indulge itself with me....thats really the secret to good sex...
To be able to forget performance issues and anxieties, to feel so relaxed together in each others company, to play..tickling me...chasing me...wrestling gently with me...spanking me for being such a naughty girl showing all these men my pussy .... experiment...make me laugh until i collapse...tease me as a woman and I just cant get enough of you...deny me yourself and I am desperate for you...make yourself indispensable to me and take great pleasure in what I have to offer...offer me yourself as a friend and lover ....I think that just about sums it up for me...
A lot of my orgasmic abilities rely on how much I feel the man enjoys ME and my sexuality...If i feel he may be comparing me to other sexual encounters...and relates those to me as an ideal as so many guys on the site tend to, I instantly lose my erection!! or the equivalent of that as a woman...dry up possibly!!!
I do feel that so many guys on the site, lovely as it is they like to please you first and say they derive their pleasure from seeing you orgasm, actually they then EXPECT you to provide that for them...by oral and penetrative sex and they count them...an expectation based on my orgasms is set up...ie the sex wont be as satisfying for them if i dont have the required number of orgasms...this is totally inhibiting and unacceptable actually...A mans sexual success is not in my mind dependant on how many times I orgasm...my orgasms are my own responsibility...i take what i need from what is offered to me sexually and I do expect men to take that attitude aswell...My orgasmic abilities are not a measure of his sexual skills...I want men to seek their own sexual satisfaction through their own orgasms...with my help of course!! I love to please men...I love to see their orgasms...I love to know they are fulfilled by me...
Men used to be focused totally on their own sexual pleasure and worried about their performance aswell now things have been turned round to an absurd level and men have shifted the onus for their personal sexual fulfillment onto women and the womans orgasm as the proof of their sexual skills...Men reclaim your orgasms! I am happy with my own...
Happy fucking!
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Lewis, Barack and Mr November....
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Posted:Nov 3, 2008 5:36 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2008 5:09 am
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What a weekend we had!
Such filthy miserable weather but there were fireworks for me in my life and this weekend truly sorted the men from the boys...
Halloween weekend was a sensational personal time culminating with Lewis doing us all proud on the track...Keeping my fingers crossed to see similar astonishing events unravel in the next few days in the US presidential elections...the inconceivable is becoming history infront of our eyes...Wow..plus hes a democrat!
Well back to my fabulous weekend...My Mr November...phoaaarrr...
He travelled a distance to meet up, stayed the weekend, we had laughs, my pasta, excellent conversation, charming, horny, happy ray of sunshine man...no complications, no misunderstandings both of us just enjoying each other and the experience...the perfect HotMatch.com situation...God when this site turns up men like this Im one very grateful and happy woman!!
Mr November and I had decided to try a new swinging venue together....both experienced swingers we were totally cool about our possibilites together and individually...I had the best fun dressing up for Halloween wearing false eyelashes for the first time in my life, looking very Rocky Horror/witch/dominatrix meets horny devil...I painted my body and stuck silver stars all over myself...wore a bottomless little studded number with devils tail and thigh high laced leather boots...and when my date arrived in the moonless dark night through the mist and rain at my remote 'spooky' house with owls hooting in the trees I fear he may have had a moments trepidation when he saw my silhouette in full witch costume at the window to greet him! I thought hell not be able to tell what i look like for real!! Probably just a typical HotMatch.com encounter!!!! Whats more he had heard all sorts of tales and myths about how 'wicked' a witch I am from other witches on the site... A wise warlock he knew truth from fiction...and saw my inner beauty!!
We set off for our destination more than happy with our choices... as the nite went from strength to strength we liked the venue, we liked the music and dancing, we liked soaking naked in the jacuzzis and we liked each others company...the magical mystical chemistry was there between us and evident for all to admire...and desire...
We snogged and danced and snogged and danced some more...decided noone else there was of sexual interest to either of us...and felt proud and elated to be with each other...Mr November has a quality of Will Smith about his looks ....we frolicked in the jacuzzi, had a chat with some folks we knew...danced topless in our towels...and had a great time together...It was a great nite out!
Arrived home at 4.30 am to make some more magic together...and mix up some male and female potions and cast our spells...
Wizard Mr November...
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Great Sex is...........
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Posted:Oct 19, 2008 7:31 am
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2008 4:48 am
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Very individual to each person but on this site highly sought after...
Not just any sex will do here...only great sex! We are all such sex gods and godesses!!
In no particular order...For Me:
First and foremost....being in love...but in the absence of that...
A lover who can make it feel like love-making even tho you both know its a casual context...
Like a wave we rhythmically ride together...and instinctively understand all the moves...
Seeking an expression of my soul and finding it with another human being...
Being transported through orgasm to a primeval place where life began...women possibly understand this statement more than men...
Being saturated with touch and our mutual juices...
Squirting, cumming, cumming, cumming, cumming, and having a screaming orgasm...preferably synchronized with my lovers...
Knowing the person you are with fancies you deeply, appreciates how you are/look/dress/fuck and finds his fulfillment through you and within your sexuality...
Not being able to take your hands/mouth/touch off each other...
Not being able to leave each other afterwards...
Being seduced by a stranger...
When Ive played with myself at least 3 times that day thinking of him and feel his absence as an excrutiating agony...and my juices cobweb down my legs thinking of him....
Sensual encounters...outside in the sunshine...in the rain...in the sea...in a hot tub...in a public place...
When I know the bar has just been raised and leaves me with a sense of sadness cos truly excellent lovers are very hard to find, rare and precious in a lifetime.....
Marianne xxxx
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Living the Dream ...
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Posted:Oct 3, 2008 3:16 am
Last Updated:Oct 21, 2009 11:34 am
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Carry On Fucking was the alternative title! Ill explain why... The loft last Saturday night at my favourite swingers venue was jam packed ...I had led a gorgeous Nigerian man called Claudius up to the loft and we were having some very good doggy as the strokes got faster and deeper i responded fucking his cock back hard and I started to cum.. i was making my usual noises...a few seconds later I was aware that many people in the loft had stopped fucking and started to laugh, the laughter cascaded and grew louder and then the penny dropped, they were all laughing at the noises I was making!! I called out they were putting me off my stroke! But the laughter continued as i resumed fucking...So funny! The noises im told are animal like, deep and grunting I suppose...apparently David Attenbrough would find me interesting! For me, noise is synonymous with good sex, I like my male partners to make noise too, and I have always found it strange that a room at swinging clubs can be full of english people having sex and it is silent...
Anyway it was an amazing night in its entirerity and one of the very best Ive had at any swinging venue... I found so many sexual partners that night...I had sex with several individual guys and met two couples who were so beautiful and sexy ...I helped suck off a black guy with his beautiful girlfriend as he wanted two women to do that and I met a couple who i played with twice that night...He was 6ft 4 tattooed all down one shoulder and arm from French Guyana, very handsome and his girlfriend was 5ft tall petite pretty Burmese lady...we spent hours together, he was incredibly good to fuck and she was warm, attentive, loving and so sensual...it really was the most wonderful sex...we started again at 6 am...I surprised myself with my own stamina that night!! mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Roll on next month! Theres nowhere I know, where I can have as much fun and Im in my total physical, sexual and personal, female element there...Its sensational...I dress up sexily, I dance erotically, play in the jacuzzi and swimming pool, I socialise and I fuck beautiful people...god does life get any better than that???? If you know where please take me...even abroad...
Going to swinging parties and clubs definitely diffuses sex in the sense that any inhibitions, conditioning, distorted attitudes and barriers that society likes to construct around sex and subconsciously we absorb as we grow up are totally removed by seeing lots of people have sex and having it yourself...I would absolutely recommend it...It makes sex appear completely natural...as indeed it is...and natural to have it with many people....obviously safe sex and using condoms is essential..
Everyone ive met at the clubs i go to are polite, courteous and open minded people...its a very english environment where please and thankyou is practiced...I always think the english even when fucking are so so polite!! It could be a tea party!
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