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Stroke Can Happen At Any Age​
Posted:Mar 10, 2019 6:08 am
Last Updated:Mar 17, 2019 3:03 pm
No - not the kind you might be thinking of given this is a sex site.
The recent shocking death of 52-year-old Luke Perry, who starred in "Beverly Hills 90210" and "Riverdale," has many people talking about stroke risk factors and warning signs. Did you know, there are risk of stroke at any age?

From the Heart and Stroke Foundation of Canada, here's what you need to know:

What is a stroke?
A stroke is a sudden loss of brain function caused by a sudden brain blood vessel blockage (ischemic stroke) or rupture (hemorrhagic stroke). Ischemic stroke is the most common type of stroke. Stroke can happen at any age, so know the signs and know what it looks like.

Who is affected?
In Canada, about 741,800 adults aged 20+ live with the effects of a stroke (2012/13), 365,000 men and 376,800 women. One-quarter of Canadians living with stroke are under age 65 . Stroke prevalence rises sharply after age 55

What are the risks?
High blood pressure is the strongest risk factor for a stroke. Other risk factors include smoking, obesity, diabetes, high blood cholesterol, and atrial fibrillation (Afib)

How to prevent a stroke
>Keep blood pressure under control
>Maintain a healthy diet
>Be physically active
>Quit smoking

Every minute counts in a stroke emergency!
Survival and full recovery are possible if one acts… FAST

Learn the signs of a stroke
FACE - is it drooping?
ARMS - can you raise both?
SPEECH - is it slurred or jumbled?
TIME - to call 9-1-1 right away.
Act FAST because the quicker you act, the more of the person you save.

Has a friend or relative had a stroke?
Sex: Dispelling Some Myths
Posted:Mar 2, 2019 9:29 am
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2019 8:21 am

Thanks to porn, sex hook-up sites and 'urban myths', sexual misinformation can abound. Here's some factual information that may surprise you.

Women Get Erections Too
Women actually get erections in their genitals and even though they’re smaller than the male counterpart, they are just as important, says Sadie Allison, DHS, a sexologist, founder of Tickle Kitty and author of Tickle His Pickle–Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing. “The clitoris is made up of the same spongy erectile tissue as the penis, which expands and engorges with blood when aroused,” she explains. “You can observe this—just look at your clitoris or touch it when you’re aroused and it will be bigger.”

A Headache Doesn't Lessen Everyone's Mood
Contrary to the popular cliché, “Not tonight, I have a headache,” one study found that not all headache sufferers avoid sexual activity. In fact, migraine sufferers reported higher levels of sexual desire according to the research done by the Wake Forest University School of Medicine and colleagues. Why? “Our study suggests that sexual desire and migraine headaches may be influenced by the same brain chemical,” said Timothy Houle, Ph.D., lead author and research assistant professor of anesthesiology.

The Clitoris Is Way Bigger Than You Think It Is
In addition to the part of the clitoris you can see, there’s a much larger part—called the clitoral urethral vaginal complex—underneath the skin that also engorges with arousal, says Stella Harris, certified intimacy educator and sex coach and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships. When a woman is aroused, the vaginal canal also lengthens as the uterus is pulled further upward into the body, the angle often changing as well. “Not only is this fascinating, but it’s one of the reasons that waiting for full arousal means having more pleasurable sex; sex is best when your body is ready,” she says.

The G spot Exists. Except It Doesn’t.
“G spot is a misnomer, as what we consider the ‘spot’ isn’t a discrete anatomical entity. Instead, it’s an area of the urethral sponge that is highly sensitive for many people. But bodies and arousal are complex, and there’s no sure-fire technique, or even erogenous zone, that works for everyone. So basically you may have a spot you identify as the G spot—but it isn’t a spot and it won’t work the same for every woman

A Big Penis Won’t “stretch out” A Vagina
A weirdly popular myth is that having too much sex or having sex with a large partner or toy can stretch out a woman’s vagina and/or labia. The vaginal canal is a muscle and does not permanently stretch from having accommodated a large penis or toy. The vagina is incredibly resilient and bounces back quickly. Also, the shape and size of the labia are unique to each woman and are not indicative of her sexual status or history

Penis Girth Is More Important Than Length
Many men like to compare the length of their penises but the only people who really care about that number are… other men. The vagina mainly is covered in stretch mechanoreceptors, which means that girth (or width) is a more important aspect of the penis for women, on average,” explains Nicole Prause, PhD, a sexual physiology researcher at the University of California, Los Angeles, and licensed psychologist.

More Thrusting Does Not Equal More Fun
Forget what you see in porn, “pounding”, or fast, hard thrusting, doesn’t turn most women on and it can actually cause pain and injury. The most common place women experience pain during sex is in the vulvar vestibule, just under the opening to the vagina, where a thin skin stretches underneath the opening that is very vulnerable to abrasion and tearing. This is why generally women do not benefit from (or want) prolonged ‘pounding,’ which just drags the penis repeatedly across this area, creating painful friction fairly quickly.

A Cucumber Is Not A Sex Toy
Silicone, steel, Pyrex, glass, or specially laminated wood are the only materials that are actually safe for use inside your body. Toys made with vinyl, latex or a combination of these with other plastics (for example, a silicone-jelly mix) are not considered to be safe for skin contact and should only be used with a condom.

Yes, You Can Break A Penis
Getting a penile fracture is a real thing that can and does happen. It’s relatively rare but it’s worth talking about as there are things you can do to protect against this injury. The highest risk of fractures to the penis occurs when the couple changes position while the erect penis is still inside the vagina. If you are interested in changing position, fully withdraw the penis from the vagina first. Extremely aggressive pumping can also sometimes lead to a penis fracture.
*Update: Everyone knows a penis doesn’t have any bones. According to the Mayo Clinic: a penis fracture can occur when there is trauma to an erect penis. During an erection, the penis is engorged with blood. If an engorged penis is bent suddenly or forcefully, the trauma can rupture the lining of one of the two cylinders in the penis (corpus cavernosum) responsible for erections — resulting in a penis fracture. The trauma most often occurs after accidental injury during intercourse, but can also occur due to aggressive masturbation or taqaandan, a cultural practice in which the top of an erect penis is forcefully bent.

Sex Can Be Enjoyed Without Having An Orgasm
“The idea that sex must lead to orgasm can be a very damaging thought for people of all genders and sexualities as it puts undue pressure on them and can cause anxiety—the two enemies of sexual pleasure,” says Melissa Coats, a licensed professional counsellor specializing in sex therapy. “Sex is meant to be pleasurable but there are many ways to find pleasure in sexual contact without orgasm.” Taking the pressure off yourself to always climax can lead to a more relaxed and positive experience.

Any 'facts' you would like to share or myths you would like to dispel? ? Did you learn something new?
So You Think You Can Spell?
Posted:Feb 28, 2019 12:33 am
Last Updated:Mar 10, 2019 6:53 pm
I have always prided myself on being a good speller. This skill was developed at a young age through my love of reading and crossword puzzles. It's always interesting to come across words in the English language that seem like they should be spelled differently because the correct way just doesn't look right.

According to Reader's Digest, here are some of the hardest words to spell. See if you have been spelling them correctly.

With only six letters, “dilate” really shouldn’t be hard to spell, but the way people usually pronounce it can throw spellers for a loop. Many people say “dilate” as three full syllables, “di-a-late,” leading themselves and others to add in an extra “a” while spelling it. But let’s put this easy misunderstanding to rest—there’s no such word as “dialate”

With “indict” popping up as a buzzword in today’s political climate, for better or worse, many people find themselves doing a double take when they see it written out. Though the word is pronounced “indite,” it has a “c” in it! The legal term, whose first use dates back to around 1620, is a Latin variation on an earlier word that was spelled “indite.” To make things even more confusing, “indite” is actually still a word; it means to write or compose.

Nope, it’s not “mini-scule,” no matter how much logic would suggest. It bears no linguistic relation to “mini” or “miniature” but actually comes from the Latin minus, meaning “less.”

Words with double letters are already going to be confusing; knowing which letters you double in words like “necessary,” “embarrassing,” and “millennium” is no small feat. “Accommodate” in particular can be tricky to remember since it follows a different rule from “recommend,” another word where the c’s and m’s can be sources of confusion. While “recommend” only has one “c,” “accommodate” has two of both consonants. Not to mention, “accommodate”‘s second “o” doesn’t really make an “o” sound; you could certainly see an “a” or an “e” going in that spot, no problem.

“Conscious” and “conscience” are tricky enough to spell. Take the first eight letters of “conscience,” pronounce them differently, and add another “sh” sound created by different letters, and you’ve got a doozy of a word for “moral and principled.”

This is simply a word where if you know it, you know it. Looking quickly at this word, which means “comply or agree without question,” you might not think that that first “c” needs to be there; it isn’t in words like “aquatic” or “aquiver.” You may also be tempted to throw a double “s” on the end in lieu of the “sc,” or just write the “s” with no “c.”

These poor Bornean primates are the subject of much linguistic confusion. According to Merriam-Webster, their name is the amalgamation of two words in the Malay pidgin language: “orang” for “man” and “hutan” for “forest.” But many people prefer pronouncing an anglicized version that adds another “g” to the end, making the word perplexing for spellers. As if that weren’t confusing enough, some variations on the spelling hyphenate the word and/or add an “o” before the “u,” creating “orang-outan.”

There’s a reason many meat packages spell it “baloney.” The word “bologna” derives from Bologna, Italy, since a similar (but fancier) type of sausage comes from that city. If you want to mimic this fanciness, that “-gn” at the end should be pronounced with a “yuh” sound. But the Americanized, more phonetic spelling seems to better suit thin slabs of Oscar Mayer.

Did you find any surprises? Do you like to do crossword puzzles?
Sexual Fantasies of Men and Women
Posted:Feb 24, 2019 11:10 am
Last Updated:Feb 28, 2019 6:23 am
Sexual fantasies are 'normal' to have. Most adults have them and yes there are differences in what women and men fantasize about.

Brett Kahr, a British psychotherapist and author of Who’s Been Sleeping In Your Head? analyzed the sexual fantasies of more than 20,000 British and American adults. His study revealed that many people fantasize as a way to lift their spirits, and a means of exploring sexual activities they can't achieve in real life.

One stat that really stood out is that about 90 percent of adults fantasize about someone other than the person they’re having sex with and for a substantial amount of time.

Here are some other interesting findings:
>41 percent imagine sex with someone else’s partner (75 percent of people think this one trait makes you more attractive)
>39 percent think about sex with a work colleague
>25 percent (particularly men and younger people) fantasize about celebrities
>18 percent of women fantasize about sex with two or more men

A team of scientists at the University of Montreal explored some of the differences between the sexual fantasies men have compared to women. The scientists polled 1,517 adults about their sexual fantasies and published the findings in the Journal of Sexual Medicine,
>Women were found to fantasize more about having sex in a specific location or with a stranger
>Men fantasized more about anal sex and receiving oral sex.
>Both men and women were about equal when it came to fantasizing about participating in group sex.

The conclusion of the experts? Having a strong sexual fantasy life can actually enhance your romantic relationship rather than weaken it.

Do you agree with the experts? Should fantasies be discussed with your partner?

Choosing A Fling or a Relationship?
Posted:Feb 20, 2019 8:55 pm
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2019 7:31 am
He picked up her wine glass and filled it partway.

She accepted the glass from him, took a sip and then set it down. “We need to talk.”

“Really? About what?” he asked.

“About this,” she replied. She felt impatient with her own inability to express herself, even her own discomfort.

“What about it?” he cocked his head, his tone gentle, not challenging.

“I thought we were friends, colleagues. Are we starting something here? Are we trying to have some kind of relationship?” she implored. She could barely catch her breath yet had to continue, “You already said you don’t like to compromise. Well I don’t either. We aren’t kids anymore. Life is complicated. We can’t pretend that everything is easy.”

“I hear you,” he commented as he sipped his wine. “We are adults. We have jobs and responsibilities.”

She threw her hands up in frustration. “What are we doing here, really? What are you looking for? Seems the only thing that makes sense is a fling. Is that what you want…a fling?”

“No,” he answered quietly while setting down his wine glass. ”I don’t want a fling.”

“Then what? Just exactly what do you want?” she asked impatiently.

“Something real. Something serious. Something that lasts,” he responded very deliberately.

She sat still, barely able to breathe. It was just the answer she wanted and yet the one she feared the most. “I want the same thing,” she forced herself to say aloud although it wasn’t easy to be so vulnerable. “I am not looking for a fling or a one-night stand either. Those just aren’t worth the time or trouble.”

“I agree, they aren’t," he nodded.

“But what about the issue of compromising? Neither of us wants that.”

“I don’t have all the answers right now. I’m trying to figure this out. I didn’t know I wanted anything like this. At least, not until I met you.” His dark eyes looked deep into hers. “If you really want to know what I want, it’s a chance with you.”

“But you don’t even know me,” she stammered.

“What I know so far, I really like. I like how honest you are. I like how smart you are. I like that you are sexy. I like your passion about things other than yourself.”

He leaned over, staring at her through the candlelight, taking her soft hand in his. “I don’t expect this to be easy. You are not easy. But I think there is something unmistakable between us,”

She blinked in disbelief.

“Why not take a chance, on us?”

She knew then, that this was exactly what she wanted.

What are their chances of making it work?

Food: Facts or Fiction?
Posted:Feb 20, 2019 11:29 am
Last Updated:Feb 21, 2019 4:42 am
When it comes to eating, we have all heard sayings about what you should or shouldn't eat. Turns out some of those 'wives tales' are actually based in fact. Here's a few that may sound familiar that were recently featured in Reader's Digest:

An Apple A Day Keeps The Doctor Away
Researchers from the University of Oxford estimate that if every adult over 50 ate an apple a day, it could prevent or delay approximately 8,500 vascular deaths from heart attacks and strokes every year in the U.K. Scientists at Cornell also found that eating apples—thanks to their healthy substances like flavonoids and antioxidants—could inhibit the development of breast cancer.

Eating Late At Night Will Make You Gain Weight
Late-night eaters tend to weigh more and have a higher BMI than those who eat earlier in the day, but not because food somehow triples in calories after p.m. One issue is that is has more todo with the food choices late night snackers make. at night. For example, late-night eaters tend to binge-eat more frequently and consume more calories. Some researchers also theorize that eating at night can disrupt your circadian rhythms and your body’s ability to regulate blood levels, and yet still others have found that daytime eating better regulates the hunger hormones ghrelin and leptin, making you more likely to feel full at the end of the day and less likely to overindulge.

Going Outside Without A Coat Will Make You Sick
You need to be exposed to a germ to get sick, however, you may be more susceptible to that germ when you’re shivering. One study, published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, showed that immune cells in your nose and upper airway may not function as well in cooler temperatures. Plus, viruses can become more virulent in the cold, because cold weather makes the outer membrane of the flu virus solidify, so the germ becomes more durable and easier to transmit. Once it enters your respiratory tract, the gel coating liquefies and the virus is ready to wreak havoc on your body.

Sitting Too Close To The TV Is Bad For Your Eyes
Actually, this is partially a myth: Sitting close to the TV seems to be relatively safe, research suggests, with the only potential risks being eye strain and fatigue. But staring at your smartphone—might cause some serious damage. Researchers from the University of Toledo found that the blue light from a smartphone or computer could harm the retina, as well as speed up blindness in patients with macular degeneration. Other scientists worry about children, in particular: One study found that who spent seven or more hours week using computers or playing mobile video games tripled their risk of developing nearsightedness (myopia), while another discovered that children who held their phones eight to inches from their eyes for prolonged periods of time were a greater risk for temporary convergent strabismus, aka going cross-eyed.

Heartburn During Pregnancy Means Your Baby Will Be Born With A Full Head of Hair
A John Hopkins University study found that women who suffered from moderate to severe heartburn did indeed give birth to babies with luxurious locks. On the flip side, the babies whose mothers didn’t experience heartburn had little or no hair. The connection isn’t completely clear; the researchers theorize that extra- levels of estrogen and other pregnancy hormones may both encourage fetal hair growth and relax the sphincter the top of the esophagus, allowing acidic digestive fluids to back up and trigger heartburn symptoms.

Eating Cheese Before Bedtime Causes Strange Dreams
That was the surprising finding of a study from the British Cheese Board, which further revealed that different cheeses gave subjects different types of dreams. For example, 85 percent of the women who ate Stilton had crazy, vivid dreams, while 60 percent of participants who snacked on Red Leicester dreamed about their childhoods. This may have something to do with the tryptophan in milk, which encourages sleep and reduces stress levels. Men’s Health theorizes that people with some degree of lactose intolerance may suffer from sleep disruption and, as a result, bad dreams.

Carrots Are Good For Your Eyes
While carrots won’t improve your vision, research suggests that they can help maintain it. The reason is beta carotene, a carotenoid (or pigment) that the body converts to vitamin A. Your body uses vitamin A to build proteins for eye cells; if you have too little of it, you might even suffer from night blindness. Furthermore, a study published in JAMA Ophthalmology found that people who ate levels of carotenoids had a 40 percent lower risk of developing advanced macular degeneration, the most common cause of -related blindness. And for the record, it’s not just carrots: Sweet potatoes and orange peppers, as well as dark, leafy greens like spinach and kale are also rich in carotenoids.

What are some of the food myths that you found are actually true?
Foods to Boost Your Sex Life
Posted:Feb 14, 2019 4:06 pm
Last Updated:Feb 17, 2019 5:53 pm
Studies have shown that having sex more often is beneficial to your health. Eating vitamin and protein-rich foods also boost your libido. Here are what are considered to be some of the best food aphrodisiacs.

Dark Chocolate
Fruits and vegetables that are high in antioxidants should already be a part of your daily diet. Dark chocolate is full of antioxidants which have been linked to reducing signs of aging and the risk for cervical cancer, as well as enhancing sexual pleasure.

Brazil Nuts
These tasty nuts contain selenium, a nutrient that can cut the risk of prostate cancer in men. In addition, selenium stimulates the production of healthy ova and sperm.

This seafood is rich in zinc, which is known for increasing libido and the production of sperm cells. For men trying to have children, this is a great way to get in the mood and increase the chances of insemination.

This fibrous vegetable is one of the best ways to improve your sex life, as it can increase a woman’s sexual desire. It also contains androsterone, a hormone men release that appeals to women.

Vitamin C is known to help increase both libido and fertility. Kiwis are loaded with Vitamin C.

Leafy green vegetables, like spinach, contain lots of folic acid, which can help increase fertility and your libido.

High in an ingredient called allicin, garlic can help stimulate circulation and blood flow to sexual organs in both men and women.

Strawberries help increase sex drive in both men and women. When topped with dark chocolate, a libido-enhancer in itself, it becomes a delicious treat sure to get you and your partner in the mood.

Chili Peppers
These are considered natural aphrodisiac foods and a symbol of love. They stimulate endorphins (the brain’s feel-good chemicals), speed up heart rate and make you sweat, which all mimic how you feel when you’re aroused.

With its phallic shape, bananas already look like a feel-good food, but these aphrodisiac foods also contain bromelain, an enzyme which triggers testosterone production, and the fruit’s potassium and vitamin B elevate energy levels.

What foods are your favourite aphrodisiacs?

A Kiss That Broke Her Rules #50
Posted:Feb 13, 2019 7:30 am
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2019 12:45 am
The rush of desire caught her by surprise. She should have been prepared. She had, after all, kissed him on one other occasion That time, he had been in charge, deciding what she needed and just how far things should be allowed to go.

Tonight was different. She was in control. She took fistfuls of his t-shirt in both hands and wrenched her mouth away from his. “Last time we stopped because you claimed you didn’t think I knew what I was doing,” she said. “Tonight you can’t use that excuse. Do you understand?” she asked him.

“It wasn’t an excuse,” he replied.

“It was as far as I’m concerned. So, one more thing you need to know…if you want to stop tonight, you are going to have to flat-out tell me you don’t want me, No more pretending you are trying to do what’s right for me. Got that?” she demanded.

He looked at her annoyed, “Damn woman. Do you always talk this much before you get into bed?” He didn’t wait for a response. He captured her mouth in a kiss that told her all she needed to know. This time he would not be calling a halt. Only she could stop this and he knew that was the last thing she wanted to do.

She wound her arms around his neck and opened her mouth to him. There was nothing practiced or deliberately seductive about the kiss because the simple truth was, that she had never kissed anyone else this way – with such excitement and need and anticipation.

This was a kiss that crossed all the lines that she had drawn for herself – a kiss that pushed back her personal boundaries in ways she had never imagined possible – it was a kiss that broke the rules.

His response lacked the artistry and finesse of a skilled lover. It was raw and told her more clearly than words ever could, that tonight was different for him, too. It was reason enough to break the rules.

They fumbled their way to the bed. By the time they had reached it, she was unnerved and shivering and taking in oxygen as though it were a rare and fleeting commodity.

He released her long enough to get out of his t-shirt, pants and briefs. When he turned back to face her, she sensed his subtle hesitation and knew that he was waiting for her to reaffirm her decision. It also dawned on her that she was not the only one in the room who was in unchartered territory. He needed to know that she still wanted him now that he stood naked before her.

She moved closer and once again stood on tiptoe to kiss him. His rigid erection pushed against her thigh. She reached down and took him gently in her hand.

He groaned and pulled her closer. She realized they were about to fall together onto the tumbled sheets. Panic flared for an instant. She opened her mouth to tell him that she had to be on top.

But there were no need for explanations. He landed flat on his back and steered her descent so that she landed on top of him, exactly where she wanted to be. He handled her as if she was the most valuable, amazing, exquisite creature that he had ever encountered.

She raised her head briefly to look down at him. “It’s all right. I won’t shatter,” she said.

“I know that. You are strong.” He wrapped one big hand around the back of her head and drew her mouth down to his. “But I sure as hell will shatter into a million little pieces if I screw this up.”

“But you are not screwing it up,” she whispered.

His free hand moved down her body to her thigh and then he was tugging the hem of her nightgown upward, crushing the soft fabric against her waist. His fingers sank into the curve of her buttocks and then he began to explore her even more intimately.

She took a quick, sharp breath when she felt his fingers on the inside of her leg. He went utterly still beneath her. When she opened her eyes partway, she saw that he was watching; her with an intensity that told her how hard he was working to maintain his control.

She kissed his throat and then his chest and she reached down and stroked him trying to tell him without words that she liked his touch. No, she craved his touch. She did not want any other man to touch her ever again….just him.

His hips moved against her, encouraging her to part her legs for him, When she did, he touched her more deeply still and her reaction stunned her. A great urgency tightened her insides.

“Yes,” she whispered. “Yes. Now.”

But he continued to stroke her like she was a fragile flower. He did not seem to realize that she needed more…so much more.

She pushed herself up so she could ride him astride. He groaned when she guided him slowly, carefully into her. His fingers griped her thighs. He watched her as though at that moment she was the only thing that mattered in his world.

He groaned. His jaw was rigid as the rest of him. He pushed upward, slowly, deliberately filling her, completely astonishing her.

He added one more element to the mix of sensations. He moved his thumb against her clitoris and with that she was lost. The waves of a release, unlike anything she had ever experienced, crashed through her and she was breathless.

He surged upward one last time. Going impossibly deep. His climax thundered through him. A low husky roar of satisfaction ripped through him.

She had caused his reaction. She realized she had fully and completely satisfied this man. And he had given her something even more. Tonight, for the first time, she had responded in a way that, until now, she had even believed possible – a way that felt real, normal.

All she had needed was the right man – and he was anything but normal.

When did you have a kiss ' that broke the rules'?

Posting this for symposium #50
Great Sex -When Is The Right Time?
Posted:Feb 8, 2019 8:47 am
Last Updated:Feb 12, 2019 9:56 am

If you feel like you and your partner have fallen into a rut with your sex life, your timing might be to blame. The most popular time for love-making also happens to be the worst time .

A study in ‘Frontiers in Psychology’ shows that the timing of men’s and women’s libidos are at polar opposites: Women feel the most desire in the evening, while men are most aroused in the morning. The study found that the average MF couple is most likely to have sex between 9 p.m. and midnight—in other words, bedtime. But experts say that pre-sleep sex isn’t necessarily ideal for a of reasons:
-Most people are exhausted and there’s a good chance they won’t have the energy for the most mind-blowing encounter.
-Night time sex can also over stimulate you.
- For others, sex is a tension reducer and relaxer and they have sex to help them fall asleep.

If you actually sleep together afterward, while you’re resting, your body is building up hormones, and you’ll wake up with more energy and perhaps creativity for satisfying sex.

Morning sex might not be ideal for couples with early or mismatched schedules, so get creative with your timing. Perhaps a mid-afternoon romp?

So – what timing works for you? Has it ever been an issue that you weren’t ‘in sync’ with your partner?

The Negotiation
Posted:Feb 7, 2019 4:08 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2019 1:45 pm
She walked through the doorway and stopped in front of him. She was so close, only inches away and he could feel the warmth of her body as her essence filled his nostrils.

“If I tell you that I want you to kiss me, will you?” she asked, looking up into his eyes.

“If you want to kiss me because you are desperate, I’ll take a rain check,” he responded.

“I don’t do rain checks. This is a take-it-or-leave-it offer. And for the record, I have wanted to kiss you long before today.”

“Oh stop it. You are just being emotional,” he requested.

She took a step backwards. “For the record, I am not being emotional. I know exactly what I am doing,” she fired back at him.

“Damn it. Don’t do this,” was his frustrated response.

“Forget it. If you don’t want to go to bed with me, just say so and I promise I will stop bothering you,” she called over her shoulder as she started to walk away.

“Wait! You don’t understand,” he called out to her.

She hesitated and turned around to look at him and said, “What exactly don’t I understand?”

“The future. I simply can’t offer you one.”

“What are you trying to say? Do you have some terrible illness?” she queried.

“No, it’s nothing like that. It’s ….complicated.”

“How complicated? Are you gay?” she asked in disbelief.


“Do you have a wife and kids stashed away somewhere that I don’t know about?” she asked.

“No. Of course not. It’s nothing like that. I have a lousy track record when it comes to relationships. They never last long and it’s always my fault. I don’t want any misunderstandings between us. I can’t make you any promises about a futue.”

“Ah.. So you have commitment issues,” she stated.

“Yes. Something like that,” he admitted.

She thought about it briefly and then nodded once. “Okay.”

“Okay? That’s all you have to say?”

“Yes. I am good with your issues if you are good with mine.”

“Your issues don’t begin to compare to mine,” he warned.

“Oh, so now we are comparing issues?” she accused him.

He stood there shaking his head incredulously. “This isn’t a conversation, it’s a damn negotiation,”

She raised her eyebrows. “Oh really?”

“So let’s get this straight. You would be okay being with me, knowing I have a lousy track record?”

“I will put my lousy track record up against yours anytime,” she said defiantly. “However, it must be monogamous for both of us, while we are involved together,” she stated.

“Agreed,” he immediately responded as he knew he couldn’t bear the thought of her with another man. “Anything else you want to negotiate?”

“Nothing comes to mind. Sounds like we have established the terms and conditions of a relationship.”

“So now what? Are you going to whip out a contract for me to sign?”

“What?” she angrily responded.

“Geez. Talk about taking the romance out of things.”

She hesitated for the briefest of moments. “You started it.” she accused. Her voice was harsh with indignation, anger and yes, maybe even pain.

“Me? You are the one who wanted to compare issues” he shot back. “I can’t believe you are trying to make this my fault.” He moved closer to her. “Damned if I will let you put all the blame on me for this fiasco.”

“First you accuse me of taking all the romance of our relationship and then you call it a fiasco. You are right! Whatever happens between us probably won’t last very long, not at the rate we are going, so I suggest we get started before it fizzles out completely."

She closed the short distance between them, clamped her hands around his shoulders, stood on her tiptoes and kissed him. It was a kiss fueled by the energy that had been charging the atmosphere between them for almost 3 months. It was fueled by frustration, anger and desire.

“To hell with our issues and the future,” he said against her mouth. ”All I care about right now is tonight.”

“Yes. Tonight works for me. It's a start,” was her response.

Would you get involved with someone who couldn't offer any kind of future with you?
It Was Just A Kiss
Posted:Feb 3, 2019 10:49 pm
Last Updated:Feb 9, 2019 2:56 am
He kissed her carefully, a first date kiss intended to invite and seduce. It was a kiss designed to reassure, a kiss meant to send the message that she was safe with him.

She had been through so much. The last thing she needed was a sexual encounter that she might regret in the morning. The last thing he wanted was to be the source of that regret.

Her response was cautious at first. That was OK...he expected that.

What he didn't expect was the way the simmering heat between them exploded with such intensity. Her lands became small claws on his shoulders. Her mouth was hot and wet. She shivered in his arms, gasped for air and pressed herself against him.

It took great effort on his part to tear his mouth free from hers.

"This is not a good idea," he mumbled.

At first, she didn't seem to hear him. Then she froze. He could literally feel the chill sweep through her.

She took a step back. folded her arms across herself tightly. He could not read her expression, there in the shadow - he couldn't tell if she was hurt or embarrassed - but either way, he was pretty sure he had screwed things up.

"You are right, this was a huge mistake. And it was my fault," she confessed.

"Don't start," he warned.

"I apologize for putting you into such an awkward situation.. You were trying to comfort me and I attempted to take advantage of your good intentions,"

"That is not what was happening here. This is crazy," he argued.

"You may of course, make your own decisions about the wisdom of getting into a personal relationship with me," she said.

"Oh really? Gee thanks for clearing that up for me," he countered.

"It was just a kiss. I was in the mood and apparently, so were you. It was your decision to end it and I guess I can respect that. But don't try to tell me you did it for my own good. Is that clear?"

"This is what I get of trying to be a gentleman?", he asked.

"No. This is what you get for pissing me off," she said.

"Out of morbid curiosity, do you get into arguments like this with a lot of your dates?"

"Nope. This is a first." She smiled at him victoriously. "And I must say, it did wonders for my mood. I feel a lot better now, than I did twenty minutes ago," she declared.

"That's a damn frightening thought!", he countered.

"Sort of cathartic, I guess," she replied.

"Yeah, well I am glad it was so good for you!". He turned and walked away, summoning all of his courage to resist slamming the door as he left.

What do you think about kissing 😘 on a first date?
Do you remember the first kiss you ever had ?

Cook Before You Eat
Posted:Jan 31, 2019 4:57 am
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2019 3:24 am
Everyone knows to avoid eating raw meat and eggs. But there are plenty of other foods that you definitely want to cook before eating. Some of these might surprise you.

This mealtime staple should never be eaten raw! Eating potatoes raw can cause bloating and undesirable gastrointestinal effects, because potatoes contain starches that are resistant to being digested. Cooking the potatoes successfully breaks down these starches. Even scarier, if raw potatoes spend a long time in a warm or damp area, they can turn green and develop a toxin called solanine. If a potato appears to have green spots on it, you should avoid eating it altogether, because the solanine could cause food poisoning. I always thought you could just cut around the green spot.

This root vegetable, a staple of South American cuisine, is packed with vitamins and minerals. But it’s also hiding a sneaky, potentially lethal ingredient. The leaves and roots of raw yucca contain cyanogenic glycosides, chemicals that release cyanide when eaten. Yucca is still edible, but make sure you wash it thoroughly, rinse it, peel it, and cook it before consumption. Have never eater this.

Kidney Beans
This normally healthy food that can be dangerous if eaten the wrong way. Red kidney beans are packed with protein, fibre, and antioxidants, but eating them raw can wreak havoc on your stomach. Uncooked kidney beans contain the toxin phytohemagglutinin, which can cause unpleasant gastrointestinal discomfort and symptoms similar to food poisoning. Make you boil kidney beans for at least ten minutes before eating them. I used to pick these out of home-made chili.

Hot Dogs
Hot dogs aren’t the most nutritious food as it is, but eating them raw can be downright dangerous. It’s a common misconception that, since they’re pre-cooked, hot dogs can be eaten right out of the package like lunch meat. This isn’t the case at all. According to the FDA, packaged hot dogs can become contaminated with the bacteria Listeria, which can only be killed by reheating the dogs. Will never do that again!

In recent , the FDA and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have identified raw flour as a potential health hazard. During its journey from wheat stalk to supermarket shelf, flour may have come into contact with pathogens such as E. coli, which can only be banished by cooking whatever the flour is in. May have eaten some raw cookie dough when I was a kid.

Alfalfa and radish sprouts can contain pesky harmful bacteria like E. coli, Salmonella, and Listeria. Sprouts are grown in warm, moist conditions where these bacteria thrive. Because of this, you should aim to buy your sprouts as fresh as possible; consider buying them locally or from a farmers’ market. And, of course, wash them and cook them. I only eat them cooked.

Raw eggplant contains solanine, the same toxin that makes raw potatoes problematic. “Young eggplants” in particular, or eggplants that were harvested early in their plant lives, contain the most of this toxin. You would have to eat a whole lot of raw eggplant to experience the unpleasant gastrointestinal effects of solanine poisoning, but you might want to go ahead and cook your eggplant anyway. Plus, some people may have allergic reactions to even small amounts of raw eggplant. Maybe that's why you never see it in salads?

Rhubarb Leaves
These leaves contain a high level of oxalic acid—a toxin that in high doses can cause kidney damage, various stomach problems, and even death, in rare occasions, according to Hampshire College. This “anti-nutrient” interferes with iron, magnesium, and calcium too, the Independent reports. A lethal dose of this toxin would be hard to consume naturally, but it’s mostly people with kidney issues that should be concerned with avoiding these leaves, per Healthline. Fortunately, never tried eating these.

Have you eaten any of these raw? Will you re-think doing so?

@ Readers Digest

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