Seriously, WTF?
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Posted:Aug 14, 2016 10:44 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 7:35 pm
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Well, it's been over 2 years since our last blog and boy oh boy do we have some things to get off our chest!
We'll get to a lot of that later but first we wanted to address a startling situation we encountered this past weekend at a party being hosted by a lifestyle couple (majority of the attendees were in the lifestyle). After drinking a visiting for a few hours, Mrs l_and_k mentioned how she found it amazing that people in the lifestyle state they practice safe sex and are disease free yet the woman of the couple enjoys swallowing. She stated that she found it hypocritical for someone to say that. The thing that amazed us is that the majority of the women present when this was said claimed that there was no health risk from swallowing. How is it possible in this day and age for someone not to realize that they can catch all manner of diseases and illnesses from swallowing? It was astounding to us.
Don't get me wrong, I (Mr. l_and_k) truly enjoys receiving oral sex to completion but by no means am I expecting my play partner to swallow, even though I am completely confident about my cleaniness and health. Mrs l_and_k will happily perform oral sex (very skillfully too!) on her playmates but she will never allow them to finish in her mouth. You can never be too safe, especially in the lifestyle.
We welcome any and all comments on this matter. Happy playing and stay safe. Hopefully, it won't be another two years before our next blog!
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While I'm thinking of it...
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Posted:Aug 1, 2014 8:59 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2018 10:43 pm
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Okay, so the other day I posted a blog for the first time in a couple years (or so it seemed) and it was to vent, to get something off my chest about women asking for specific penis sizes for their men. Here is something else that bothers me about profiles...
It bothers me when someone, man or woman, lists their sexual orientation as straight, but they actively seek out couples. Why it bugs me is this; if a single seeks out a couple for the ultimate result of intercourse, at some point during coitus (thank-you Big Bang Theory), there will/should be some amount of physical contact and interaction between the same sex. Doesn't such contact preclude some form of bi-sexuality, whether situational or curiosity?
Pretty much everyone on this site realizes that when a man lists his orientation as straight and he is seeking, among other things, a couple, he isn't checking out the couples profile and thinking, "I'd like to cuddle up to that bear!" Absolutely not. What he is thinking is how much he'd like to nail the bears wife with the bear's permission. The same goes the other way too, where a single straight woman seeks a couple. Is she merely interested in getting a good rogering with the suitor's wife's blessing?
My understanding and experiences have taught me that women are far more open to physical contact with the same sex but the same rules should apply; if you are specifically looking for opposite sex contact, don't seek out a mixed gender couple.
Maybe I'm old fashioned but this is my forum and I'm allowed to shout at the clouds if I want to!
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This could offend some of you...
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Posted:Jul 31, 2014 8:52 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2018 10:44 pm
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Something has been bothering me (mr l_and_k) for a while now. When perving a profile, I see women or women of couples specifying that their potential suitors be at least 7+ inches long, or whatever, for penis size. Thankfully, this is not a problem for me but I do find it offensive. How is it acceptable for a woman to specify length requirements yet if a single man or half of a couple mandates similar requirements of a woman, it's looked down on?
I suppose it is the human hypocrisy. It is acceptable for women to be size specific about men but if a man specifies that a woman have "this" size breasts or that they weigh "this" much or less, it would be frowned on. If a woman makes her requirements known, guys take it as a challenge and either try to measure up or lie for the opportunity to prove that they are worthy. If a guy specifies breast or waist size for a woman, he tends to end up very alone. I don't get it.
While for the most part this post is rather tongue in cheek, there is some underlying truth to it. I could accept that this is the way that previous generations have shaped the current standards, even in the lifestyle... but I don't buy it.
Feel free to leave your comments or opinions on this subject.
DISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed in the preceding post do not necessarily reflect the thoughts and beliefs of mrs. l_and_k. Thank you.
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Kink on a budget
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Posted:Jul 10, 2012 2:36 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2016 12:45 am
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Over the past several months, we have developed a taste for flavors beyond vanilla. We have experimented with some bondage, BDSM, good clean fun like that. One of the major factors which had previously prevented from exploring this side of our sexual beings was, frankly, the cost.
This is not meant to be figurative; "the lifestyle cost us this friendship," or "it cost us our marriage." That's not it at all. I (Mr. l_and_k) will happily admit that I am frugal. Stingy. I'm a cheap prick. For years, my mindset was if I want to experiment with bondage, I must venture into the local adult novelty store and purchase the latest in restraints, leather and vinyl wear, blindfolds, etc, etc. Although this aspect of sexuality has always interested me, I had never really been exposed to it beyond the occasional sex trade show, where I found the prices to be quite prohibitive (remember, I'm a cheap prick).
There have been times during our relationship when I have complained to my lovely spouse, "Hell, I could make that for cheaper than what they're selling it for!" Finally, the brilliant woman that she is, she challenged me to put up or shut up. So, I accepted the challenge and we have been oversexed and underrested for the past several weeks. Here are some of the items I have created, or acquired from unconventional sources, and oh how they are providing us with endless hours of pleasure!
1. Flogs. I'm not going to lecture about leaving this to trained professionals. If you have ever had the pleasure of watching a flogging, or receiving one, you'll know how much skill and talent it takes to deliver one properly. I do not claim to have this talent, I'm not a seasoned veteran with years of experience and training, but I do okay. If you are at all uncertain about how to deliver a satisfying flogging, do yourself a favor, don't do it. A poorly delivered flogging can be extremely painful and can turn someone off of it forever. If you decide that you want to develop that skillset, take your time and save your money. I have seen flogs priced anywhere from 49.99 for ones that look like they would break upon first use, to ones that are $200+ each, and much higher. Right now, I have four home made flogs, two with rope falls, one with synthetic leather, and one with leather. As mentioned, all are homemade. The total monies spent on the materials for these flogs; about $150. That may not seem like a tremendous saving until you consider this; I still have enough material to construct, consertively, 15 to 20 more flogs without additional purchase of raw materials. Wooden dowels (for handles) are fairly cheap when bought in 3 foot lengths from the lumber yard. Soft nylon rope, 100 feet for under $10 from a department store. Hockey tape for the handles, excess stereo wire if you want that added handle grip, all combined means I can knock off a rope flog for probably $10 each, if that much. A rope flog may not look as sexy as a hand woven leather one, but it is the one the mrs always begs for. The other flogs? A 6 inch wooden dowel, a car shammy and wood glue, 12 bucks and the mrs is screaming for more. The leather one? A leather welding jacket, brand new, cut up, glued to a dowel and an afternoon of construction and the mrs can't stop raving about how much she enjoys the "thud" of it.
2. Other "striking" devices. This one even surprised me. I wanted to surprise the mrs with a riding crop. Every adult novelty shop I went to turned me off with their prices. $50 or more for something that would probably break on the second or third strike. Solution: pet store specializing in saddlery and tack supplies. They have a variety of sizes, shapes, colors, designs, it almost staggers the imagination. Plus, if these crops are strong and durable enough to be used on horses, they will more than last on your lovely partner/sub. We currently have two crops, total cost, $14.90 plus tax. At the same store, I found what appears to be a couple of leather pieces, tear drop shaped, perhaps pertaining to a saddle in some way (I was raised in the city, I don't know the first thing about horses or saddles!). Leaving the twist tie which held them together on them, it forms a neat little paddle, about 3 inches wide and 8 inches long. She loves it. Cost; $2.95 plus tax. The last striking item we have was an ornamental fan rake, made out of bamboo, held together with some small gauge wire. I cut the ends off the rake and smoothed them out with some sand paper. I then used the wire to group and hold the cut pieces against the bamboo handle. Voila, instant bamboo cane. This offers a bit more sting, but she says it's worth it. Cost; $1.00 from the Dollar store.
3. Restraints. Novelty handcuffs are crap. They pull apart at the drop of a hat. The cutesy ones from the adult novelty stores are either flimsy looking (novelty ones with faux fur glued to it) or very expensive (leather). A couple solutions here. First, if you want the look and feel of real handcuffs, get real handcuffs. There are more than a couple retailers online who will sell police department quality handcuffs, reasonably priced. I got mine for a Halloween costume from a supply house in the States. Two pairs, $4.95 each, plus shipping and handling, so about 20 bucks total. And yes, they're real. If you're not interested in the wrist bruising or potential cuts from real cuffs, the padded variety is the way to go. I got ours from the same saddle and tack shop where the riding crops were purchased (I'm starting to think that cowboys are some kinky motherfuckers). Our ankle restraints are cloth, padded inside, thick buckle construction, $9.95 each. They had the same in leather for $18 each. We also picked up wrist restraints, already linked together, for just over $20. I created an under mattress restraint system with quick release mechanisms and superior construction as to not fail under the most trying conditions. The materials used? Dollar store leashes. Tie the handles together and pull the clasp portion over top the mattress to connect to the wrist and ankle restraints. Cost, $2.00 each for 6 foot long leashes, I picked up an extra one to under mattress link the upper and lower restraints, $10 plus tax. Total cost for restraint system; $50 plus tax. I have found very similar set ups, with far inferior quality restraints and cuffs, for $159.95 plus shipping and taxes. I wish I was making that up. You can do even cheaper than that too: if you have a bed with suitable head and foot boards, go to a department store (or second hand store) and buy some new or gently used silk sheets. We picked ours up for a toga party and sacraficed them into strips, two for wrists, two for ankles, one for a blindfold, one for a gag. Total cost for this restraint system; $4.95.
The long and the short of it is if you want to delve into the bondage or BDSM side of your sexual being, it does not need cost you an arm and a leg to get your freak on. It still surprises me that the simplest of items (a back scratcher, dollar store pom-poms or lambs hair duster) offer tremendous sensations at a ridiculously low cost. If you are willing to open your mind to this aspect of the lifestyle, make sure to keep your eyes open to a variety of affordable, every day items which will do nothing but enhance the experience for you and your partner(s).
If you have anything you'd like to share on this subject, we'd love to hear from you and perhaps experiment with it ourselves! Maybe next time I make a flog, I'll blog pictures about it to show how easy it really is...
Have fun!
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WTF?
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Posted:Dec 10, 2011 11:05 pm
Last Updated:Dec 25, 2014 1:08 am
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Okay, is it just us? Is there something we've put in our profile?
We might have set a record. Recently, we were able to the majority of one day in chat. Got to meet some new people, hopefully, laid the foundations for some new friendships, or more, lots of chatting, pretty good day. The problem is this; we had a number of people who we did not chat nor have we ever chatted with just send us face pics, directions to them homes, , all insisting that we meet them... immediately.
I'm sure a lot of people have a fantasy of having sex with a complete stranger, I'm sure a lot have realized that fantasy, but it's not for us. In this day and age, you have no idea who is on the other end of the internet, you need to take precautions, you have to protect yourself. God only knows you don't want to walk into a situation and hear, "Hi, I'm Chris Hanson from Dateline NBC, why don't you have a seat over there." With that knowledge, why would you risk inviting someone into your home sight unseen, for the purposes of anonymous sex?
Don't get us wrong, we're here for the same reasons that the overwhelming majority of you are; sex. Be it ongoing, one off's or the occasional gang bang, everyone is on here for pretty much the same thing. The difference is, I suppose, that we care about who we have sex with.
Are we wrong in thinking this way? Has anyone else encountered this? How did you handle it? We may have been on this site for several years but we're still learning and we'd appreciate hearing about anyone else's similar experiences.
Thanx,
l_and_k
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Cams
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Posted:Nov 18, 2011 2:02 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2016 12:47 am
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We admit it, we like watching cams. We perv them, stare, wonder, all that good stuff. We try, like others do as well I suppose, to contact those cam "performers" who tickle our fancy (at least we'd like them to) but rarely get a response. We don't take it personally. But we do have to wonder about guys who go on cam.
WARNING: We have met people, couples and singles, who broadcast themselves on cam. None of this is meant as a slight against them, more power to them.
We have noticed that like a suprising number of single men on HotMatch.com, there are a surprising number of men on cam. We've been on cam as a couple, putting on a show, and as singles just, well, sitting there. I do not understand why men would go on cam and try to rub one out, of course, with an extreme close up. From our performances, we know that it is rather thrilling to broadcast knowing that several people, sometimes hundreds, are watching you, and in their own special way, might be joining you over the internet. It is a rush. Is it the same for singles?
I personally (mr. l_and_k) do not have much interest in going on cam and trying to yank my meatsicle from my body. Also, I have no real interest in watching someone else do the same. Conversely, if a woman is pleasuring herself on cam, I (typical male) will watch, but it really does nothing for me. If a partially clad/fully clothed woman is dancing, typing, watching tv, that usually interests me more than the full-on, naked coming at you on cam woman. I don't know why, I wish I did. If I happen to spy a guy trying to, well, be "sexy," I usually am immediately reminded of Buffalo Bill dancing on Silence of the Lambs. I then get very creeped out and rapidly shut the cam down.
Is there a point to all this? There was when I started typing but I'm tired and have been drinking so... oh yah, I remember; guys, what do you get out of rubbing one out on cam? Girls, do you enjoy watching a guy rub one out on cam? Over-tired, slightly tipsy minds want to know...
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Sex
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Posted:May 10, 2011 12:10 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2016 12:50 am
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Wow, quite the inventive title, huh? Lot's of time and effort went into that, let me tell you...
Hotel sex is awesome. You can be as loud as you desire to be, you don't have to worry about the unexpectedly coming home or walking in, no problems with household pets wanting to laying down on the bed or worse, trying to physically separate you... yup, hotel sex is awesome.
One time, we went to a meet & greet in Calgary a few years back. We were trying to avoid local meets as we were new to the scene and did not feel comfortable with the prospect of meeting someone we knew or worse yet, were related to. Anyway, the party itself was alright, people mostly stuck with ones they knew, it was okay, not the greatest (although Mr l_and_k was propositioned in the washroom and not by a man!). Oh yeah, and we met someone we previously worked with too, what are the odds! Anyway, what made the trip memorable was that it happened during the Stampede. Lots of drunk partying going on, people from all walks of life attending and so on. The night before we left, we tried out one of our now favorite positions; Mrs. balancing herself against the window frame while Mr. accesses her from behind. It gives her a wicked view, tickles the exhibitionist bone and has a couple elements of danger (being seen/caught and window failure which really isn't an issue as all windows are tested first and foremost). Oh, and no windows were harmed in the making of this blog.
Anyway, the first time was at night and was pretty cool as we were only on the second or third floor so even though it was at night, there was still the chance of being spotted. The time that really stood out, however, was the next morning when we were packing up for the trip home. Things got a bit frisky and we started positioning by the window for round two. Mrs. initially hesitated due to the daytime light and she closed the curtains almost completely. However, as we neared the window, we spotted two naval officers in full dress uniform (exactly what 2 guys were doing in full dress whites in Calgary is beyoind me!). What was remembered the most after that was Mr. whispering about how she liked men in uniform and then how loud/fabulous/explosive it was. Good God, Mrs. was loud enough to knock out some windows and Mr. couldn't help but do some yodelling himself. It was fucking outstanding! If memory serves, both the officiers looked around in the parking lot while we were going at it, I'm guessing they heard some screams.
Another favorite is one which Mr. is especially fond of but Mrs. doesn't really share as much enthusiasm for. That is, oral sex while driving. Given the fact that Mrs. only recently obtained her licence, you can probably guess who is on the receiving end of this maneouver! To give some background, Mr. is of the opinion that Mrs. gives a porn-star quality blow job. Now, this is not being said to brag or included in here to receive such favors, it is fact. If you have access to them, check out some of our videos. The quality of them is not the best because of a poor camera and because Mr. is holding the camera while receiving a porn-star quality blow job. If you have further doubts, we have been known to live broadcast on cam from time to time and we would not object to someone coming in and filming our exploits.
At the best of times, Mr. has a tough time not "freeing the beast" when Mrs. is demonstrating her skills and talents. However, when the demonstration happens during a road trip, Mr. must maintain his focus on the road, concentrating on vehicles, witnesses, and most importantly not recreating a "World According to Garp" moment (if you're unfamiliar with the movie, just think Bobbit by teeth while in a car). All of this additional focus prolongs the act. Prolonging receiving this type of blow job is a very, VERY good thing.
Just because this type of exchange has become somewhat rare does not mean that sexual contact during road trips has stopped, far from it. Exploits now include the expected breast flashing to passing motorists, Mr. releasing Mrs.'s tension by helping to rub one out and the occasional pulling over onto a service road off a major highway to leave unmistakeable marks against the back of the car. When all is said and done, receiving a blow job while driving is still an all-time favorite.
From time to time, we will post more about our favorite times and locations of sexual exploits.
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Pick up lines
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Posted:Apr 3, 2011 10:34 pm
Last Updated:Oct 31, 2012 9:11 pm
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Quick question; what's the worst pick-up line you've heard? Heard one tonight which ranks right up there... "I haven't farted in awhile, wanna cuddle?"
Wow... I mean, just, wow...
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We don't understand
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Posted:Mar 11, 2011 12:22 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 7:35 pm
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You're on an adult site geared towards meeting like minded individuals, couples or groups, for friendship and more. Everyone on this site understands this and meets the age of consent requirements. Inevitably, you encounter someone which you do not mesh with, it happens in everyday life, why should it not happen here. The question is, why do most people on this site react differently here then they would anywhere else?
Let's try this to illustrate our point... You're driving down the road and you become momentarily distracted (answering a call, talking to your passenger, reaching for tissue, whatever). During the distraction, you inadvertently drift into the next lane and cut off another motorist headed in the same direction. You get an angry honk, a dirty look, maybe a "learn to drive, jag-off!" yelled at you. Now, no one likes getting yelled at, no one likes it when someone flips them the bird but, my bad, I cut this guy off, I'll own this, sorry dude, nothing personal. They turn one way, you turn another, it's over, life goes on. I'd guess that similar type of scenario is fairly common in day to day living. Why, then, is it so different in a chat room on this site? We've seen it happen before, and we've probably caused it a time or two ourselves. Someone goes into a chat room and starts having a conversation. During the conversation, you say something and unintentionally insult or offend someone else in the room. Next thing you know, lights, camera, DRAMA! Swearing back and forth, insults, insinuation, scrapping like the Hatfield and McCoys. The thing that we find is that a lot of people don't hit the ignore button or simply walk away from the sudden outbreak of the Springer show, they invite it. A poorly worded comment one day has escalated into near hand to hand combat days, weeks and sometimes, monthes later.
We were having a conversation with someone recently when we were interrupted by some fellow HotMatch.com'er who apparently held a grudge against the people we were talking to. Both parties became so wrapped up in their feud with each other that they probably didn't notice that they had chased the majority of people out of the room in less then 5 minutes.
Can anyone explain this to us? Maybe because we have been out of junior high for so long we have forgotten why these things happen in the first place. We just don't understand why a good number of people on this site will stick around and engage in an argument or continue a fight rather than just ignore someone who is obviously just trying to get a rise out of them.
We just don't understand...
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Booster cable nipple clamps
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Posted:Feb 24, 2011 12:44 am
Last Updated:Nov 23, 2011 12:47 am
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We were re-reading some of our earlier blogs and we had the gaul to say that we have the gift of gab, or some such thing (I glossed over the blog, it wasn't that interesting) but here it is, the second month of 2011 is almost gone and we've only posted once (pretty feable effort at that!).
Since we could use some help getting the creative juices flowing again, we will throw out some questions to whoever chooses to read this.
Do you have any kinks or quirks you have had a difficult time sharing with others? Is there something that gets you hornier than a 16 point buck but you don't really want to share with others? As an example, Mr l_and_k, being a typical man, enjoys watching lesbians. He is also a big mixed martial arts fan. There is a site which offers nude female wrestling where the winner of the "match" gets to have her way, sexually, with the loser. The premise is silly, the wrestling is amateurish or fake, the video clips only last seconds but they get him harder than university level calculus.
Would this be a kink? How about a fetish? Maybe it's a sign that he does have a severe brain injury? Do you have any quirks you'd like to share? Don't be shy, you're among friends!
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2011
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Posted:Jan 10, 2011 12:02 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2011 12:23 am
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Haven't posted anything yet in 2011 so here it goes...
I didn't care for 2010 and am personally elated to see if fade in the rearview mirror. So far in 2011, one weekend was lost to flu-like symptoms, the other weekend lost to the common cold & work. While that isn't the story-book beginning to the new year, it still ranks head and shoulders over the previous year.
Once the seasonal cold/flu non sense clears out, we are looking forward to capitalizing on our club membership, reconnecting with old acquiantances and making new ones. Maybe we'll cross paths in the cumming weeks...
Embrace 2011 and enjoy every minute of it! (preferrably with several partners!)
Talk to everyone soon!
l_and_k
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Needs to be said
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Posted:Dec 8, 2010 12:34 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 7:35 pm
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I don't know if it is the time of year...
I don't know if it is the Christmas spirit...
Maybe it's because I'm overtired...
Maybe it's the combination of Tylenol 4's washed down with Bacardi 151 (70 proof)...
It's been about a month and we've had 1525 views on our blogs, we've had 16 people take the time to post a comment on those blogs and we've even had 22 votes on a question we've posted. Needless to say, we are astounded that so many people have checked out our ramblings. So, umm, thanks.
It's not one of our better, in-depth posts, but it needed to be said.
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Really?
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Posted:Nov 30, 2010 11:21 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2016 12:54 am
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Here we go again... I have lost count already... If I have to block another family member from viewing our profile, I'm going to rip my hair out... oh... yeah, I'm bald.
It's strangely comforting knowing that I'm not the only freak in my family, but I sure as Hell don't want siblings and their spouses checking out our junk. Honestly, how many others have run into people they are related to on here? How many co-workers have you run into? We have blocked 4 in the past two months or less. This is fricking ridiculous already. The only thing that would make this any more disturbing is if my parents winked at us. What the fuck did my mother do during pregnancy to turn out a family of perverts like we all apparently are?
If there is a silver lining in all this (and believe me, I've been looking long and hard for a silver lining) it's that the rest of my family is cheap and they have not purchased silver or gold memberships and were unable to view our profile and pics prior to us blocking them.
Fair warning to all of our friends and acquiantances, if we mysteriously and suddenly disappear from this site, it's because my mom threatened to ground me because of what she saw us doing... in full public view...
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