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What Makes Women Want to Meet
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What Makes Women Want to Meet Most women have lives with many responsibilities: jobs, family, friends, community and volunteering takes up a lot of our time. Some women enjoy more support from friends, family and partners in their lives than others. The average woman does not have a sex drive that is as strong as men. We dont need sex as often or crave it as frequently just by biology. Biologically men are programmed to spread their seed. Women are programmed to try and tie a<b> mate </font></b>down over the long term to protect and defend her while she raises . This is the basic and general genetic situation we are working with here. As a woman I tend to focus on one night stands here on HotMatch.com instead of Friends with Benefits because I don’t want to develop feelings after sex with a partner on HotMatch.com as women often do. I have a busy and active life and have limited time dating. I am out of a relationship that was difficult and painful so I am only interested in low stress, no strings situations that focus on pleasure where people don’t get hurt. I am generally happy and self sufficient in my life in many areas. Sex is fun but I don’t feel that I need it. There are many ways a woman can achieve sexual satisfaction entirely on her own. What I seek here is a value added situation. Low cost ways to impress a woman include simply making her feel special. Provide her with compliments, time and attention. Hold the door open her. Pull out a chair her. Be clean, dress well, smell nice. Uplift her with humor or clever anecdotes. How can you make another persons life better here? Could you take her out to drinks, pick her up, buy her dinner, take her to a concert? What kinds of experiences do you enjoy that would be more fun in the company of another person? What incentives can you create that a woman might be interested in leaving the house ? You are asking a woman to take time away from family, friends, work, her interests or limited and valuable alone time to spend time in your company and possibly enjoying safe and pleasurable intimacy together? What small or larger scale things can you do to ensure that she feels safe, valued, respected, engaged and entertained throughout the process? It is less about than it is about effort. Get creative. The effort you put into every meeting rewards you many times over with a better chance for a hookup on the first meeting, possible positive testimonials and the potential promise of future hookups. The more you practice the better you get. Take chances. Listen to feedback. Are you providing prospective partners with an experience that is sufficiently positive to ensure your desired outcome? Even ask a woman what she would like to do together. What would you and she be up for? It is all about mutual reciprocity so whatever you do decide to invest your time and efforts in should always be win-win. |
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"low stress, no strings situations "
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What Makes Women Want to Meet ... She's attracted to what she knows of the man....NOT what he can buy her. Although, thanks to her blog, we know there are women who only want a man who is able to buy stuff for her... but he should not do that. This is only a meeting. Merely show her that you are self sufficient financially. She better be financially self sufficient, too, able to pay for her own drinks , food and entertainment. Men are typically not looking for charity cases, and absolutely not obligated to waste his money on a woman he has no intimate history with. Most women have lives with many responsibilities: jobs, .... Men too. Welcome to what it's like to be a man. You have a job. Oh , and that means you have your own money for drinks and such. As a woman I tend to focus on one night stands ..instead of Friends with Benefits because I don’t want to develop feelings after sex .... So what makes a woman choose a man for a quickie? Depends on the woman. Certainly he doesn't need to pay that woman with money, drink, food or gift..... No. He just has to show up and have the qualities a woman, not a prostitute, is looking for in a man. I have a busy and active life and have limited time dating. ... As do men. See, that's what happens when women get the privilege [or nightmare] to support herself. I am out of a relationship that was difficult and painful so I am only interested in low stress, no strings situations that focus on pleasure where people don’t get hurt. .... As are men. See, you have stuff in common with men. I am generally happy and self sufficient in my life in many areas. ... As are the better men. Sex is fun but I don’t feel that I need it. .... That's fine. When you do need it, you know where to find the men. You may even have some in your "Friendzone". Meanwhile men may be contacting you for sex, whether you are ready or not. There are many ways a woman can achieve sexual satisfaction entirely on her own. .... ha!.. geez woman , that applies to men , too. Low cost ways to impress a woman include simply making her feel special. .... Well there are NO-Cost ways to do that, too . And NO-Cost ways is the way he should do that. .... in fact. good women can make a man feel special and impress him, without spending any of her money. Women have been doing his for hundreds of thousands of years. Some call it being intimately friendly, and some call it prostitution. Very fine line. Provide her with compliments, .... Absolutely not. There is no good reason to do that. She scoured her body, vagina and anus, she got dressed, she painted herself, she perfumed herself... she knows if she attracts a man , that is compliment enough.... he shouldn't tell her any compliments. She's virtually an "Unknown"person. Provide her with [his] time and attention. .... If she earns that, and there's still a long way to go before that happens. For the moment, any time and attention spent , is minimal, maybe 5 to 30 minutes to begin with. Hold the door open for her. ... Absolutely not. Not going to happen today, not by men who understands women want to be treated as equals. If the woman sucks my dick on a regular basis, then sure, I'll open a door for her. She's earned at least that much. Pull out a chair for her. ... No. Absolutely not. . She's likely not an invalid [that would be the only acceptable exception to drop to servitude for a woman of social equality]. Be clean, dress well, smell nice. .... People, men and women, do better socially when this much is seen to. Uplift her with humor or clever anecdotes. ... Not always necessary for man to be a comic, or gossip/story teller. Just see where your conversation goes. It may be minimal, she may just want your dick. That happens. How can you make another persons life better here? ... Well, for one, pointing out nonsense. Could you take her out to drinks, pick her up, buy her dinner, take her to a concert? ...... Could you? Sure. But should you? Absolutely not. . This is reserved for women , a man already has intimate history with. Not total strangers that catch his eye. And, once again... these women can buy her own drinks, her own food, her own concert ticket... the exception? After years of sexual intimacy and knowing each other, and being there fore each other, an occasion may be in order ....but by the same token, women [having their own money] may spend it on a man she is very fond of, too. What kinds of experiences do you enjoy that would be more fun in the company of another person? .... Sex. Other than "Sex", any enjoyment of experiences would have to be comparable to how well two, or more people, know each other. What incentives can you create that a woman might be interested in leaving the house ? ....Well what incentives can the woman create that a man would want her to leave her house. This is a two-way street sister. You are asking a woman to take time away from family, friends, work, her interests or limited and valuable alone time to spend time in your company .... AND you are expecting a man to take time away from women he already knows will put out, friends, work, family, his interests, or limited and valuable alone time, to spend his time in your company. Basically, if this isn't the first meeting, you're just saying , "A man asking a woman to take time away for sex with him" .... but likewise, if she accepts his invitation, then she wants sex with him. He doesn't , he shouldn't, have to pay anything for this. [Only maybe his half of the room price]. What small or larger scale things can you do to ensure that she feels safe, valued, respected, engaged and entertained throughout the process? ....Do you want him to carry a gun? Have several degrees in marital arts? If you're not interested in, nor comfortable with him, [most importantly] nor sexually into him, , then don't go. ....Also, "Respect" , is earned, not just bestowed on a woman. No man would insist a woman respect him "Valued"? You are of no particular value whatsoever. Certainly not yet , IF ever. That too is earned. Get creative. ..... No... Save your creativity until you know the woman extremely well and you have at least a year of intimate experiences together. The effort you put into every meeting rewards you many times over with a better chance for a hookup on the first meeting, possible positive testimonials and the potential promise of future hookups. .....First meeting? No effort, other than cleaning up, and showing up, and being somewhat cordial. You're not spending an evening with her ... maybe just 5 to 30 minutes [no sex because it's only a meeting]. If a meeting does turn sexual, then you'd be happy you washed up, and brought your own condoms. And again.. she has money for her own drinks, if she thirsty, or just order up some water. The more you practice the better you get. .... The motto of very successful pickup artists. Are you providing prospective partners with an experience that is sufficiently positive to ensure your desired outcome? .... At the same time , the woman better be providing the man with an experience that is sufficiently positive to ensure his desired outcome. Even ask a woman what she would like to do together. .... No. The man should already have some ideas [not just one] of what to do together. Where to go. What time to be there. If she doesn't like any of them, then she can speak up. And for a first meeting? It can be just 10 minutes in the local park. Don't make a big deal out any first meeting. so whatever you do decide to invest your time ... Common mistake. There is no "Investing" your time and efforts. This is merely "Spent" time and energy you will never get back.
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7/11/2019 7:09 pm |
The dates I have had on here have provided this and more consistently of their own initiative without request. Certainly there are women out there who may throw themselves at you for less. We clearly approach HotMatch.com very differently. There are men here that share my approach and perspective because I have encountered them on numerous occasions. It’s okay that clearly you are not one of them.
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I feel that someone has had a very limited way in dealing with women. If you really want soemthing long term then you really need to put some effort tryin,but hey everyone has a different thing they are looking for and that's what this place allows for. I personally like reading your blog and what i has to say. I will soon be into this full force and want to make sure that things go smoothly and great for everyone involved.
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