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Blogs > SantaRosaManFl > Mature Man seeks friends

Can't catch a Break or Catch 22  

SantaRosaManFl 65M
3 posts
2/17/2019 9:50 pm
Can't catch a Break or Catch 22

There is a large age difference in age between me and my wife. She will be 85 this June. I am in my 60's. I have always been faithful to her. When she turned 70 she decided she was too old for sex and even any kind of romance. Now at her age is bad health physaclly. Bad back, hips, knees, and eyes. I am her primary caregiver and I do it to the best of my ability. I do so because I still love her. Believe me, I am NOT the poor me kind of guy. I do it because I want to.
It has left me lonely and don't get out much and not for long. I have fought with myself. for years as to what to do about my needs
I do have 3 ways, but it consists of me, myself and I. LOL I miss the feel of another person. I finally decided that life is short and I need to find friends and playmates. I joined this site in hopes of doing just that.
The problem is that as soon as a couple or women see married on my profile they don't want to give me a chance to explain why I am on here. I was hoping that the local swingers in this area would be more understanding. I am very discreet and would not want to do anything that would hurt her. So not sure what to do next.

SantaRosaManFl 65M
10 posts
12/27/2020 5:40 am

 As far as what my kids may think. My feeling on that is don't trough stones in a glass house. You asked what they may think. My question is how do your kids feel about the wide swinger parties and all the different lovers. So how can you judge me about just wanting to find friends and maybe some benefits.


SantaRosaManFl 65M
10 posts
12/27/2020 5:32 am

 To all that is concerned. Yes I still am just caring for my wife which is a full time job. No I still have not been with anyone else. I guess I am just so lonely and at lest need friends. Even if it does not have extra benefits. At least I am honest about things. There are so many on here, both and women that are not. HUgs to all.


ampussy 68M/65F
38 posts
2/19/2019 9:35 pm

 The problem is it is not only your wife that should be your concern did you ever think what it will do to your children if you have any of They find out you are stepping out on mom? See when you are attempting to attract others and you are attached to someone you have to consider all the what ifs? What if your kids find out who you are meeting on the side will they cause problems with the couple that you met with? We feel for you but you are going to find it very difficult to find a couple who will do much more than talk over coffee as long as your better half is still in the picture.
LIVE FREE OR DIE


SantaRosaManFl replies on 3/1/2019 3:23 pm:
I do totally understand that and also considered all of it long and hard. I have two children and they are both married and live in other states. One in Mo. and one in Ca. I may have to just have to wait. As I said it was years for me to decided to try this. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. I do thank you for advice and I do take it seriously.

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