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Blogs > HandsomeDaddy7 > Handsome Daddy's Rants & Raves

Observations and Comments on AFF/Demise of CL  

HandsomeDaddy7 65M
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1/8/2019 7:08 am

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1/9/2019 8:57 am
Observations and Comments on AFF/Demise of CL
I think I have been on HotMatch.com long enough to share my observations and to comment on both the site in general and why it is that I really miss the personals on CL.

For living in such a densely populated suburb of Chicago, over 25,000 cars/day pass my front window, there are relatively few women on A.FF in my area. There is one 19 yr old who is looking for financial gain. There is one 40 something who doesn't post a picture and who's profile is mostly blank and doesn't reply on IM. Then there are a couple of women who strictly want single men even though they are married. That's about it.

However, I have noticed that of the women in the Chicago area (50miles within my local) at least half of them are only looking for other women while a quarter are looking for only long term relationships. I guess I'm not understanding the "Hookup, Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot" paradigm.

And while I'm on a confused sort of rant, what is with all the flirts and hot listings? Why can't you message me on my blog as I note in my profile. I am a standard member. You are Gold members. Another A.FF scam? Also, a full 90% are either several states away or overseas. I like to chat as much as the next person but simple flirts and such don't offer much in the way of conversation.

So why do I miss CL? First, let me clarify that I mean the "old" CL, not the CL of the last 5 yrs where it was mostly overseas scams and prostitutes. CL personals use to be "ordinary" people in your local who were just looking for some realistic meets and relationships. Normal as in housewives and working men. Not people who were online 24/7 hooking up with every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Yes, I'm frustrated. Getting older doesn't help. Though I am attractive and even to myself, amazingly fit, where the hell are all the women who want an older, attractive/fit man? There is a real fear growing in me that I will never ever again enjoy intimacy with a woman again. (Yes, I am married. But no, she never did like or want sex and now with physical/mental health issues, it is forever an impossibility.) They shoot horses don't they?
CynicusMaximus 52M
1844 posts
1/9/2019 6:09 am

 Are you telling me that you had better luck on CL??

Typically, there were ads there from young women that would have sex with older men, but you had to show up with a warm meal, cash for last month's rent and be able to replace her broken radiator the next day. Other times, you answer an ad but what comes to the door is always older than you expected and hairier than you expected.

But if you're expecting to pull up an attractive young lady on your fishing line here, it's all going to come down to how chaming you are.


HandsomeDaddy7 replies on 1/9/2019 6:34 am:
Your experiences have not been mine. I have never paid for any friendship. I have and still do occasionally help friends or buy unexpected items or better yet, make something for them and give it to them. The lust for money divides and/or cheapens any and all relationships. When you are in a relationship and demands and expectations and requires stand in the threshold, then it has no appeal to me, no matter how nice the individual is standing inside. I give freely or I don't give at all. Who like obligations?

HandsomeDaddy7 65M
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1/8/2019 6:53 pm

 Actually, all your comments have forced me to recognize the simple fact that A.FF is now much like CL and tumblr. The old days are no longer. The wild days of the internet have passed. It is time to move on.

Thx again for all the comments. And LOL, some of your poo. Best of luck to everyone. About to close out and move on. Oh ya, thanks for the reference.


MissCinders 58F
1533 posts
1/8/2019 3:04 pm

 Interesting blog. Why are you responding to yourself? Handsome daddy and nostalgic are the same man. And yet you talk about playing games and criticize this site. Gotta love it.


HandsomeDaddy7 replies on 1/8/2019 5:18 pm:
Interesting presupposition. I know him and he knows me but we are not the same person. But yes, we share a LOT in common.

HandsomeDaddy7 replies on 1/8/2019 5:23 pm:
May I ask why "Cinders?"

jakeander76 48M
20 posts
1/8/2019 10:57 am

 any other site now for CL since they shut down


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
1/8/2019 10:05 am

 The "Make your own first comment" has been a site glitch for almost two years. Get over it. Then I went as requested to look at your blog mailbox and your blog as an entirety. Sorry, if I lived within 10 minutes of you, I would not respond, especially after your remarks about the girl from another country- put a bag over her head etc. Shut me right off. Get yourself an hooker, an hotel room and have at it.
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HandsomeDaddy7 replies on 1/8/2019 11:16 am:
I struggled with a better descriptive. But there was no getting around the fact that she was seriously facially challenged! And very immature. The put-a-bag comment was sarcasm. It was extremism to illustrate. It is also something that men often say in all male company. Just like the nine-to-ninety-blind-crippled or crazy.

I was nothing but nice to the young lady.

Thx for your comments.

matutum50 73M
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1/8/2019 9:47 am
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lol, that's why I live in Nevada, old I maybe, but I can still go to where the younger ones are and pay about the same as if I was to play the "I want to get to know you first" game. Dinner ect and so on.


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
1/8/2019 8:14 am

 where the hell are all the women who want an older, attractive/fit man"

They're already with an older, attractive/fit SINGLE man.
-or-
They're already with an older, attractive/fit man with money to spend on them.

The little girl relationship you're seeking (no need to be disingenuous about it, your profile clearly states you desire a slender girl more than 20 years younger than you who is seeking an age gap relationship) doesn't exist in real life. There are no young attractive available women seeking older married men (fit or not) unless there are benefit$ to be had. Maybe seekingarrangement dotcom might work better for you?


HandsomeDaddy7 replies on 1/8/2019 11:08 am:
Thx for the reference.

Why are you saying I'm disingenuous? And, though rare, I've had 3 such relationships. It is just difficult to maintain them as at that age, there is so much to occupy their time, especially when they go off to college or move away. Yet we still chat from time to time and they were anything but disappointed. And no, I never was and never will be a wallet. That is not very conducive to a good relationship. That does not equate that I was cheap or did not help them financially from time to time or buy them unasked for gifts. But that is an entirely different attitude.

Thx for your comments.

HandsomeDaddy7 65M
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1/8/2019 7:09 am

 I'm told that blogs don't get read/published unless there is first at least one comment. So you're forced to comment initially on your own blog!


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