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And now another Cruel dating trend!
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And now another Cruel dating trend! Ok so there are alot of dating trends which are fast becoming more popular and obviously very cruel..The latest is called " trickle ghosting " Now i am not as savvy when it comes to all of the terms of dating but the terms are seemingly never ending..feel free to add some i dont have listed because i only am familiar with the last couple of years of what people do to others when it comes to dating trends. " Trickle ghosting" : This is when someone has had a casual relationship of many years, slowing down all communication- to a trickle-only getting back to someone every couple days.its worse than plain old ghosting . " Ghosting " : Someone disappears altogether ..you dont hear from them any more they just vanish. " Cloaking " : When a person just doesnt stand you up for a date they also block you on any app that you have previously communicated on " Scrooging ": The act of dumping someone before the holidays in order to avoid having to buy them a gift. " Phubbing " or " Snubbing " your partner for their phone? ( not sure what thats about ). " Gatsbying ":this is where like the great Jay Gatsby ,you flaunt your beautiful lifestyle on Instagram to attract instant crushes, "Stashing " This is where one partner hides their better half from loved ones and does not post it on social media..What? one for the gipper ... Like i said feel free to add to the repertoire here as i am not familiar with all of the terms today going on in dateland..lol    |
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5/3/2019 2:18 am |
Hey behave or i will trickle ghost you ..lol
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5/3/2019 3:04 am |
I know the feeling about ghosting .I talked to a lady from here for several months by texting and talking on cell phone . Then all of a sudden her number was disconnected never heard anything more from her .
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5/3/2019 3:28 am |
It is an out of control sign of disturbed human behavior..and no this was not a problem before we had cell phones maybe the computer age brought this on which came first cells or computers? one preceeded the other and maybe then it did start ..thanks
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5/3/2019 3:30 am |
Well its a fact humans are the worst animals on earth ..and what devious minds they have ..it is a growing trend but i think alot of these words are brought on by the youth they get a bit carried away with terms instead of sticking to certain simple ones they now complicate them
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5/3/2019 3:34 am |
I know the feeling about ghosting .I talked to a lady from here for several months by texting and talking on cell phone . Then all of a sudden her number was disconnected never heard anything more from her .
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I spose I could ride up front with you growned up kids about this, but the last few years have been re-contextualizing my language in a greater culture and that meant being a kid for a while. . It is ever the old who trick and bewitch the young, till they stop learning new tricks and the play of youth pushes the flow back and the gap is torn into the parent. New vs old; a struggle probably more primitive than man vs woman or one ethnicity vs another. Having it all figured out leads to having nothing new to learn, leads to the calcification of the nervous system and the decline of the mind that has come to abide. . That said ... I think actually it is not so much new practices as the attempt to describe the same shit humans have been doing to each other since before we had words to say 'hey cut that out ... that smarts!' . But before the age of being constantly connected ... we actually had excuses for falling out of touch, whether that be moving further away, different jobs, etc. People also had the reference of doing something rather than doing something with social media or at least a cell phone or some other digitized mediated soul capturing gizmo. . I think even 10-15 years ago people just a few years older than I were aghast at the constant connection the modern tech and social mediation required by the younger crowd. They used terms from psychology to describe this neediness, while the youngerins would say they had no reference or experience to understand. Perhaps ... now I can't tell the difference in mediated absorption and comodification between the the age groups. . Who hasn't at some point been mystified by the behaviors of those we chase or those that chase us more than we like? So the apparent use of mystical terms are used when the technology robs us of our 'alibis and excuses ... the rationales and slips of memory'. . Now as is my want to cut myself with the blade I just forged consider though the real difference between the young mind and old brain ... the use of novelty, which to my mind means inventiveness of language, not so much in new words but in new contexts and sometimes with no contexts. Scholars would call this the difference between discursive and performative use of language to convey meaning. Discursive being a description or a linear read through of 'just the facts ma'am'; meanwhile, performative, is more immediate and suggestive of the now. It is in this contrast between the two points that these terms bring about their proper use. . If I tell you a story of an ex who slowly ghosted me I really wouldn't also be suggesting that you do the same, that is unless I need to use some form of media to make my suggestion more palatable and not offend your ego or dirty mine. There is plausible deniability and I didn't even have to bring up religion or politics to do either of them. . And pretty much any term or slang that appears to be a new word or combo is probably going to be found by searching either Urbandictionary dot com or urbanthesaurus dot com .. but I also use etymonline dot com and wiktionary ... the first set looking to the future, the second to the past. . So phubbing is: Phubbing: snubbing someone in favor of your mobile phone. We’ve all done it: when a conversation gets boring, the urge to check out an interesting person’s twitter/ Facebook/ Youtube/ Pinterest/whatever feed can be overwhelming. I went out for a date with Johnny and he didn't stop phubbing me the whole time, it was so rude, i ended up leaving early!
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I don't understand why people get upset , regarding these "Dating trends". A lot of these have been around forever. Just re-branded and released back into the public. Ghosting and Trickle Ghosting , I'm sure was probably around sometime when fire was tamed. "Cloaking "... is a new one... I like it.. seems very efficient , if you're a tech-poindexter or some drunk shut in. ...Some putz who can only communicate on their cellphone would probably fall apart like wet toast, since , really, "Cloaking" would only work for someone who has no clue how to talk to someone without their 5G face-time gadget. This I like... and I highly recommend it ; " Scrooging ": Yes.. if you're dating someone, and you really have no intention of getting more serious than dating [getting together for sex now and then], or if a male [usually] is too young [not ready] to get into a serious commitment , "Scrooging" is a great idea. Dump them before Christmas, and don't contact them until after Valentines day, like 2 or 3 weeks after, if you want to contact them at all. " Phubbing " or " Snubbing " your partner for their phone? ( not sure what thats about ). ..... This is when the person you're out with, is paying more attention to their phone , than you. The way to handle a Phubber, is to get up, leave, and drive away [if you came be car , together, or solo]. Then "Ghost" them. " Gatsbying ":this is where like the great Jay Gatsby ,you flaunt your beautiful lifestyle on Instagram to attract instant crushes,... .... This would work much better or men. ..Men don't care about a woman's lifestyle.... just her body. I suppose the female version of "Gatbying" , could be called "Penthousing"....where a woman shows off her body on Instagram to attract men. I agree with ,"Stashing ". You're dating some one , or some people, [they're not permanent fixtures] you don't want them meeting your friends, you don't want them meeting your parents, and you really don't want them on your social media sites. add to the repertoire here : ... As I said, most of this is just re-branded stuff. ..I found these: "Layby"... When a girl is not yet legal to date yet.. This was also called , "Put her in the tickler file".. meaning get back to her when she's legal. "Catch-and-release" ... this can apply to the person who loves the "Chase", gets them, and loses interest.... or more commonly this is what "Cougars" do....she goes out, finds some young man, has sex , and sends him away. "Breadcrumbing"... before the internet and texting, this was, and now is, referring to "Leading someone , or many, on". The example I found noted someone who sends flirts , keeping people mildly interested, leading them on, never committing oneway or the other. "Dicksand", ....when women [or men I guess] get emotionally attached to some guys dick. Like he fucks really well, and she can't get enough of him. It's the female version of the male version, "Pussy whipped". "DTR".... mean's "Define The Relationship".... most of us are more familiar with this as , "We need to talk"... you know... when you've been fucking [dating] someone [usually a woman] for more than 6 months without showing any signs of getting serious, and she says, "We need to talk"... or DTR , now. "Stealthing"... this is a rotten one, but it means when a guy promises to wear a condom, but removes it without you knowing , and having sex with you. The female version of this , is , putting a pinhole in the condom, or waiting for you to throw the used condom away, then when you leave, she puts her finger in the condom and inserts the baby batter into her. "Haunting".... This is when someone who Ghosted you , comes back into your life for another shot at you. There's probably more, but that's what I found for now.
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5/4/2019 12:58 pm |
My friend there term for everything. People just got so much times on their hand so they have time for this type of gibberish. Well, I guess it keep them entertained!
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Ghosting is not new. Women here have been doing that for decades. Just hiding behind the excuse " i only answer people if i want to." ~Linc was here.~
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5/5/2019 4:06 pm |
Ghosting is not new. Women here have been doing that for decades. Just hiding behind the excuse " i only answer people if i want to."
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5/5/2019 4:08 pm |
I spose I could ride up front with you growned up kids about this, but the last few years have been re-contextualizing my language in a greater culture and that meant being a kid for a while. . It is ever the old who trick and bewitch the young, till they stop learning new tricks and the play of youth pushes the flow back and the gap is torn into the parent. New vs old; a struggle probably more primitive than man vs woman or one ethnicity vs another. Having it all figured out leads to having nothing new to learn, leads to the calcification of the nervous system and the decline of the mind that has come to abide. . That said ... I think actually it is not so much new practices as the attempt to describe the same shit humans have been doing to each other since before we had words to say 'hey cut that out ... that smarts!' . But before the age of being constantly connected ... we actually had excuses for falling out of touch, whether that be moving further away, different jobs, etc. People also had the reference of doing something rather than doing something with social media or at least a cell phone or some other digitized mediated soul capturing gizmo. . I think even 10-15 years ago people just a few years older than I were aghast at the constant connection the modern tech and social mediation required by the younger crowd. They used terms from psychology to describe this neediness, while the youngerins would say they had no reference or experience to understand. Perhaps ... now I can't tell the difference in mediated absorption and comodification between the the age groups. . Who hasn't at some point been mystified by the behaviors of those we chase or those that chase us more than we like? So the apparent use of mystical terms are used when the technology robs us of our 'alibis and excuses ... the rationales and slips of memory'. . Now as is my want to cut myself with the blade I just forged consider though the real difference between the young mind and old brain ... the use of novelty, which to my mind means inventiveness of language, not so much in new words but in new contexts and sometimes with no contexts. Scholars would call this the difference between discursive and performative use of language to convey meaning. Discursive being a description or a linear read through of 'just the facts ma'am'; meanwhile, performative, is more immediate and suggestive of the now. It is in this contrast between the two points that these terms bring about their proper use. . If I tell you a story of an ex who slowly ghosted me I really wouldn't also be suggesting that you do the same, that is unless I need to use some form of media to make my suggestion more palatable and not offend your ego or dirty mine. There is plausible deniability and I didn't even have to bring up religion or politics to do either of them. . And pretty much any term or slang that appears to be a new word or combo is probably going to be found by searching either Urbandictionary dot com or urbanthesaurus dot com .. but I also use etymonline dot com and wiktionary ... the first set looking to the future, the second to the past. . So phubbing is: Phubbing: snubbing someone in favor of your mobile phone. We’ve all done it: when a conversation gets boring, the urge to check out an interesting person’s twitter/ Facebook/ Youtube/ Pinterest/whatever feed can be overwhelming. I went out for a date with Johnny and he didn't stop phubbing me the whole time, it was so rude, i ended up leaving early!
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5/5/2019 4:09 pm |
My friend there term for everything. People just got so much times on their hand so they have time for this type of gibberish. Well, I guess it keep them entertained!
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5/5/2019 4:11 pm |
I don't understand why people get upset , regarding these "Dating trends". A lot of these have been around forever. Just re-branded and released back into the public. Ghosting and Trickle Ghosting , I'm sure was probably around sometime when fire was tamed. "Cloaking "... is a new one... I like it.. seems very efficient , if you're a tech-poindexter or some drunk shut in. ...Some putz who can only communicate on their cellphone would probably fall apart like wet toast, since , really, "Cloaking" would only work for someone who has no clue how to talk to someone without their 5G face-time gadget. This I like... and I highly recommend it ; " Scrooging ": Yes.. if you're dating someone, and you really have no intention of getting more serious than dating [getting together for sex now and then], or if a male [usually] is too young [not ready] to get into a serious commitment , "Scrooging" is a great idea. Dump them before Christmas, and don't contact them until after Valentines day, like 2 or 3 weeks after, if you want to contact them at all. " Phubbing " or " Snubbing " your partner for their phone? ( not sure what thats about ). ..... This is when the person you're out with, is paying more attention to their phone , than you. The way to handle a Phubber, is to get up, leave, and drive away [if you came be car , together, or solo]. Then "Ghost" them. " Gatsbying ":this is where like the great Jay Gatsby ,you flaunt your beautiful lifestyle on Instagram to attract instant crushes,... .... This would work much better or men. ..Men don't care about a woman's lifestyle.... just her body. I suppose the female version of "Gatbying" , could be called "Penthousing"....where a woman shows off her body on Instagram to attract men. I agree with ,"Stashing ". You're dating some one , or some people, [they're not permanent fixtures] you don't want them meeting your friends, you don't want them meeting your parents, and you really don't want them on your social media sites. add to the repertoire here : ... As I said, most of this is just re-branded stuff. ..I found these: "Layby"... When a girl is not yet legal to date yet.. This was also called , "Put her in the tickler file".. meaning get back to her when she's legal. "Catch-and-release" ... this can apply to the person who loves the "Chase", gets them, and loses interest.... or more commonly this is what "Cougars" do....she goes out, finds some young man, has sex , and sends him away. "Breadcrumbing"... before the internet and texting, this was, and now is, referring to "Leading someone , or many, on". The example I found noted someone who sends flirts , keeping people mildly interested, leading them on, never committing oneway or the other. "Dicksand", ....when women [or men I guess] get emotionally attached to some guys dick. Like he fucks really well, and she can't get enough of him. It's the female version of the male version, "Pussy whipped". "DTR".... mean's "Define The Relationship".... most of us are more familiar with this as , "We need to talk"... you know... when you've been fucking [dating] someone [usually a woman] for more than 6 months without showing any signs of getting serious, and she says, "We need to talk"... or DTR , now. "Stealthing"... this is a rotten one, but it means when a guy promises to wear a condom, but removes it without you knowing , and having sex with you. The female version of this , is , putting a pinhole in the condom, or waiting for you to throw the used condom away, then when you leave, she puts her finger in the condom and inserts the baby batter into her. "Haunting".... This is when someone who Ghosted you , comes back into your life for another shot at you. There's probably more, but that's what I found for now.
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