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Submission vs Degradation  

WetnSassyinKenya 54F
47 posts
8/27/2017 2:53 am
Submission vs Degradation

I've been having a conversation with a "friend" of mine about submission. Since I am a very Type A, strong dominant woman; intimidating some would say, I want a man to make me a submissive. To pull my head back, have me knell in front of him to worship his cock, but always with mutual respect and mutual pleasure. To have wild amazing sex. I want to be so turned on that all of my defensive barriers are gone. I want to be taken to that place where the only things that exists is pleasure, at his direction. I want to be told what to do and how to do it.

I know that degradation turns on some women and a lot of men as well. I don't judge that or them. Different "strokes" for different folks. As long as the parties are consenting adults have at it!

Is it possible to have one without the other?

He says no, that in order to submit completely it needs to be submitting to anything and everything that the dominate wishes. I don't agree. Everyone involved should always be in agreement with what is happening even when it's with a Dom/Sub dynamic.

Thoughts to ponder on a Sunday afternoon.

WhyWaitLongerX 73M
15 posts
9/2/2017 9:23 am

 I agree with you. Although unfair to be judge other peoples lifestyles, personally I prefer that all activity (sexual or not) should be consensual....it leads to greater mutual satisfaction.


sexstarvedme1966 57M
383 posts
9/10/2017 3:52 am

 It is all role play - even total submission situations will have a safe word which actually puts the submissive in charge.
I've not done dom/sub in either role, it has always been mutual pleasuring and steering in what to do by either partner. I've been accused once of trying to be dominant when I met a lady because I knelt up on the sofa to kiss her, but otherwise, not. I just go with the flow and perhaps steer things my way for a little extra pleasure some of the time.

I think you are looking for someone with whom you can just let things happen in the bedroom rather than make any decisions yourself. This is not total submission to the point where you allow yourself to be humiliated or degraded.

I disagree with your friend - you can be dominated up to a consensual limit and no further.


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