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letting go  

Strwbryblnde 63F
38 posts
6/3/2017 8:11 am
letting go

I admit I have a problem. Ok one of many. In my real life I'm the one who has to be in control, make all the decisions. How do I learn to turn that off? To just let it all go in the bedroom.

I can never 100% relax and just be. There is always that thought and worry in the back ground. Am I doing this right? Does my body look good enough?

I had a insecure Husband who took it out on me. Not physical, but mental. I was never quite good enough. I was young and hot and he wouldn't sleep with me. Who does that?

I KNOW this is the reason. But how do I make myself believe it? I keep telling myself it dosen't matter now. I'm still hot at 56. This is what really stops me from letting go. That young woman is still inside dying to get out.

KansasMasseur 47M
48 posts
6/3/2017 11:03 am

 Sorry to hear about the rough relationship with your ex. It can take a lot of time to heal.

One common technique prescribed by professionals in this situation is frequently remind yourself of your accomplishments. Write them down in a list. Go over the list daily and add to it things that you're proud of.

Then, in those delicate moments of doubt and self-introspection, remember that you ARE hot and it doesn't matter how others treat you, or what they think of you, because it doesn't change who you are. They're just dealing with whatever is going on in their life, and it doesn't have anything to do with you.

You are hot btw! LOVE your pics!

Hope this helps!


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
6/3/2017 12:05 pm

 You Always have to be in control and your ex was insecure?Makes this a very unusual situation as well as confusing.It's hard to believe an insecure guy would even consider marriage especially if you were young and hot looking.

Really all you need to do is answer some of the correspondences I am sure
are filling your inbox and see where it goes.

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Strwbryblnde replies on 6/26/2017 8:07 pm:
I've given it some time and your right. My in box has been amazing for my ego!

Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
6/3/2017 12:40 pm

 Seems as if you realise what is holding you back yet can't somehow get over the finish line...to be honest you can't be far off getting your mojo back and moving on if that is what you really want.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
6/3/2017 1:14 pm

 In my real life I'm the one who has to be in control, make all the decisions. How do I learn to turn that off? To just let it all go in the bedroom. .... If you are still married , go see a marriage counselor. If you're single, go see a therapist, or just accept that you need to be control, and be done with it.


porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
6/3/2017 1:30 pm

 A lot of women have that problem, because we let society tell us what the perfect women should look like or be like, Only you can change your way of thinking, it may never change, but you can't let it control your life, besides all of us will aged and won't be sexy or hot anymore


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