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Lack of Local Females
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Lack of Local Females I know that a lower population will invariably lead to less instances of local members, however, the lack of local females is staggeringly low! I can't imagine that their is a lack of single females looking for a partner in this area, even though the population as a whole is lower than your average city., I have seen my competition, and I must say that I am not very impressed, nor do I feel threatened in situations where a female has caught my attention and I am not the only available male in the room. The competition I have encountered actually has done wonders for my self esteem and self confidence. I am also not stating that I am the most attractive man in the area, or have the sexiest body either. Although, I do think I am fairly attractive, and have an above average body (as long as you find muscular men attractive) What I am saying, is that, overall, I feel that I am an above average candidate for a prospective partner. I am shocked at the lack of personality and intelligence of the other men I come across in social areanas. I think that you should be able to at least hold an intelligent conversation with a woman, or even just another human being for that matter, if you even think you have a shot at a female. The stupidity of some of the people I encounter is actually sad. I wonder what went wrong in the scheme of things that led to their lack of intelligence and social skills. Who were their school teachers? Didn't they have any positive role models or other human interaction that taught them something so simple as how to have an intelligent conversation? Maybe, I am just to harsh in my critique, or rather, it isn't their lack of intelligence, but instead they just are attempting to discuss the wrong topics. Reasonably speaking, certain topics discussed by even an intelligent person could appear to be lacking intelligent thought. For example, debating over what length of time it took the Duck Dynasty cast members to grow their above average length beards, would likely seem to lack intelligence by an onlooker. I am a very talkative person, and I am also very sociable. I find it very easy to strike up conversation about pretty much any subject with pretty much any person that I encounter, male or female. To me, that is just common sense and something that shouldn't be a special feature, I believe that everyone should be able to communicate and discuss their thoughts, opinions, and ideas with other human beings in a social setting without much effort. Furthermore, I am a confident person physically and mentally. But, I am careful to not go so far in my confidence to come off as cocky or arrogant. I have been noticing a lot of guys in my local hang outs acting like exceedingly arrogant assholes. And, in my opinion, this just makes them look utterly ridiculous. I guess I missed where and when these people suddenly became the greatest thing to grace God's green Earth. Especially since, I have known many of these, newly found cocky, individuals for many years, and only recently have they displayed a new found arrogance. I cannot count the number of people I have encountered who I have heard bragging about their MMA fighting skills and how they are training harder than ever, and they have some big upcoming fight, and it is going to be amazing, and no one should miss it because they are going to be the next big thing. I have even had someone go as far as offer me ticketss to their upcoming fight (three seperate occasions) to which I am almost positive none of which ever took place. Yet, if you ask him, or you simply let him talk long enough, he will more than likely explain in detail all three fights, the fact that he won, and who and where his next fight will be. Strangely enough, I have not once seen this individual at the gym, where he supposedly trains, nor, has he once had a bruise or mark following these so-called fights, or even more damning, these tickets I have been promised three times now, somehow never seem to be available if I suddenly show an interest or ask for one, oh and then there is the fact that not one person I know has ever seen this individual fight anyone, anywhere, ever! Yet, I guarantee if you ran into this individual in a bar tomorrow night, and strike up a conversation, you will undoubtedly hear about his involvement with MMA. Another topic that I find to be a popular fairy tale told throughout the social arena regards their careers or financial status. I don't understand why people find it so entertaining to discuss their work in detail, and the state of their finances. I rarely have found my own job exciting or entertaining, I wouldn't discuss it with others when trying to entertain or hold their attention. Bragging is just bad mojo. It goes with the cocky disclaimer stated above, and sad attempts of insecure individuals to display a sense of value to others. Unfortunately, even if everything they are talking about is true, and they honestly have an amazing job and make a large amount of money. That is not really a topic that reveals your personality or catches the attention of someone you are trying to snare, unless you just want to attract someone out to hook a big fish (money hungry). In which case, brag on about your career and your wealth, because you can have all the money hungry, status obsessed females looking for someone to support themselves and their expensive tastes. I am looking for someone who I can have an intelligent and/or interesting/exciting conversation with, experience new things or thins that we similarly enjoy, and just simply enjoy someone else's company. If either of us cannot keep the other interested mentally, as well as, excite or entice each other physically, then a relationship of any kind is out of the question. Will I hook up with someone who is attractive, but does not engage me mentally, quite possibly (especially if there is alcohol involved) but, don't expect a follow up phone call or second date. Therefore, with the huge amount of lying, dishonest, and arrogant males, and an equally high number of males lacking personality, intelligence, and adequate social skills, It shouldn't be hard for a fairly attractive, sociable, intelligent, individual to pick up an equally attractive, sociable, intelligent female. But, for some reason, unless I am physically in the presence of a woman I seem to have almost zero luck. How can I be so incredibly successful in person, and have absolutely zero luck with any form of online experience? I have not yet found the explanation for this conundrum. But, I know that it can't be that the other males I am competing with are that much better looking, more intelligent, more interesting, and more desirable. If that were the case, then I would have this problem in real-life scenarios as well. For some reason, I am just not online friendly, or online attractive. I have a feeling it is that my personality appears one way in person, but online it comes off in a negative way. My confidences exudes arrogance, and my free-spirited open minded beliefs and views possibly express being rude, vulgar, or sexist. Either way, as long as I can still succeed in social settings. my online failings will remain just a mystery for me to solve.... and hopefully overcome. |
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