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Married/Open Relationship  

pleasureinfenton 39M
6 posts
8/26/2014 8:33 pm
Married/Open Relationship

Ladies, what is it about a married man that turns you off so much? Especially in cases where the guy is in an open relationship?

Some of the women on this site have baffled me. There have been several women that I've talked to who were in an open relationship with their husbands but yet won't even talk to other guys who are in an open relationship with their wife. To me this is the biggest contradiction I've seen, in all honesty I would assume another guy in an open relationship would be the ideal as they are not looking to change their situation just to make some friends to have fun with.

Is it trust issues (i.e. that you think the guy is lying about being in an open relationship)? I can understand not wanting to be a secret for someone who is legitimately cheating.

To those of you who don't typically talk to married men, would you do so if the guy would prove to you that he was in an open relationship?

sorry for the little rant but it just confuses me

pleasureinfenton 39M

8/26/2014 9:48 pm

 I can understand the scheduling thing to an extent. But that in my opinion applies even with singles. Everyone has a job and other commitments. What about single dads or guys with other dependents?

And any of the relationships here can end at anytime. What if one person starts seeing someone else exclusively? Or things just don't work out?

I think as long as everyone is honest then you should enjoy yourself in the moment. And not all married guys on here are looking for a fuck puppet.

I myself am looking for someone that shares interest outside the bedroom that my wife doesn't necessarily enjoy. We have varying interests and want to enjoy those interests.
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MissCinders 58F
1533 posts
8/27/2014 8:10 am

 I dont have anything to do with married men. First of all, I am not here to help anyone cheat. Not my style. Like another blogger has said. How can you expect a married man that cheats to be honest? Also, I have no desire to be on the wifes schedule as to when we could get together. Oh and real men dont cheat!


pleasureinfenton replies on 8/27/2014 10:10 am:
Ok, but I am not talking about cheating here. I can understand that side of it. what are your opinions on the open marriage side of it where both sides are aware of what the other is doing and is ok with it? this in my mind is nott cheating, a lot of couples believe that sex is sex and that's it.

MissCinders 58F
1533 posts
8/27/2014 12:09 pm

 I guess if both parties know and agree then its fine. I have dealt with couples that are married to each other and that is the only way I will see a couple. Sorry if I misunderstood. Thanks


rockmysoxplease 38F
16 posts
8/28/2014 6:35 pm

 Buni--- I can see the single girl aspect, the scheduling thing, but like pleasure said, anything can change at anytime. People have responsibilities and lives and that's why they come here to find fun.

Just me--- I don't think it's about respect, and I don't think he's trying to be disrespectful, I think he is just trying to understand why the contradiction and was asking what about it makes it so negative for women. He's not trying to find a 'relationship' or a 'fuck puppet' just something mutually beneficial for two people, and the best part about your spouse knowing is that it's okay if you get seen in public, because it doesn't matter what others think if your wife is aware. As far as your friends go, that's your personal business, do you tell them you met someone from HotMatch.com in the first place?

I'm still hoping someone that's not trying to call him a cheater/asshole responds here. I think this is an interesting topic.

Personally, I think married men are ideal because I'm not looking for love here. I don't want a man whose wife doesn't know he sees other people, because that's what I consider cheating, but typically they are looking for what I am, someone to do the things their wife won't.


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