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Just thinking How many of you that have been on this site for a long time start to rethink about what you really want after being on here so long, I know some have been lucky and others have not, It seem like it is full of fake people, I know some areas are better than others when it come down to meeting someone, Since I been on here I have met two nice guys, I get a lot of messages from guys who want to meet, but mostly they live out of my area, I understand that standard members can't read profiles so a lot of them really don't know what you want or looking for, I think that is unfair to all members, I think we should be able to read the profile, so they don't waste your time or theirs. But anyway I am still rethinking about what I want, I do know I don't want to have an affair with a married man, or a man in a relationship, I don't want a one night stand or hear you will be in my city for the night or weekend so lets get together, not going to happen, well some are going to say what are you doing on here then, well good question, To read blogs, comment on blogs, and if along the way I meet that person who peak my interest and I peak his interest, that would be great, |
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[discreteSteve62] and I have seen each other on here and another site for years, following each other on our perspective life journeys. I had a couples profile when we first began seeing each other here. Funny thing...I now live where he did before he went back to the PNW...and he lives where I did...and we started following each other while I was still quite married and he had not found Ms. discreteSteve62. I was definitely more on the polyamorous side of things at that point in my life. At this point, things are a little different. I had gotten on here while with my then bf, because he wanted to go back to being nonmonogamous and I was sick of the dating site I'm on that was full of douchey men most of the time. In December, I started meeting people for sex...because I wanted sex. I only wanted men who were capable of leaving things open-ended, no longer interested in meeting people who are dedicated NSA/FWB types. I've been pretty emotionally walloped by my ex and my breakup with that bf. I honestly was quite ready to go full on monogamous with Mr. Sweet Thing when I began dating him, but right now he really needs his primary relationship to be with himself...so he is monogamous with me...and I am out finding others to bang due to his strong insistence that I do so. He told me not to wait for him...right now, though, I have a feeling I'm only going to be having sex with others...because I am head over heels for Mr. Sweet Thing, and at the end of the day, I really only just want to be with him...and we are still talking almost daily on the phone or via FaceTime...even though I HATE talking on the phone...and we are dating "at his convenience," is how he put it, which is all he can really do at the moment, because he really has to deal with his shit...but he also does really want to be with me, too. His priorities just aren't in alignment with what I currently need from him. So, what we need changes...not just from this site, but from our relationships, as well. The thing is that we can have relationships configured to our current needs if everyone is consenting and are adults, and are honest about what they want and what they need. That's my .02.   MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Why am I here? It's changed over time. When I first signed up, I was married, but the marriage had declined to a close friendship with very little remaining romantic attraction, and a divergence in life goals that we had put off acknowledging. The sex wasn't gone from the marriage, but she treated it as a resented obligation rather than a joy. So I was looking for sex with someone who wanted it because she liked it. (Didn't happen; the odds aren't good for men, and I was picky.) After the relationship ended, my next partner said she'd be interested in a threesome with another woman. Odds for that are even more remote, but I paid up and started looking. Before long, I discovered that the new partner didn't actually want a threesome -- she was testing me with the suggestion, and I was a horrible disloyal man for taking her at her word. Shame on me! (But shame on me for ever getting involved with her, not for taking her at her word.) At the time, there was an offer to extend the paid time, contingent on bulletin board activity, and that got me into the bulletin boards. My paid membership was still active by the time I found the sense to dump that girlfriend and move a thousand miles away from her. I used the site to look for a new partner, a friend with benefits, or a hook-up, in that order of preference. Instead, I met someone new through a chance in-person encounter. We moved in together three days later, got engaged after about seven weeks, and married the following year. She's bi, and definitely enjoys the fantasy of a threesome, with occasional discussions of realizing it, unlikely though that is. We might also try a watch and be watched encounter with another couple. I'm still here for the bulletin boards, and secondarily, the possibility of playing with others.
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It's been a long and interesting journey, and there's definitely been changes in what I've hoped to find on this site......  though now, I guess I'd say it's gone from hoping to find someone, to just finding something to read every now and then.....
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There once was a time you could read the profile. From my personal point it appears that from this site and another site I am on, the sexual revolution is dead! It seems like all that people want is Black men for white women and bi guys to play in front of a woman. Even when one puts out a party and invites single guys it becomes like pulling teeth. Hard and painful at best. I do feel your pain. The question is, where else do you go???
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hey, it's nice to see you blogging again...you seemed to write sensible stuff. I'm looking forward to more of the same.
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Don't know the reason I stayed here all season . Mostly because it is unlike facebook . Reading the profiles leaves me out in the cold I have seen people come and go some have the fire down below some not so much so .
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