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Over the years I've had an evolution of persona from CurvaceousinKC to Catinkc to Catinthelou as well as my naughtier identity that will remain unmentioned. These identities have joined the various websites as the internet has evolved, starting with the earliest message boards. By far, my longest residency has been with HotMatch.com and I've been asked by men rather frequently, "why HotMatch.com?" When I was on both HotMatch.com and the "tamer" (as well as wilder) websites concurrently, I frequently ran across the same men. While they would claim to be searching for their soulmate on the tamer sites, their HotMatch.com profiles were more sexual in nature, as were mine. What I often experienced when actually meeting was that those "potential soulmates" were taking things to a sexual level about 15 mins into dinner while those who I'd met on HotMatch.com were not typically as high pressure. My theory became that on HotMatch.com, people were more free to express their whole self from the outset. All of us are sexual creatures to varying degrees. I tend to view myself as pretty far along the sliding scale of sexuality so finding a partner with similar tastes and drive are very important (and challenging). I guess the bottom line is that HotMatch.com has allowed me and the men I've met to see each other in totality from the outset rather than an "unveiling" of sexuality somewhere along the line. Interestingly enough, I believe my experiences with men from the other sites were very polarized...either "hit and quit" or "how fast can I get out of here", whereas my HotMatch.com experiences have been a full continuum, based on natural evolution. In any case, I believe it's a huge mistake to think everyone sees the purpose of the site the same way. When I was a single mother of young , it was a way for me to have adult exchanges in the chat rooms while my were safely tucked in their beds and a way to satisfy my physical needs on my precious 4 nights each month without . Later, I started to look for men that could provide a more balanced mental/physical connection. Once I was no longer consumed by work and , I was ready to finally find one man who could be everything I need. So, "why HotMatch.com"? It can be whatever you need it to be. As you encounter those whose needs are different, just recognize that for what it is and move on. Unfortunately, not everyone is entirely honest about what they want/need. And then, there's the issue of our needs/desires changing based on moods, outside factors, and those we encounter....but that's another topic! |
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When I first found HotMatch.com I was amazed to find so many like minded people. It was refreshing to read the profiles and view the pictures. I have to admit that there a lot of people here that play games, but you can find that on any dating site.
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11/15/2015 10:24 am |
One has to be lucky to land a date with anyone on this site! A lot of people are plain phony! They act like they're interested and when you talk to them they want nothing to do with you! Not worth the money!
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Very well said, because I find people are less pretentious on here!
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