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Are you a selfish lover or....  

L8b1oomer 70F  
71 posts
5/18/2011 1:13 pm
Are you a selfish lover or....
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If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
keithcancook 67M
18358 posts
5/18/2011 2:03 pm

 This sounds reasonable to me.

blog on!


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
5/18/2011 3:34 pm

 Thanks!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


igot14ya247842 39M
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5/19/2011 2:51 pm

 I love to please. Not selfish at all. I get caught in the moment and just go with it. If you don't think about it the anxiety doesn't even come into play. You almost have to train yourself not to think about how you are performing.


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
5/20/2011 9:55 am
    Quoting igot14ya247842:
    I love to please. Not selfish at all. I get caught in the moment and just go with it. If you don't think about it the anxiety doesn't even come into play. You almost have to train yourself not to think about how you are performing.
Sadly it seems as many have been "trained" to be uptight, insecure or selfish. We can only hope to find others that are sensitive lovers and caring people!!! We can teach by example and lead those willing to learn...unfortunately there is little we can do for those unwilling to participate in personal growth!!!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


lickhernow6921 65M

5/27/2011 10:40 am

 Good point, It's always nice to find a good mix between giving and receiving. This may not be popular but I have found recently that females over 40 are much less selfish and want to give as much if not more than the receive.. Maybe a limited control group or it could just be my appreciation has grown for maturity versus simply a great body? Anyway, my opinion and I'll stick with it for the time being


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
5/31/2011 4:36 am
    Quoting lickhernow6921:
    Good point, It's always nice to find a good mix between giving and receiving. This may not be popular but I have found recently that females over 40 are much less selfish and want to give as much if not more than the receive.. Maybe a limited control group or it could just be my appreciation has grown for maturity versus simply a great body? Anyway, my opinion and I'll stick with it for the time being
Your observation is paralleled by mine/ours but we're probably somewhat prejudiced in our appreciation of maturity too! (though many still have great bodies!) It's not really a question of popularity, all of us will have individual perceptions of everything but as we mature we tend to choose one of two polarizing paths...some begin to fear life/death in "old age" and charge blindly into overwhelming conservatism, the rest like most in the "lifestyle" begin to view the world through more open/understanding eyes and appreciate what life offers rather than wrestle with wasted emotions like fear/jealousy/insecurity!!!

I mention most because many of the people here just represent a slice out of the vanilla world, the only difference being a willingness to play more sexually. You can still identify those folks by their demeanor...they tend to be less open minded, unwilling to push their limits, still more discriminatory or homophobic and a bit on the selfish side sexually...but that's just my opinion!!!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


tofourfunn05 61M/62F
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151 posts
6/8/2011 3:50 pm

 Could not have said it better! So True!


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
6/9/2011 4:12 am
    Quoting tofourfunn05:
    Could not have said it better! So True!
Thanks so much for your supportive comment!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
6/17/2011 5:26 am
    Quoting pandoo54:
    Life is a two way street hun and pleasure too.
Absolutely!!! Life is about give and take in every instance...we can't all be selfish users without investing time/effort/energy...you can't get more out of life than you give!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


TWOINTENTS 66M
10 posts
6/17/2011 7:56 am

 As I have matured, I have become far more open than I was... Partly due to being more aware of the possibilities, and partly due to worrying less about what someone might think about me.


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
6/20/2011 10:47 am
    Quoting TWOINTENTS:
    As I have matured, I have become far more open than I was... Partly due to being more aware of the possibilities, and partly due to worrying less about what someone might think about me.
Recognition of the needs of others and our contributions along those lines does require an open mind, the willingness to make those contributions is a very freeing experience!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
6/29/2011 8:35 am
    Quoting  :
Just be glad you're not in a geodesic dome!!!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


2RCumming4U 55M/45F
675 posts
1/24/2012 2:33 am

 We have always found that, in life, the more you give, the more you get...
Of course, EVEN MORE SO when it cums to sexual pleasure!!

Also, LUV that photo!!
xoxox
2RCumming4U
He's "C." She's "M." We want "U" between us!!


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
1/24/2012 11:08 am
    Quoting 2RCumming4U:
    We have always found that, in life, the more you give, the more you get...
    Of course, EVEN MORE SO when it cums to sexual pleasure!!

    Also, LUV that photo!!
    xoxox
Giving ALWAYS pays more dividends in any endeavor, however with sex it's immediately obvious!!!
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


rm_w00dslvrs 72M/71F
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2 posts
12/3/2012 5:43 am

 WHATEVER you want to have or experience in your life... you must give it away!

from the conversations with God series by
Neale Donald Walsch


L8b1oomer 70F  
49 posts
12/5/2012 5:52 pm
    Quoting rm_w00dslvrs:
    WHATEVER you want to have or experience in your life... you must give it away!

    from the conversations with God series by
    Neale Donald Walsch
Even in eastern religions you reap what you sow...now if we could get everyone in the west to embrace that concept...
If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!


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