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One thing I like about AFF
One thing I like about AFF When I'm on HotMatch.com I don't see the other guys just like me. And that's OK by me. I don't want to see them, I want to see the ladies et al. that I am interested in. Even though I know there are tons of guys out there, I'd rather ignore them and pretend they are not there. Maybe I should be doing some competitive research, but I don't. I wonder why? Is it some unwritten rule among the brotherhood that we stand alone? Do women size up the competition? No, I think it is depressing and stressful to think about the competition. When I look at the "Friends Network" on the profiles of potential adult friends, I get this yuck feeling. It is somewhere between envy and despondence. I'm thinking, look at all these guys, some of them even have good pitches, and they are already on the list! Shit... That's why I do not show my "Friends" on my profile, at least to non-friends. It could be discouraging to a potential adult friend. What do you think? Yeah I'm happy to be in my bubble and stand for who I am. To hell with the competition. I've got a monopoly on Me At least that's what I tell myself. |
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I'm going to be brutally honest here. The whole ignoring other men thing...screams insecurity to me. I filter out those guys - I don't have the patience for it. Part of that is because I'm in a relationship and we're both swingers, so if a guy is insecure - he's going to be a problem. But, to some extent - insecure men have always been a problem for me even before I got into this relationship. If a guy can't even be sociable with other men, he's REALLY not going to be able to socialize with me. Let's face it - this is a social networking site with an adult bent on it. They can advertise it as a free whorehouse all they want, but it doesn't change what this site REALLLY is. The only thing I HAVE to do is eat, shit, and die. Everything else is a choice.
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When I'm interested in someone, if they have their friends showing I will look at some of the profiles just to see what kind of woman they are interested in. I don't feel like it is competition, because if their list is like mine they don't even chat with most of them. I go though my list every couple of months to weed out the ones I've never chatted with.
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11/3/2010 7:02 am |
I am with Msboobsy. I have cyber friendships with some of my network, but not that many. I also check out the profiles of people in a network of someone who looks interesting. And may I just say.....When someone answers a blog post they should answer it in a polite manner. One can get a point across while being polite and respectful of the blogger. Remember the ''Block'' feature. https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/wave.gif
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I'm going to be brutally honest here. The whole ignoring other men thing...screams insecurity to me. I filter out those guys - I don't have the patience for it. Part of that is because I'm in a relationship and we're both swingers, so if a guy is insecure - he's going to be a problem. But, to some extent - insecure men have always been a problem for me even before I got into this relationship. If a guy can't even be sociable with other men, he's REALLY not going to be able to socialize with me. Let's face it - this is a social networking site with an adult bent on it. They can advertise it as a free whorehouse all they want, but it doesn't change what this site REALLLY is. The only thing I HAVE to do is eat, shit, and die. Everything else is a choice.
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We do indeed. I think I better understand what you were saying. I don't think it is so obvious how sites like this can play on a man's insecurities in general. I lack the fortitude and patience to be bothered with the greek god types. Most of my female friends I've met through here think the same way I do. The only thing I HAVE to do is eat, shit, and die. Everything else is a choice.
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