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The point when you know your don't want to be with you anymore
The point when you know your don't want to be with you anymore Yesterday was a bit of a hard day for me. Now I have a secure job, I wanted to do something really nice for my and I wanted to take them on vacation someplace nice, because due to my divorce, I've had financial difficulties throughout my life. At this point, my bills are slowly disappearing and getting paid down. I've been able to take a 9 thousand dollar debt to owing back support down to around 00 dollars owed. It's taken me over 2 years to do . In short, I'm becoming financially solvent. It's still not easy. I still have a ways to go before I'm back in the black instead of in the red. But the light is now at the end of the tunnel and soon I will be basking in sunshine. However... I called my ex to ask if I could take the somewhere nice for a couple of days in the summer so I could plan it out and they could enjoy themselves. My ex hemmed and hawed a bit, and finally told me my oldest didn't want to go on vacation with me. She now has a part time job, she's planning on going to a summer softball league, plans to go to her first away college trip to take a pre-med course for study this summer in July, and...recently I found out she has a boyfriend. In short, she doesn't want to go with dad on a small 3 day mini vacation. I've always touted here we need to be honest, and I try to strive to do . But yesterday I lied to my ex when I said it was ok and 's fine. Part of me is ok. If she doesn't want to be around me, then there is . However, when I said I was ok, I wasn't. It hurt. I guess there is a point in every mother and father's life when a doesn't want to be with their parents, and they want to do their own thing. It's a part of life. It's a part of growing up and becoming an adult. But man, did this suck. I wasn't prepared for it. Oh I knew it was going to happen. But I ignored it. I tried to call my yesterday to see how she felt about it, but she didn't even answer the phone, the one I'm paying for her so she can talk to dad. But it's always me calling her, and she never calls me anymore. I get it. grow up. As she's getting older, she's busy with softball at school, school work, work at her part time job, her friends. But it would have been nice for me to be able to have a couple of days with her so we could reconnect. I know there will be more times where the two of us will be able to talk. But it still hurts a bit she doesn't want to be with her dad anymore. I still love her and I always will. But it still hurts. |
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Sorry to hear this AJ. I don't have children so can't comment. It must be heart braking for you, when you want to spend time with them and turn you down!!! Hope you can still go away. I've found with my friends kids, when the parents have split, they don't want to know the dad. Don't ring, go see him. Until it comes to Birthdays and Christmas, or they want something. Good luck with things and I hope she grows up to be a lovely lady and realize what she means to you!!!
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I would talk to your daughter if I were you. Who knows what's on her mind? And if you explain how you feel... she might think differently. At the very least.. even if she has no time for a four day break, she might have the time for a one or two day vaca... What's the worst that can happen if you make the call? ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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4/25/2019 8:27 am |
hmmm that's a dilemma for sure..Is that her words or is that your ex's ? Do you talk to or see your daughter? or kids for that matter? I am curious you said kids ? What if any is the other kids or kid take on this? Have you always had a good relationship with them all? I would be very wary here something does not seem right..Ex's tend to make trouble in situations like that ...personally I would talk to my kid to find out from her what she wants or not..gonna hurt either way but at least you will know.
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You really should talk directly to your daughter about this.
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4/25/2019 8:18 am |
Its nice but once mine are on there own, they dont visit as much.
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As always, thanks for reading.
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