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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius" #18
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius" #18 GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius" #18 Today, I salute you, Ms. He Can't Get It Up Ladies, I know how important it is for a man to be able to achieve, as well as maintain an erection. I know this....well...because I'm a man. I also understand how psychologically crippling it can be when things just don't function the way one expects them to. Erectile dysfunction is a tricky, and often embarrassing subject for men to admit to, and even more difficult to discuss. However, when it becomes necessary for a man to talk about a potential problem, it is crucial that the person he is confiding in be understanding, supportive, and above all, non-judgmental. So...imagine how it feels to a man when his partner...his bedmate, girlfriend, or in some cases, his wife...decides to ridicule him for something he's already mentally berating himself for. Adding insult to injury, when he needs someone in his corner, his partner is nowhere to be found. Try this thought on for size. It is estimated that today, 15 to 30 million men suffer from erectile dysfunction. Some statistics state that one in five men deal with some form of it. If you didn't know THAT sobering thought, you certainly needed to. Sometimes it can be a physiological issue, when an unchecked health problem arises, but most of the time it is a psychological problem. In other words, it's all in his mind. He's unable to perform, worries more about not being able to, making it much worse, and plunges deep into a depressed state. He withdraws from all forms of closeness which can potentially lead to intimacy, therefore avoiding the chance of drawing attention to his problem. His partner, Ms. He's No Good In Bed, turns a molehill into a mountain by emotionally turning her back on him, leaving him to deal with the issue on his own. More often than not, his embarrassment and fear of trying to talk to his partner does not inspire him to speak to a professional who quite possible could be the only one that can help. Sadly enough, the relationship is doomed, unless he finds the courage to say "enough is enough", and stop worrying about being judged for asking for assistance. It's interesting how the act of trying harder can actually have the opposite effect. Men put more pressure on themselves than a woman could ever dream of. Men want to succeed, and they want more than anything to be able to please their partner. But, let me say this. Does an unsupportive partner deserve the pleasure he can give her? Does a woman who will tear him down for every minuscule fault he has merit to be the object of his desire? I think everyone already knows the answer to that. Now, picture THIS. A man meets a woman after several attempts at a successful relationship. He is, in every sense of the word...TERRIFIED. He doesn't want to be hurt again, and he definitely doesn't want to be the catalyst for her broken heart. He worries so much that his fear begins to affect his body. You get the picture. She could say, "Oh great. Another one that doesn't measure up." Or, she could sincerely say, "Relax. Don't worry about it. It's okay." Relax. That's the keyword. Why? Because the penis, when erect, is in its RELAXED state. A tense body means a tense penis, which means...NO ERECTION. Imagine what a little support can do to a man's self-esteem. To give you an idea, think of Superman WITHOUT being near kryptonite. His strength returns. His confidence skyrockets, and once again, he can soar with the eagles. The effect is exponential is either direction. The more he worries, the less he can perform. The less he worries, the more he's able to relax, and the better his performance becomes. Yeah, yeah. It used to boggle my mind, too. I'm sure the ladies understand when they feel like their bodies aren't up to par, and the one person they would expect to accept them for who they are makes them feel belittled about breast size, hip size, or any other measurement they can think of. That's when women often shy away from wearing revealing clothing, and the word "sexy" gets farther and farther away from daily conversation. The words "naked" and "intimacy" also go on an indefinite hiatus. You will often see yourself as others see you. If your partner sees you as inadequate, and they are the closest one to you, then how can anyone expect you to look in the mirror and feel like you measure up to your lover's standards? Also, how can anyone deserve the title "lover" when they demonstrate the exact opposite of loving? Bottom line...if you want a partner, a friend, or even a lover.... BE ONE. GLC |
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Very few men have never encountered this problem at one time or another...yet, very few admit or will discuss it. I can't imagine a woman ridiculing a man. In fact, as a woman sometimes, irrationally, we feel maybe we're the cause...we think there should be some way we can remedy this situation. The thought often goes through our heads, could it possibly me? He's not attractive to me. He doesn't like me enough? Maybe if he was with someone else he'd be able to perform better. Yes, I did say irrational. lol As we all know there are many factors contributing to ed, most are temporary and most can be resolved. Patience is a virtue and there are ways to work around it and sexual experiences can be enjoyed despite this minor set back if affection and friendship continues to exist.
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