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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius"#16, Ms. Wants What She Can't Have
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GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius"#16, Ms. Wants What She Can't Have GLC Presents: Real Women of "Genius"#16, Ms. Wants What She Can't Have Today, I salute you, Ms. Wants What She Can't Have This is a touchy subject for some. It deals with a woman that starts a relationship with a man, but is unable to accept him as he is, and subsequently tries to get him to change. She wants him when she doesn't have him, and doesn't want him when she DOES have him. She is constantly saying how much fun it is to be with him, and how he makes her laugh like no one else can. The phone calls number at least three a day. Even then, she feels that they don't talk enough. Although they can spend an hour or more talking about anything and everything, she still wants more, and complains that she is the one that always calls, instead of him dialing her number. I'm a strong believer in the fact that absence makes the heart grow fonder. A little time away from each other is beneficial...even necessary...for the relationship to thrive. Too much of anything, even the things you enjoy, can make you not want them anymore. Clingy and needy is one thing that can drive a relationship into the ground. So, what happens? She breaks up with the guy because he becomes distant in an attempt to have some space. They both find the maturity level necessary to maintain a friendship afterward, but it soon becomes evident that she wants him back. Fingers are pointed at first, but they find some way to resolve the prominent issues. Ultimately, the man ends up accepting that he is to blame for the failed relationship, and they end up getting back together. All seems well for a time, but again the complaints arise. He's such a great guy, but she can always seem to find a reason to complain about him. The second break-up follows shortly. A strong friendship is maintained, but inevitably the subject of the relationship comes into play once again. She cannot stand to hear him speak of another woman, even though he is perfectly within his right to date anyone he wants. He tries to speak selectively about his life, although it makes him feel like being watched over by a jealous lover. Any time he slips up and talks about another woman, the neediness returns. A little more than a year goes by. The two spend time together, seemingly as friends. Occasionally, the topic of getting back together arises, but he adamantly refuses to give it a third try, believing that it will only lead to more heartache. He reminds her that she couldn't accept him as he is instead of pressuring him to be someone he is not. The conversations over breakfast more often turn to the subject of getting back together, and when an ultimatum is given to him of "either we get back together, or the friendship is over", another discussion leads to her agreeing to let him be who he wants to be. She understands that everyone has to have their own time for themselves, and tries not to be as clingy and needy as before. A good friend of mine put it in a very understandable way. An analogy of the spoiled milk that someone left in the fridge, and was unwilling to throw it away. After some time, they open the milk again, having forgotten that it was spoiled. Again, they replace it into the fridge. Finally, the third time, they make the same mistake, but this time the milk gets tossed out. Sometimes the third time can be the charm. Unfortunately, this time, the third was the strike out. The two could not make the relationship cross the friend line again, and the man decided it was not worth it anymore. She decides that she cannot handle being "just friends" because of her feelings for him, and they part ways...perhaps forever. I can understand how difficult it can be to maintain a friendship with someone when you want more. However, that does not justify playing the friend game simply for the chance that it will become more. It also isn't very mature to cut all ties with someone because they are unwilling to be more than your friend. Which is worse? Wanting someone to be who they aren't in order to make you happy, or pretending to be someone you aren't in order to get what you want? Don't worry. There is no correct answer. Be who you are. If you feel pressured to change by someone, then I believe that they need to live their own lives, instead of trying to live yours for you. GLC |
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9/27/2009 11:36 pm |
We'll said as usual GLC!
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GLC, ..... Smart blog my friend. Happens so often. This site is in particular makes such stories come to light even faster as many gents/ladies are seeking NSA. It only takes one parties heart to betray their own logic.... it's not their fault (God bless em for having such a heart). The challenge is; will they still allow their logic to recall and understand what the other was "hopefully" honest about in the first place and therefore, not hate them for it. Amazing how one can feel betrayed by someone that never lied. (This hits a soft spot for me personally). Thanks for the great blog. 2LeadU ~ Crazy Sexy All Time Good Super Fun Reads ~ *Where to Get Laid on this Site *A Profile to Get You Laid on this Site *The ART of ORAL *Why We DONT STAY With You AWESOME WOMEN *BE THE FUCK *[post 2300522] ~ 2LEADU ~
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