[I]"...that went through the mind of the bowl of petunias as it fell was 'Oh no, not again.'"[/I] So here I am, on another site, HOPING to meet a woman who appreciates the subtle nuances that only a part-time crossdresser can bring to an actual relationship and that "normal" men just can't. (I could write a book, and probably should, about how CD's actually know the names of things like camisoles and corselettes, and how we understand firsthand the fact that the size tags on women's clothing are merely a SUGGESTION, and that's just part of why it takes women so long in the dressing room!) Call me "guarded but optimistic," especially since I KNOW that this site is for people who are looking to "Hookup, Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot Now"! So of course the second per on this site who tried to contact me was a guy with a "dick pic" as his profile picture. :(( I'll say it right here -- I'M NOT INTO GUYS AT ALL!! Even if I were, and as thousands of women here will loudly agree, we REALLY don't want to see a picture of your penis, ESPECIALLY NOT IMMEDIATELY! (See below for now -- I'll update this profile as time permits. 11-26-18 )

My Ideal Person As mentioned above, I'm quietly hoping to meet an intelligent, attractive woman for an ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP, not just a quickie.

I'm looking online because let's face it -- we've all got some sort of emotional baggage or hangups that we aren't going to admit to on a first date, or even a third. To my knowledge, I've got four or five:

1) It's right up there next to my nom de plume -- I'm a crossdresser! Only part time, and only in the privacy of my own home these days, and I have an entirely TOO extensive wardrobe (which means I don't need to 'borrow' anything. ) To me, it's a relaxing hobby and I'm quite happy with my sexuality these days, and have no desire to "transition" to life as a woman.

I'm just weird in that sometimes I'll get home after a long day and want to put on sweats and an old t-shirt like a normal guy, yet other days I'll want to put on a respectable skirt and blouse, or a long sweaterdress and heels. I also REALLY love women's leather as long as it's classy and not slutty -- especially skirts, boots and long coats.

2) While I'm talking about my deviancy, I'm also quite kinky (and yes, I have a profile on Alt.) I'm a switch but mostly sub, mostly into bondage and restraints compared to the other facets of BDSM. Like my crossdressing, this is NOT an everyday sort of thing, but it's unusual enough that I wanted to mention it.

3 & 4) I used to smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol, and stopped doing both. Ideally a prospective date won't do either but I probably won't be put off by "social drinkers" and casual smokers. On the other hand, if someone smokes two packs a day and has several drinks every day...that's not going to work.

5) I'm divorced, and have been for twenty years, so I think I'm well beyond any hangups I might have had in the years right afterward. I have a child who is over 21 and lives with the mother when not away at college. I don't think this should be a problem for most people!

Anyhow, that's what I'M looking for -- thanks for reading the "wall of text" and good luck in your own search!