Groups
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Posted:Nov 6, 2016 8:09 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2017 11:15 pm
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We've been a member of one of the groups here on the site ever since creating the profile. Have often visited the chat room there, discussing our thoughts and experiences with other couples and singles. We've always been respectful, just as we are in real life.
But for the past couple of weeks, for some reason, we've not been able to access the group. Although we were never provide any sort of notification, it's as if we've been removed.
Anyone else run into the same thing with any of the groups?
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Experiences
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Posted:Mar 21, 2016 3:36 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2017 11:17 pm
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It occurred to me that over the past few months, the blogs that we've posted have been mainly responses to negative things that have happened to us on the site. From fake profile pictures to fake people and blatant, unfair attacks from (mostly guys) who act like spoiled when they can't get things their way.
But it shouldn't be just that. Over the years, we've had a lot of fun, too. So in an attempt to change our karma, I thought I'd share a few stories about some of those more memorable times. I have no doubt that to some they'll seem tame, compared with their own personal experiences. But we've enjoyed most of the times that we've played. Otherwise, why would we have kept it up?
Maybe I'll do this chronologically. Since there's no real way to compare them.
And I'll encourage others to do the same. What we've found is that sharing ideas and experiences with others......... whether in person or on-line......... can be helpful in giving us new ideas. As well as encouragement to keep trying to have fun.
What does everyone think?
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Reading the Profile Sometimes Helps.......
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Posted:Mar 18, 2016 4:00 am
Last Updated:Mar 21, 2016 3:37 am
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"Don't message or view my page u never was gonna let me hook up with your wife u asked me all those questions for nothing ."
Just received this from a local member. He and I had chatted, and it seemed that it could work with her. It's the reason that we talk with someone first, before arranging to meet. So I asked him to send the email introducing himself to her......... Just like we've described in our profile........... so that I could put her in touch with him.
But he doesn't do that. All he sends is another email here with his gmail address. And that took him 2-3 days just to do that. No "hello" to her. No description of things that he likes. Nothing.
And then, days later........... he sends this. Not like we'd been messaging him or viewing his page anyway............ I gave him the opportunity and he didn't act on it. Sorry.
Meanwhile, she's been talking on the phone with another guy.......... also local...... He'd followed through like we'd agreed upon, and now they're talking about getting together this weekend.
So no, doing it this way isn't always the fastest and easiest way for them. But it helps us to avoid situations that just aren't a good match for us. And that includes those who don't read what we've posted or just can't seem to understand it.
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Verified?
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Posted:Feb 21, 2016 5:05 am
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2016 12:41 pm
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Took a few pictures of her, just before she went out on a date to meet a new guy. And then posted one of them in order to meet the criteria (as I understood it to be) for "Verified" status on our profile.
We may not match what a lot of folks on here are seeking. We get that. And it's not like we're trying to make everyone happy. It's not the point of creating the profile. And we've tried to explain what we would consider a good match for us. Still, we can't help but wonder if there are some out there that we've missed the opportunity because of their own doubts.
It all comes back to the issue of fake profiles again. And we thought that this may help a little. But even though the picture has posted, we still don't have the icon for others to see. Anyone else know how that's all supposed to work?
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Oops, We did it Again......... Almost
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Posted:Feb 13, 2016 2:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2017 11:15 pm
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Well, once again the wall of shame has raised it's ugly head. Exchanged numerous emails on here with a local guy (Chesapeake). He said that he was interested, but the communication was limited. Almost one-sided. Described our situation and what we'd be looking for. All he did was express concern about maintaining discretion and privacy. Both of which are completely valid concerns. But to that degree should have been a red flag.
Eventually she contacted him directly, and the two of them exchanged emails. But it sounds like he was just as "guarded". Again, chalk it up to not being sure who you can trust or not. Ok. They made a date to get together....... But he wasn't willing to meet in a public place. A bar...... coffee shop..... etc. Wanted it to be a hotel parking lot at 8 at night. When she expressed concerns over that, it took him forever to respond. And then all he did was tell her that he'd find another alternative location. Ok, cool. The alternative: How about the WaWa gas station parking lot across the street from the hotel? Really? Oh, it's because he's really dating someone. But is looking for some action on the side. And that's why he's being so secretive.
Thanks, but we don't help guys cheat. His profile says "Separated" under marital status. And that he "...doesn't want any drama or games." Thanks for at least not being a ghost. But considering this new information, will have to give it a pass. Too bad, too. She thought that he was good-looking (he'd sent a picture).
And, as so many other women have reported on here, he then gets nasty. Calls us the fakes and phonies. Oh well. The way that we like to meet others may not be so cut and dried simple. But this is one of the reasons why we try to take some time before agreeing to meet. And our profile points that out, right?
Looking into the "Confirmed" / "Verified" parts of the profile to see if it helps alleviate some of the doubts........
For the other couples in the area....... watch out for this scenario.............
Moving on.........
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How the Fakes Make it Harder
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Posted:Feb 7, 2016 12:16 pm
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2016 2:43 pm
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Couple profiles, where it seems like it's just one person. Or singles who say that they want to meet but only keep asking for more pictures and then ghost on us when it does come time to arrange for a meeting. Or the ones who make claims about themselves that they aren't able to live up to when she does meet them. They're out there and we've all had the unfortunate experiences of having to deal with them. And in the end, it just makes things a lot harder for those who are real and sincere.
Because of all the times that we've been burned by the fake single men, we've had to try a more complicated process of deciding to take it to the next steps. Hubby tries to discuss some basic topics in order to see if there's compatibility and if his situation and ours could work together. Then, if that all sounds good a basic email to her introducing himself to her. She responds, and the two of them communicate and eventually decide that they want to meet or not. It's not a perfect situation for the guys who are looking for a quick hook-up, we know. Our apologies to those guys who are real and could have been decent friends. They think that this is just another fake "couple" on the site. We understand, and can't blame you based upon the things that we've seen and heard. But it's what we've had to do in order to weed out the fakes before she gets involved.
So what do you think? Have we made this too complicated?
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FWB vs Hookups 2
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Posted:Jan 28, 2016 5:57 am
Last Updated:May 8, 2024 2:34 pm
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Had a few responses from our previous posting. Thanks to those.
Sort of made me think about a possible statistic in this though. Most of the gentlemen who agreed with us were 40+ and probably more mature. Is it the younger.......... more specifically, the NOT mature....... ones who are the most guilty in this? They think that just by approaching a woman and asking her, "Hey! Wanna go fuck?" that she's going to automatically agree? As most guys get a bit older (most, but not all), they begin to learn that this tactic doesn't always work so well.
Don't get me wrong. She enjoys the hell out of the enthusiasm that a younger guy shows when they do connect. "Enthusiasm", meaning stamina and ability to repeat during the evening........
So, for the other ladies out there: is this your experience as well? (Regarding younger vs older.) Is it mostly the younger guys who expect a hook-up after only two short text messages to you?
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Friends vs Hookup
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Posted:Dec 26, 2015 5:49 am
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2016 5:45 am
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One of the things that we've noted on here is the difference between guys who are looking for a real friendship / relationship. And those who are just looking for a quick hook-up. Not talking about the on-going friendships that only involve an occasional evening of physical pleasures arranged on short notice. Nothing wrong with those at all. I'm talking about the ones who think that they can send a single message on here........... we've never met or even chatted before........ and she'll jump into the car and drive right over to play.
Sorry, but it just doesn't work that way. You need to be willing to invest a little time and effort into seeing if you and her are a good match. Find out if there's enough common interests in, and out of the bedroom, before she'll want to agree to a date. Not talking about a long time. Sometimes, it's just a few days of communicating. (We do have other lives that demand our attention, too.) But it makes things so much more enjoyable when you do get together.
So guys, if you think that the women (and couples) on the site have created the profile and are standing by just so that you can call them over for a quick, easy lay on a moments notice............ cheaper than calling a ......... how's that working out for you? Sure, maybe a few connect that way. But we doubt that it's that many. If that's all that you want, good luck. But if you're willing to show a little respect, let us know.
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Fake Picture
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Posted:Mar 20, 2015 7:43 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2016 4:40 am
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Contacted by a 31 yo single male member from Pinehurst, NC today. Sent her a picture which turned out to appear in NUMEROUS different websites, domestic and abroad. At least one of the sites identified the pic's use in scams. You can look this up as well. We use the search engine in Google for images.
Just putting that out there, just in case anyone else recieves something similar.........
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Fridays
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Posted:Mar 14, 2015 3:46 am
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2016 7:00 am
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It was a Friday. We could tell because of the sudden increase in activity on here each weekend. The numbers of emails and messages seems to ramp up when the weekend is looming. And most of them from guys who are looking for "now", "tonight", or "tomorrow". And although the interest is appreciated (to some degree), most of those just come across as "horny". And, for some, desperate.
It would be ok, if that's all we were looking for.
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Blocking Someone?
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Posted:Feb 25, 2015 2:11 pm
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2015 2:04 am
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Have never done it. But beginning to see the need to do so. Except I can't seem to find any reference to how it's done. Any suggestions or guidance?
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