everyone must think i'm boring.... lol
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Posted:Sep 17, 2009 7:37 pm
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2013 7:15 am
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well, suffice it to say i was looking over my blog posts tonite, most of them (hell who am i kidding) all of them are more thought provoking looking at your inner self than tittilating that's for sure... i've looked at others who describe incredible encounters and leave you all hot and bothered after reading them and then i look at mine... so i was thinking everyone who glances at my posts must think i'm pretty mundane and doesn't experience much fun, especially after my last post about updating my profile, like how can i take a break when i haven't done anything... lol, well i'd like to let you all know that i'm not always boring... i do have a fun side, i guess i've just never took the time to put them down in writing... so anyways i just thought i'd point that out in case anyone was wondering... 
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updated my profile
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Posted:Sep 17, 2009 7:15 pm
Last Updated:Sep 17, 2009 8:21 pm
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i just took the time to update my profile, since i just submitted it it's still pending with the powers that be but i decided to post it here for those who are unable to read profiles just the same... i had planned on starting to play solo once summer was over and the were settled into either school or work for the fall, but after some thinking i've come to the realization that i am not ready to do so, i quite enjoy the sexual openness of the site and am happy enough participating in that, friends first has always been my husband's and mine's motto and i believe i'd like to keep it that way
i am the female half of joes3940... not interested in meeting up with anyone by myself, only will meet up for "adult activities" with my husband... i joined this site to explore and i've had my chance to do so, have had both pleasant and not so pleasant experiences thus far but it's still all good as it's part of ones personal growth as a person... i still enjoy hanging out with the friends that i've made and am still open to making new ones... and the flirting and the occassional grope is always fun as well... if you are a solo male, female or part of a couple looking for a single female to play with i am sorry but i am not your girl
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what are your boundaries???
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Posted:Sep 1, 2009 6:27 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2009 7:01 am
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we all know this is a sex site and that means most people on here are looking for sex with others but i was curious about the socializing... i've had a few single men who have expressed interest in meeting up with me in a more social setting, now i'm not meaning the initial meet over coffee/drinks to get to know one another, i mean an actual date like a movie or going dancing even though they know i'm married... i said no that i wasn't comfortable with that, i have my husband that i enjoy doing things like that with and he is always number one...
i was wondering what others think who are in committed relationships about it, where do they draw the line as to what is or is not acceptable in the social aspect... if they have encountered this and how they handle it or is it acceptable to them... don't get me wrong, i have no qualms going out and snagging a dance or two from someone other than hubby when out with a group, but i won't go out one on one for the sole purpose of a nite out on the town...
just my opinion and thoughts on the subject, i'm not offended by the offers of an evening out, in fact i'm flattered... like i said i was just curious on what others think
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shit talkers....
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Posted:May 19, 2009 11:25 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2009 7:03 am
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yeah you heard me, specifically those who talk shit about others... honestly how well do we all really know each other on this site anyways??? these aren't friendships that we've cultivated over the course of many years, these friendships exist because we are all wanting to experience the "lifestyle"... joes and i have been on this site for just over a year, we've made some very good friends, i have been lucky enough to reconnect with a few who i knew many years ago, but the majority of people we know are just from chat and the odd beers or two at molly's, partners, bridges, or wherever the current hang out may be...
what i'm trying to say is i get tired of people gossiping, going on about so and so and they do this or that, i mean do you really know that for sure??? or are you just mouthing off what was told to you by that guy who knows the other guy's wife who got it from her friend, you get my drift...
what brought this on you may ask, i was chatting with a fellow on msn this morn... he asked if i knew a certain person, i said no but i hadn't heard many positive things about her... he informed me that he in fact did know her and had met her... imagine my relief that i hadn't said anything bad (honestly i abhor gossip) and that what i had heard in fact was false... we then got on the topic of gossip and such and he said that there had been times when i had left the chat room that "men" had chatted about me saying that i was cock tease... well i just laughed, imagine me being a cock tease... also the other day another friend had informed joes and i that others have been saying things about our "play habits" and that we meet up with just anybody and play all the time... good luck with that one, that's why i tend to keep whom i chat with to myself and if i choose to meet or play with anyone it is mine and joes business ONLY, same for him... like i have said in the past, we are totally honest with each other, what is said to one is told to the other, you don't like it??? don't tell us, simple as that...
you wanna get anywhere with us??? friends first, respect is also a given, no respect you are gone, and respect our relationship... i love joes with all my heart and he is number one, you can't handle that??? then move on... and before anyone starts dissing another person's significant other, remember, they are together by choice, there must be some good there or they wouldn't be together, respect that with all couples... if you're not fond of one partner, don't ask the one you like to meet up separately unless that was the plan all along, don't act like well i don't like him/her but we'd like you alone, come on people, how do you think that makes the one partner feel??? you have openly stated your dislike for the one they love, yeah that's a good way to get any play... (sarcastic tone here) why do i bring this up??? thankfully it hasn't happened to us personally but i have talked to another couple where it has and it is hurtful...
all i ask is that people be honest, don't say it if you don't know it and is it really necessary to say it if you do??? being a grownup and treating others with respect really isn't all that difficult to do, make it habit, you may find it may come back to you
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thanks to some responses i think i've answered my question...
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Posted:Apr 16, 2009 10:59 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2024 4:42 pm
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after my previous post, and reading some responses and talking to hubby this is the conclusion i came to, i did post a reply to those whose insight i found invaluable in my previous post...
i was talking to joes about this the other nite, saying maybe i shouldn't be here, and he did remind me of the social aspect, how it's nice to just make new friends... so i think i will focus my needs on that and see what develops from there, just because i am here on HotMatch.com doesn't mean i have to feel obligated to be nice to every male who chats with me and feel they have a right to demand my attention... i have my own needs and the right to pick and choose who i may in the future intend to play with... joes as my husband has set the bar pretty high and i do not intend to be/go with just anyone for the sake of fun... i do need to be stimulated both physically and mentally and attraction (as in heart thumping pupil dilating kind) is a must as well, i know i'm far from perfect but what one finds attractive isn't always perfect and if i sound vain or conceited you misunderstand my post, i know myself and i'm worth it... 
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does anyone else question or am i the only one???
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Posted:Apr 14, 2009 4:22 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2009 7:02 am
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i'm just curious mostly but does anyone question why they are on here??? i have an awesome husband who's an incredible lover, so yes, every so often i question myself and my motives and why i'm here... like i am right now obviously, lol
i think the highlight of this for me is the flirting with others and knowing no one is gonna get their panties in a knot and come up and ask why are you acting like that with my man business... and yes i admit that i quite enjoy watching my husband making out with another woman which i find very unusual as in the past i've always perceived myself to be jealous but this for some reason doesn't bother me in the least... hmmmmm, making out... i love that too, doesn't even have to be about sex for me, making out like we did as teens can be pretty hot too that's for sure and of course it's a huge power boost to the ego when you find others are attracted to you as well, we all need that at times... helps feed the spirit so to say
i guess in the long run it's good i feel this way about my husband and that at times i question the lifestyle to a certain degree, makes me realize how much i do love him and that he is for certain the one for me... 
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how joes3940 and i work together....
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Posted:Mar 10, 2009 8:05 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2013 7:17 am
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well, i was sitting here and decided to go through the astrological and personality comparisons of joes and i... imagine my surprise when there it was in black and white how him and i connect and it was us to a "T"... i know some people think i'm standoffish and uninterested, and i've tried to explain as has he that it isn't that, it's just joes is much more social than i, and unfortunately some people don't see me as being quiet or introverted... they think i'm ignoring them or even stuck-up (omg i haven't heard/used that term in years... lol) anyways, i'll cut and paste below what caused my epiphany today... 
For this exact opposite couple, things will rarely get boring. The Performer will always come up with even more flamboyantly fun things to do, and the Scholar will never stop analyzing the people and activities that come into their life. The reclusive Scholar will be relieved to know that the party animal Performer will shoulder most of their social responsibilities, while the Performer will delight in bringing some social fun to their quiet, but very fascinating, brainiac partner.
so there you go, we are just two very diverse personalities and thankfully our differences work for us in our relationship... 
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disillusionment...
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Posted:Feb 4, 2009 11:34 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2011 7:35 am
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joes and i started this whirlwind of adult activity last april, albeit we haven't been out there hardcore recruiting like some others have and i'm sorry but i'm not comfortable with the "in your face" recruitment that some others use... pushiness is a big turn off for me, we like to go with the flow and see how things develop... thankfully we ended up being slow starters (i will admit at first we were wanting to go at this gung ho and dive in) because since then things and people have turned out to be different than what we first perceived them to be... i am amazed at the closed mindedness associated with the term swinging, and i'm not talking about society at large, i expected that from them, what surprised me was the duplicity i found in our new so called open minded friends from the adult community... how easily offended or frightened some were by little tidbits in our profile (i.e. the fact that i am bi-curious, it is just that, curiosity and willingness to explore... i never planned to attack or push myself unwanted on another woman) or the unwillingness to accept others as they are and close their minds to the person inside, we all look different and we all have minds of our own, allow us to show our individuality and don't always feel the need to quash it so it doesn't interfere with you holding court your way, others have good ideas, allow them to flourish and maybe follow rather than lead all the time, everyone should be allowed a time to shine so to speak... and believe me, you can learn a lot just by sitting back watching... i am tired of people thinking they know me when they don't and assume things without talking to me, i never felt i was that unapproachable or unreasonable that anyone could not talk to me, i'm not sorry that i prefer to spend my time with my family some eves and not chat online with you, i try very hard to have an open mind and to be non judgemental of others, i feel that i am losing this side of myself within this community... we have made a few very good friends in here, friends we intend to keep long term... just at this point i've had enough weeding through the masses to find the few
please be aware that although joes is my husband and mostly agrees with me and my thoughts, this is my blog alone, he still has his own thoughts and ideas on things and please don't visit my ideals on him without first asking if he agrees
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