Romance, adventure.... a Jedi craves not these things....
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Posted:Oct 16, 2007 9:17 am
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2015 10:07 am
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Lol...maybe a Jedi doesn't but I sure do. I love holding hands, walking in the park, picnics, cuddling, flowers, all the silly things that movies, media, friends, everyone has taught us to expect from a relationship. But how does it or the lack of it affect a relationship? I was with my roommate the other day shopping and she grabs a bouquet of flowers. When I asked her who they were for, she responded for me...just because I need some. Wow! And they brighten the house, smell wonderful and come with no strings. So I reflected for a while, and decided that yes, while getting flowers and such is nice once in a while, they don't make or break the relationship. The most important thing I have found that will make or break a relationship tho is communication. If you can't talk with your partner/friend/lover, then your relationship could be in trouble. I mean, ok, so I received an email and was going to go out to lunch with this person, and thru a very unsual chain of events, I decided not to, but told my friend/lover about it and talked about it. I didn't have to, but so far the honesty is what has helped our relationship to flourish. Why hide anything, especially if you want to be a party of this wonderful lifestyle and enjoy it? And while some people tend to judge a bit more than they should, yes... a good friendship can work into more, even if in the beginning neither one of you may have intended it to. It doesn't mean we were intentionally trying to hurt anyone, or mislead them by saying we were just friends, we were, and still are, we just enjoy spending time together. Ok..so now I am rambling and totally off subject..sorry...
Ok..the adventure part. I really think that if more couples/friends etc would first of all communicate and share their ideas, thoughts, fantasies, then they could expand and pursue them. Adventure is what you make it...whether it be trying something like Mon Chalet for the first time, or something a bit more adventurous, that can keep the spice in your relationship and help your partner to fulfill dreams that maybe otherwise would have remained buried. I know that adventure for me can be many things...travel to exotic lands or just a fun adventure in the bedroom...but they are all fun and full of possiblities!!
Ok..just needed to blog!!
Have a great day everyone!!!
Peace!
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Life After Divorce at 41
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Posted:Oct 3, 2007 3:08 am
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2008 7:09 pm
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Well, it's final. I am officially single...yay for me. It's not that I am not happy to have the jerk out of my life, I am, but this brings forth a whole new range of uncertainties and dilemmas. How do you date? How do you know when to go to that next level? How do you tell someone that you care about them so much that it scares the living hell out of you, and you don't know what to do next. You don't know how they are feeling, ok...maybe a little, but you are too scared to tell them how you really feel because your scarred heart just couldn't take the rejection, and now, because you haven't said anything, you are afraid you might loose the single most wonderful person who has ever come into your life, and eventhough you are supposed to be older and wiser, you are petrified and feel like a high schooler in love all over again? Wasn't it supposed to be easier and make sense the older you get? Aren't you supposed to know what you want and go for it?? After 16yrs and a divorce, aren't you supposed to be strong, and able to take rejection as a postitive thing because you have been thru so much worse?
I guess I am comfy in my own skin, and no, I certainly don't NEED a relationship, but WANTING one with someone who is just such an incredible human being, not just the physical part, but the whole hanging out, having fun and being there part that makes it so totally awesome is something I didn't think I would have to address, especially not this soon.
Can you be blindsided by something so wonderful? How do you know if it's meant to be?
This whole new scene is scarey for me. I thought it would be fun to be footloose and fancy free, but it is terrifing! Not the being alone, that I can handle, but the fear of hey, did I just meet someone who is my ying to my yang, who is my, and I know this sounds so cliche, but my soul-mate, in a way that we can be together without any sound and be happy and content because we are together?
And then comes the reality....what if you, this really isn't what he wants?? What if he sees a whole horizon out there, just waiting to be explored,and although you are a part that he found and explored and has an enduring, lasting relationship with, there is more to see, more to explore...and you will just have to be patient? But what if the grass is greener for him elsewhere?
Ok...I am just spilling out my guts, my fears, my feelings. I guess there is Life after divorce, even if you are 41 and everyone lied to you, it never gets easier, only becomes more of an adventure!
Peace everyone!!
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