Drunk Texting and Tequila
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Posted:Jan 24, 2015 7:30 pm
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2015 4:16 pm
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As a prologue to my former blog, I ended up going to dinner after the movie with my friend. After a strong margarita and few shots of tequila I got bold and drunk texted Mr. Pussy Worshipper. What can I say? Tequila certainly makes my clothes want to fall off!
After a few teasing responses from him, it was apparent we weren't going to connect. It's probably a good thing.
Glad I stocked up on batteries. BOB is certainly going to get a work-out tonight. Sigh.
P.S. the movie was awesome. I highly recommend seeing it.
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Confession
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Posted:Jan 24, 2015 2:16 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2015 12:09 pm
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Okay, I have another confession. I have a girl crush. There are a few female bloggers that if given the opportunity to meet, I would throw my heterosexuality out the window. One of these is someone who is going through a challenge at the moment. I was happy to be there for her today.
My question is mainly directed to the few women that read my blog- Have you developed female friendships with other members/bloggers on this site? If given the opportunity to meet, would you?
I'm off to see the movie, American Sniper with a platonic female colleague. Have a good weekend!
xoxo {=}
myelin36
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Sex: If I Could Have a Do Over
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Posted:Jan 23, 2015 2:17 pm
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2015 6:57 pm
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It seemed like a good idea at the time.
When it comes to sexual misadventures, why do we feel so wrong about that which, in the heat of the moment, felt so right? If you've ever experienced any regrets over your sex life, you're definitely not the only one!
There are many reasons for second-guessing sex: It ruined a relationship; it wasn't very exciting; it made you feel dirty or unvirtuous.
From: Archives of Sexual Behavior, 2013:
55% of men regret "not indicating my sexual attraction to someone."
48% of men regret "not being more sexually adventurous in my youth."
43% of women regret moving "too fast" or having too much sex.
41% of women regret "losing my virginity to the wrong person."
Somehow, I'm not at all surprised that men have polar opposite results than women. After all, like so many other things, men and women experience sex very differently. As the researchers of this study explained, casual sex can have much higher consequences for women than for men (since they're the ones at risk for pregnancy) and so it only stands to reason that they'd have a more emotional reaction to a sexual experience they weren't ready for.
How about you? Do you have any sexual regrets?
My one sexual regret is losing my virginity when I was 16 in a casual encounter to a person that I met one summer visiting my grand parents. I never saw him after that summer.
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You Can't Outrun Your Insecurities
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Posted:Jan 23, 2015 5:42 am
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2015 11:10 am
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Last weekend I attended a professional training workshop with my business partner and a woman interning at our practice. Throughout the course of the training, the three of us dined together for lunch, dinner and occasionally breakfast. Saturday evening, my partner treated us to dinner at a 4 star dining establishment.
At the conclusion of our meal, the intern leaned over to me and announced, "Wow, you have quite an appetite!" I was dumbfounded. My colleague looked at me and stated, "I think what she means to say is for being so thin, you can sure eat." I shrugged it off but could not help but feel secretly angry by what I felt were passive aggressive jabs at me. It is a faus paux to make such statements to anyone overweight but not if you're healthy and thin. What was painstakingly obvious was that I was the only person at the table that was thin.
Insecurity is the root of a lot of issues in women particularly with low self-esteem. You’ve undoubtedly heard it said before that solid relationships are built on trust, or at least something to that effect, and I think most people would find that difficult to argue with.
The thing about insecurity is that it can sometimes be hard to spot — or worse, sometimes you think it’s a good thing. Quite often it could be the reason why a friend or a lover is pulling away.
Here are some signs that you might be an insecure person:
1. You get easily jealous of others.
2. You insert yourself into every conversation regardless of the topic.
3. You constantly seek validation.
4. You are the queen (or king) of guilt trips.
5. You run others down (this can be covert or overt actions).
6. You are bossy and domineering.
7. You don't take criticism well.
8. You belittle others' achievements.
9. You take joy in the misfortunes of others.
10. You constantly have to one-up others.
Do you find yourself guilty of doing any of these things? Maybe you aren't even aware that you do them. The good news is that insecurity can be cured. Self-esteem is the at the root of the issue. Examining your own inner self critic may be helpful.
Have a wonderful weekend friends.
xoxo{=}
myelin36
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HNW- Hands
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Posted:Jan 21, 2015 3:51 am
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2015 10:23 pm
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Hands can be soothing when they gently massage or caress. They can also bring you to great heights of orgasmic pleasure. What can your hands do?
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The Kiss
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Posted:Jan 19, 2015 6:08 pm
Last Updated:Jan 21, 2015 5:02 pm
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I look at you-
and I want to kiss you.
More than anything-
just a kiss.
A kiss to tell me
that you trust your lips
against mine.
A kiss to prove to me
that I can still see the world
with my eyes closed.
A kiss to remind me
that actions truly do speak
louder than words.
I look at you-
and I just want to kiss you.
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Do You Practice What You Preach?
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Posted:Jan 16, 2015 5:47 am
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2015 6:03 am
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Observers of human behavior have noticed that people often make moral claims that they cannot live up to. There are countless examples of scandals involving religious and political leaders who talk publicly about living up to high moral standards, but whose personal lives do not measure up.
Recently, I came across an example of this. Driving home from work the other day, I glanced over at the vehicle in the lane next to mine, a Toyota Prius. As we know, Prius owners typically are thought to be environmentally conscious individuals. I found it amusing that the owner of this Prius took things a step further by sporting a personalized license plate stating, "IMGREEN." Okay. I get it. You want everyone to know that you are environmentally responsible.
As I passed the vehicle, I glanced over and was surprised to observe the owner's dry cleaning garments hanging in the back driver's side window. Hold the phone! Last time I checked, dry cleaners used toxic chemicals that pollute and are harmful to the environment! So much for being "Green."
So, this led me to think, do you make claims to be a devout ____________ (fill in the blank here.) Have you made consessions that go against these ideals? Curious minds want to know! Happy Friday and have a good weekend!
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HNW Beach
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Posted:Jan 14, 2015 5:10 am
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2015 4:12 am
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Last time I checked, Kansas was a landlocked state. Unfortunately rather than skipping this week's theme, I've decided to share with you photos from my vacation to Negril Jamaica.
We stayed at the Swept Away Resort and these photos were taken in April of 1998. Yes, that's how long it's been since I've been to a beach. Sad, I know. Perhaps it's time that I take another beach vacation.
Our accommodations
Here's the shot you've been waiting for
Happy HNW! Enjoy!
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The Power of Humility
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Posted:Jan 13, 2015 7:25 am
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2015 3:23 am
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The blogs have been saturated themes of conflict, lately. No wonder. Popular media depicts conflict routinely. We say we love peace makers, but our news stories focus more on villans because that's what attracts viewers. As a society, there is more focus on actors that are more self-serving, and narcissistic.
Little wonder that humble people seem a bit strange to us, as if they’re following some syncopated life rhythm that few people around them quite “get.” Humility is widely under-rated in most Western cultures, it seems to me. It’s also widely misunderstood – maybe that’s why it’s under-rated.
So, what exactly is humility? It’s a subtle but powerful concept, and I find myself having to define it mostly in terms of what it is not. My conception of humility is what you have when you give up certain self aggrandizing thought patterns, reflexes, and behaviors. Humility is a kind of liberation, a paradoxical state of freedom that defies culturally imposed norms of narcissistic “me-first” thinking.
Humility is characterized by 1) a sense of emotional autonomy, and 2) freedom from the control of the “competitive reflex.
Humility is about emotional neutrality. It involves an experience of growth in which you no longer need to put yourself above others, but you don’t put yourself below them, either. Everyone is your peer – from the most “important” person to the least. You’re just as valuable as every other human being on the planet, no more and no less. It’s about behaving and reacting from purposes, not emotions. You learn to simply disconnect or de-program the competitive reflex in situations where it's not productive.
The legendary gestalt therapist Fritz Perls said, “I am I and you are you; I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine.” It’s a liberating idea, I believe.
So, how do you free yourself from the competitive reflex? That requires, first, that you recognize the reflex when it rises up in you; and second, that you choose a more versatile response.
The esteemed psychologist William James once stated, “The deepest craving in all human beings is the desire to be appreciated.”
That being said, I pose this challenge to you, the reader of this blog- do something every day that demonstrates humility to others. This can be as simple as leaving a heartfelt compliment on someone's blog. You never know the power that this can have.
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The Novel
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Posted:Jan 12, 2015 8:11 am
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2015 2:18 am
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Write me something beautiful
without a single sheet of paper
or the use of a tedious pen.
I want the ink to spill
from your tongue,
as your lips against mine
become the words
and the fluidity of your hands
creates the punctuation.
Our breath will craft the diction
and our kisses slowly will become
the paragraphs.
The movement of our bodies
in unison creates
the perfectly written chapters
of this beautifully
seductive novel.
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Pussy Worship
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Posted:Jan 11, 2015 10:42 am
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2015 6:15 pm
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In a sense, most heterosexual guys worship pussy. But real pussy worship means taking on a more subserviant role; parting her delicate flower with your tongue; savoring and being highly aroused simply by the pleasure you are giving her with no expectation of reciprocation. Maybe you might find yourself begging her to fuck you but your pleasure is insignificant to the pleasure you are bringing her.
I had no idea that such a man existed. There is definitely a difference between men who prefer oral as a appetizer versus a man whose entire focus is on worshipping your nether regions. Last night I found myself on the receiving end of such a man. Let me just say, being naturally submissive, I found myself in a switch role. Being more assertive with expressing my wants and needs increased his desire to please me.
He brought me countless orgasms. The more orgasms he brought me with his mouth, the more excited he became. He was so excited he spent several hours making sure my pussy was well satisfied before he begged me to let him fuck me. And he was well-rewarded for his efforts.
Do you find yourself attaching an almost sacred reverence for the vagina, particularly at the expense of real sex? If so, you just might be a pussy worshipper. Sounds selfish, you might say. Not if worshipping a dripping wet cunt is your thing.
I'm curious. Have you ever experienced this phenomenon? I am not talking 15-20 minutes of eating out your partner. I am referring to HOURS spent pleasing your partner with your mouth before any penetration is involved.
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Shit Stirrers. Are you One?
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Posted:Jan 10, 2015 2:41 pm
Last Updated:Jan 11, 2015 1:51 pm
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The Urban Dictionary defines a shit stirrer as: One who manipulates events to cause trouble for other people for their own amusement.
I've done a really good job containing my thoughts and rising above some of the pettiness of a handful of bloggers here. I may read an occasional blog posting from a so-called shit stirrer but I have never commented or supported any particular stance on issues shit stirrers in here create.
A particular spice girl that we all know, reports "I don't block anyone" has decided to block me from viewing her blog, her profile, etc. etc. Why this person chooses to block a benign person who creates no drama for her or anyone else is beyond me.
Yes, I am calling her out. Not that I give two shits but I would like an explanation. If she's going to be a shit stirrer, she needs to lick the spoon. End of Rant.
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Fat Shaming/Acceptance
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Posted:Jan 10, 2015 11:12 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2015 1:30 pm
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PinkxxxKisses posed a thoughtful question in her blog about the prevalence of "fat shaming." As a former BBW that weighed 210 pounds five years ago, I too have experienced this phenomenon.
I am curious about your thoughts. Do fat men who hook-up with fit women receive less flack than fat women that hook up with fit men? Have you ever dated a person whose physique was drastically different than yours? Did it make a difference on whether you introduced them to your friends?
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