Swinging Is More Than A Numbers Game
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Posted:Feb 20, 2015 5:27 am
Last Updated:Nov 8, 2017 9:19 am
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I’ve always had problems with quantity figures provided by the famous. Wilt Chamberlain’s notorious claim to have bedded more than 20,000 different women means he not only had to charm, but also perform, with more than 1.2 women every day of his life, from the time he was 15 until he died at 63.
That’s a lot of partners, considering that in between all that seduction activity (or at least pulling back the bed sheets) Chamberlain had to work in layup and fast break practices. It averages to more than different partner a day, with no time off for federal holidays, religious observances, or just sheer exhaustion. And it stands to reason he enjoyed some of them enough to want a second engagement…
ESPN, via the Associated Press, ran a piece on how Chamberlain’s claim affected his image under the headline “Sexual claim transformed perception of Wilt” – although if there is any truth at all to that number, “Wilt” is the last name he should have been given.
Warren Beatty at least had the decency to claim that the nearly 13,000 figure attributed to him was a concoction from the mind of an unauthorized biographer, according to The Independent’s “There's no way I have slept with 12,775 women, claims Beatty.” Perhaps not, but given the list of actresses he’s been linked with, it’s clear he’d like to thank the Academy… personally.
These figures make swing club operator Marie Calvert’s claim of 3,000 men in 35 years (85 per annum, for the math averse) quite tame in comparison – and quite plausible. Even better, Calvert’s healthy embrace of her activities shines through in “Experience: I’ve slept with 3,000 men,” a joyful first-person tale which recently ran in The Guardian.
Calvert offers an example of exactly the sort of person who should swing (it’s really not for everyone). As she writes, “[sex is] the most enjoyable, exhilarating, satisfying way to spend your time. Some women like yoga, some like badminton. I like carnality.” She’s pretty clear about the distinction between sex and love: She loves her husband of 44 years. But he was her one and only until she was 28, and in her eyes “It’s not natural to stick with one sexual partner for 60 years. Life is about experimenting and experiencing, and that’s what we do.”
In 1997, the two opened a swingers’ club in Sheffield, England. Paradoxically, doing so limited her personal activities in some ways, but opened ‘em up in others. As she writes, “We never have sex during opening hours – it’s our business and we’re professional about it. But, of course, when the place shuts, we’ve got an entire club full of facilities – and an ever-growing circle of open-minded couples – to play with. It’s not all been perfect, of course. Not every lover is attentive. I remember in my 40s going with an 18-year-old, just to see what it would be like. Quick was the answer.”
The comments on the article – more than 1,800 of ‘em, since we’re focusing on quantities today –are about what one might expect. A larger-than-usual number fall into the “This comment was removed by a moderator because it didn't abide by our community standards” category. But the English being the English, there are also a few waggish remarks, mostly of the provincial variety. As “CapnMorgan” typed:
"...so we we went to this swingers' club. 30 quid at the door...!"
"This is in Sheffield, mind..."
"...and condoms and lube were extra...!"
"...and listen to this..."
"There were a queue a mile long for the swing room!"
"The dirty, evil, robbing bastards!
To which “BigBarOfDairyMilk” responded “I can't stop laughing at this. I can't imagine thrifty Yorkshire types actually paying real money to have sex.”
Rule, Britannia. And rule, Marie Calvert, too, for letting her exuberant experiences serve as both target and inspiration.
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“Warning Signs” Is The Topic For The Fifth Virtual Symposium!
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Posted:Feb 15, 2015 11:52 pm
Last Updated:Mar 15, 2015 11:11 pm
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While “Food” came on strong as a potential topic for the fifth virtual symposium, “Warning Signs” had jumped out to an early lead which it never relinquished, and is the topic of choice.
The virtual symposium is a simultaneous act of blogging. Here’s how it works: Anybody with a blog on this site is welcome to join in. All choosing to participate will create something – an essay, a cartoon, an erotic story, a memoir, a series of one-line aphorisms, an image collage, a photo montage, a poem, or anything else – relating to “Warning Signs.” At a pre-arranged time and date (see below) all participants post their contributions.
Want inspiration – or just some good reads? Here’s a link to the participants’ list from the fourth symposium: Participants List For The Fourth Virtual Symposium The One Piece Of Advice Id Give
Feel free to take the basic idea of “Warnings Signs” and stretch it to as wild an interpretation as you like -- the post should reflect you! The last thing we need is a dozen monotonous texts on the same topic. Anything goes, as long as there is a trace of the original idea in the post.
On the morning of Feb. 22 (a Sunday, for those keeping score), all participants will post their creations. Please, please, post ‘em to your own blogs early: I do want to link to them in a central post here, but I don’t want to be stapled to my desk all day.
I'll be responsible for posting links to your blogs here – I want to make this as effortless for participants as possible! I will, of course, post latecomers… people do check back to see whether new participants have joined the symposium. But after the morning of Feb. 22, I may not be updating the list as obsessively.
As for contributions themselves: The idea is to create something new, as opposed to using posts to respond to other posts (although the comments section will, of course, remain fair game). Ping me, and I’ll use a post on this blog that day to link to all contributions.
A suggestion: Participants may want to refer to either the virtual symposium or the topic itself in their headline. Not a requirement – there are no requirements, save for originality and participation – but a suggestion which will let the wide blog community know what we’re doing.
This is not a contest. No souvenir mugs will be sent, nor ribbons awarded. The idea here is for those interested to, on a single day, offer an interpretation of a single topic for the sheer fun of it.
By all means, encourage other bloggers to participate – and to let me know they’re doing so, either through this post or via email, so on the morning of Feb. 22 I can link to their posts. Oh, and please consider this an invitation – if not a request – to the symposium both on your own blogs, and in individual requests to bloggers whom you’d like to see represented. The more the merrier, right? There are some folks with very distinct voices on this site who aren’t yet participating – let’s bring ‘em in and make ‘em one of us, one of us, one of us!
Remember, of course, to keep things in your voice!
Can’t wait to see the results!
the symposium, the symposium, the symposium... the viewers you bring in may be your own. Can't get more (verbally) naked than that...
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Just In Time For “50 Shades” – My Entry Into The Poetry Smackdown!
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Posted:Feb 11, 2015 3:19 pm
Last Updated:Nov 8, 2017 9:30 am
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Props to myelin36 for hosting, and ProfPlayful for touting, a poetry contest! As myelin36 indicates, she’s taking entries until end-day CST Feb. 14.
The rules, for those participating, are to create an original poem that reflects the theme “unholy matrimony.” Specifically, as myelin35 put it (Poetry Smackdown Topic Announcement), “Judging will be based on the writer's ability to creatively incorporate the topic into the poem.”
My entry follows – and yes, “unholy matrimony” is absolutely, positively incorporated. May the best bard win!
Upon First Looking Into An Empty Frigidaire
Nigh comes the hour to eat, but cupboard bare.
Had not the time to shop: The days flew by.
O stomach! You must share in my despair
Lest I commit a sin gastronomy.
Yon kitchen, it contains some condiments
My taste buds rise in arms: The mix is bad!
Avoid such speculative accidents
Tobiko-topping carob-coated shad.
Resist the urge to join the Trix and beets
Ignore the whim to merge the bran and steak
Maintain the sanctity of boiled sweets
Offer not them mixed with some Shake ‘n’ Bake.
Now, culinary whims create debate
Yet flavors must blend well – respect the plate!
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No Super Bowl Pick? Pity The Team With The Swinging Coach Ain’t In It
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Posted:Jan 31, 2015 2:12 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2015 4:39 am
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Non-football fans know that Super Bowl Sunday is the best time to get a hard-to-score restaurant reservation, or to wander around a usually crowded popular attraction. But there will be those who – either out of boredom or obligation – tune into the game without really caring which team wins.
What a pity that the Buffalo Bills aren’t represented in the big game. Were the Bills playing, the choice for the swinging community would be easy. Current head coach Rex Ryan has allegedly used Alt to feature his wife, Michelle – especially her feet – for the joyful purpose of non-matrimonial gratification, according to “Will Kinky Bills Coach Consider Friendly QB to Fill Top Position?,” an article in the Niagara Falls Reporter.
The Reporter gloriously recounted the Ryans’ alleged participation in variant sexuality, a list of activities which supposedly includes “Rex's 2010 involvement in foot fetish videos featuring Michelle,” and “string of photos of Michelle as a foot fetish model with a black man – kissing, rubbing and smelling her feet” – a description that has the unfortunate smack of sensationalism.
The real juice came from what supposedly was a listing for the couple on a similar site to this. Quoth the Reporter: “After the foot fetish pictures surfaced... Mediatakeout posted X-rated pictures of Michelle. It turns out these may have come from Ryan and Michelle's online account on [that site], an adult swingers/hookup site. The account was apparently used to solicit sex partners for Michelle; her graphically nude photos used to allure men.”
To allure men! The rapscallions! (There’s at least on regular blogger on this site for whom this is true – at least, as far as feet go. Since he is a connoisseur, I look forward to his review of her tootsies from a podierotic perspective.)
Regarding the rest of Michelle Ryan’s body, well, Bustedcoverage offers details under the headline “WHY REX RYAN WIFE TATTOO DOESN’T SHOCK US: THERE ARE NSFW LEG-SPREADING MRS. RYAN PHOTOS.” The full headline includes the site name, which I can’t reproduce here.
As represented on Bustedcoverage, the profile for ihavepretty feet reads, in part, “My wife is a knockout, she has tiny little tits but 2 inch nipples, and she has a hairy blounde [sic] pussy. She has perfect size 5 feet for you foot lovers and a great ass! I love womens feet and want to watch my wife take a big one in all 3 holes!”
Is the profile real? A screen capture in the Bustedcoverage article sure looks like a real Various profile. And it lists Ellicott City, Maryland, as the couple’s location – the profile dates from the time Ryan was the Baltimore Raven’s defensive coordinator/assistant head coach.
Furthermore, Ryan has never denied it. Pressed about it in 2010, Ryan gave variations on “It’s a personal matter and I don’t want to discuss it.” Most teams and sports reporters have brushed off its relevance to his coaching jobs, while gleefully reporting as much of the details as they could, in family-oriented media.
I say bully for the Ryans: They’ve found something that works for them, it doesn’t have an impact on their ability to complete the tasks appropriate to their jobs, and it doesn’t hurt anyone. So who am I rooting for in the Super Bowl?
The Buffalo Bills, of course!*
*Yeah, yeah, I know. I’m going with a write-in candidate. If it’s good enough for political elections, it should be good enough for the Super Bowl.
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Virtual Symposium on The One Piece Of Advice for Newbie Swingers: Slow Down!
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Posted:Jan 24, 2015 8:56 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2015 11:31 pm
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This blog entry is part of the fourth virtual symposium, an informal collection of bloggers who – purely for the hell of it – voted on a single topic (The One Piece Of Advice I’d Give) and agreed, on or about Jan. 24, to post their interpretations of that topic. A continually updated list of participants can be found here: Participants List For The Fourth Virtual Symposium The One Piece Of Advice Id Give
The Internet runneth over with advice for newbie and would-be swingers. It’s hard to know what constitutes an expert in swinging – there are no academic programs in it, nor is there any other sort of certification for individuals.
But good advice is often self-apparent, and one of the best pieces of it around comes from Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues. Ensler wasn’t talking about swinging per se when she asked a number of women to answer the question “If your vagina could talk, and it could say two words, what would it say?”
The top answer? “Slow down!”
Ensler is right: About the only place where slowing down is not advised is on an on ramp.
There’s a chopped-up version of The Vagina Monologues on a popular video hosting site: Search for it on the video sharing site (he said, after his post was denied because of the link) Be forewarned: The video deals, in part, with some VERY difficult, very unsettling subjects which can’t be named here. That said, Ensler’s piece is absolutely worth watching.
Relationship counselor Rach Wilson echoes Ensler’s advice on the blogsite heednly (“For liberated and sexually-adventurous couples and individuals like you”) in a post titled “HOW TO APPROACH THE ‘LET’S START SWINGING’ CONVERSATION.” As Wilson puts it, “The key here is affirming your feelings for [your partner], suggesting the idea and to start slow.” (Emphasis mine.)
Wilson’s post is worth reading in full, but as part of it she offers (and elaborates on) five hints regarding how to broach the topic of swinging with a partner. The subtext of “Slow down” shines through in each. The five points – each of which has more to it than what I give below – are:
1. If you haven’t even broached the topic at all, then test their receptiveness by throwing in the odd comment or question.
2. When it comes to “the” conversation, reaffirm how much you love and adore them before suggesting you open up your relationship to swinging fun.
3. Discuss the idea of trying something new to spice things up and explore new things; something very benign to start with.
4. Put them in the driver’s seat; let them know there is no pressure and at anytime they can call a “time out” or halt things if they are feeling uncomfortable.
5. Give them the “temporary” option.
Wilson also offers tips about when to – and not to – introduce the topic. Basically, don’t use variant sex as a weapon, and do bring it up in the context of an additional joyful experience.
Swinging is an activity that requires trust. Building trust in a relationship – or, in the case of someone who is “just” a swing partner, a friendship – takes time. A partner who has been coerced into swinging, whether by nagging, bullying, or bribery – before he or she is ready isn’t going to be a good partner… and these tactics can damage a relationship.
Slow down.
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Participants List For The Fourth Virtual Symposium: The One Piece Of Advice I’d Give
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Posted:Jan 24, 2015 3:55 am
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2015 11:46 pm
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Welcome to the fourth virtual symposium, an informal collection of bloggers who – purely for the hell of it – voted on a single topic (The One Piece Of Advice I’d Give) and agreed, on or about Jan. 24, to post their interpretations of that topic. There are no prizes or awards, save for the opportunity to build a more-closely knit blog community. All bloggers are invited to participate in this, as well as all future, virtual symposiums. To participate, watch this blog for future symposium topics: We anticipate doing one per month.
The rules, such as they are, are simple: Once a topic was picked, all bloggers were and are invited to interpret the topic as loosely as they choose, and offer any type of post they like which either tangentially or directly addresses the topic, whether through fantasy/fiction, essay, photographs, image collages, poems, one-liners, or any other form they choose. Contact me to be included on this list, which I will update as new participants make themselves known.
We (that’s the editorial we – or perhaps I have a tapeworm) hope readers will use these virtual forums to discover new, interesting voices. A request of readers: If you find an entry you especially like, please don’t be shy about leaving an attaboy/attagirl on the appropriate blog. Applause never hurts!
A continually updated list of participants can be found below: Please check back often, as I’ll add new posts as often as appropriate (and as other responsibilities allow). Feel free to toss me an email if I haven’t included your submission!
Note: The site's system is being temperamental about posting hot links: Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't... sometimes they take a few attempts. If a link isn't hot, please track down the appropriate blogs. They're worth it.
AND... BY ALL MEANS, IF YOU HAVEN'T CONTRIBUTED AND WANT TO, PLEASE DO SO! Was hoping to get most of the submissions input at the start of the start of the day... but people do keep checking the list for new contributors... so if you're so moved, write a post and let me know so I can include you.
Hey, gang, looks like we picked up some new participants! Check the list, and give ‘em an appropriately inappropriate welcome!
In no particular order at all, our participants include:
CampoGirl: The Hung & The Breastless The best advice my momma ever gave me Symposium entry
apollorising2021: Going LOCAL [post 3569228]
Osphena: So, you like older women? Mmmm [post 3569250]
Koffla: My Life Is A Comic Strip [post 3569371]
dnafun11: Observations [post 3569380]
Petitandnaughty: It's a Mad, Mad, Mad world... Virtual Symposium post Piece of advice I39d give
MnSweet: Sweet Musings [post 3569450]
Kzoopair (by Bill): Take two- they’re small Wear Comfortable Shoes
khuXBFXM8u: The Down and Dirty The Virtual Symposium The One Piece of Advice Id Give
_Lady_X_: LongCoolDrink of Verblissitude [post 3569494]
Kathynj: Done and Dusted [post 3569529]
wettmuse3: And the world spins madly on.. Virtual Symposium To my next lover
MitchVMadison: Mitch’s Poetry Corner For the Symposium The One Piece Of Advice I'd Give
Wyckedsxxxy: Thundercunting [post 3569511]
Tazzerman2000: Cosmic Debris Part Three! The One Piece of Advice Id Give
MidcoastMILF: Before you Write [post 3569630]
KtMnDu: Ramblings.............. [post 3569699]
smartasswoman: Please Send Me Absolutely Free Virtual Symposium If I Could Give One Piece of Advice
SnuggleBuni41: Bag of Smashed Assholes [post 3569739]
Humorguaranteed: Confessions of a Lifestyle Man Virtual Symposium on The One Piece Of Advice for Newbie Swingers Slow Down
mature_951: psst, over here.... [post 3569758]
sweet_VM: In your Dreams The One Piece Of Advice Id Give The Fourth Virtual Symposium
rascalQuality: Connect 4 [post 3569773]
VerandahPoly: From the Outback Verandah The one piece of advice I'd give
CookiesNMischief: Hands in the Cookie Jar Respectfully, Yours The One Piece of Advice Id Give
Mature43Sums: MatureMocha Unknown
demonicsexkitten: Life, or something like it Fourth Virtual Symposium Family Memories
Kzoopair (by PD): Take two- they’re small Free Advice
justskin1: Naked Thoughts One Piece of Advice I39d Gi ve
KItkat1415: Kinks and High Jinks [post 3569951]
George_W_Johnson: Yukon Gold [post 3569252]
intendadiversion: Inside an Adulteress [post 3569843]
intendadiversion: Inside an Adulteress [post 3570092] (No, they're not the same post. Check 'em out!)
1EroticauthorTwo JJ's Fantasies and Thoughts [post 3570097]
kinkyfem73: Kinkyland [post 3570464]
Myelin36: Dirty Little Secrets Virtual Symposium To Thine Own Self Be True
AntiquePearl: The Observatory [post 3570583]
ProfPlayful: The Naughty Professor How to Enjoy the Lovely Ladies of AFF Advice for the 4th Virtual Symposium
burblesback07: The Erection Inspection The One Piece Of Advice Id Give Virtual Symposium
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“The One Piece of Advice I’d Give” Is The Topic For The Fourth Virtual Symposium!
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Posted:Jan 18, 2015 11:34 pm
Last Updated:Jan 24, 2015 12:34 pm
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We had three strong contenders for the topic of the fourth virtual symposium, but “The One Piece of Advice I’d Give” narrowly edged out two strong competitors and is the topic of choice.
The selection process was a lot of fun to watch: We had more voters this time than at any other – and thank you, one and all! The runner-up topics will be presented again in months to come.
Now, the details for those new to the virtual symposium, and for those needing a refresher. First off, anybody with a blog on this site is welcome to participate. All choosing to participate will create something – an essay, an erotic story, a memoir, a series of one-line aphorisms, an image collage, a photo montage, a poem, or anything else – relating to “Inappropriate Temptation”. Want inspiration – or just some good reads? Here’s a link to the participants’ list from the third symposium: Participants List For The Third Virtual Symposium Inappropriate Temptation
Feel free to take the basic idea of the one piece of advice I’d give and stretch it to as wild an interpretation as you like -- the post should reflect you! The last thing we need is a dozen monotonous texts on the same topic. Anything goes, as long as there is a trace of the original idea in the post.
On the morning of Jan. 24 (a Saturday, for those keeping score), all participants will post their creations. Please, please, post ‘em to your own blogs early: I do want to link to them in a central post here, but I don’t want to be stapled to my desk all day.
I'll be responsible for posting links to your blogs here – I want to make this as effortless for participants as possible! I will, of course, post latecomers… people do check back to see whether new participants have joined the symposium. But after the morning of Jan. 24, I may not be updating the list as obsessively.
As for contributions themselves: The idea is to create something new, as opposed to using posts to respond to other posts (although the comments section will, of course, remain fair game). Ping me, and I’ll use a post on this blog that day to link to all contributions.
A suggestion: Participants may want to refer to either the virtual symposium or the topic itself in their headline. Not a requirement – there are no requirements, save for originality and participation – but a suggestion which will let the wide blog community know what we’re doing.
This is not a contest. No souvenir mugs will be sent, nor ribbons awarded. The idea here is for those interested to, on a single day, offer an interpretation of a single topic for the sheer fun of it.
By all means, encourage other bloggers to participate – and to let me know they’re doing so, either through this post or via email, so on Jan. 24 I can link to their posts. Oh, and please consider this an invitation – if not a request – to the symposium both on your own blogs, and in individual requests to bloggers whom you’d like to see represented. The more the merrier, right? There are some folks with very distinct voices on this site who aren’t yet participating – let’s bring ‘em in and make ‘em one of us, one of us, one of us!
Remember, of course, to keep things in your voice!
Can’t wait to see the results!
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Swingers Take The Plunge: Club Hosts Icy New Year’s Dip
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Posted:Jan 13, 2015 1:38 am
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2015 12:05 pm
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On January 1 of this year, the temperature in Ontario was between -2 and -8 degrees Celsius, or – for those preferring alternate scales – 28 and 18 degrees Fahrenheit. Chances are that at Cherry Beach, on the shores of Lake Ontario, the air was even colder.
Perfect weather for an outdoor swim? A few dozen swingers, pulled together by sex club Oasis Aqualounge, thought so. The club’s website features photographs (discreet shots – no faces) under the heading “2015 Annual Naked Polar Bear Dip at Cherry Beach!” Couples and single women who participated were given free admission to the club for the day and a complementary hot beverage.
The free admission may explain why, in the photographs, women are well represented: For the most part, women are more sensible about these types of activities. Furthermore, while the gratis one-day pass was a lovely bonus, one can only wonder how many folks took advantage of it: It’s hard to swing when one’s teeth won’t… stop… chattering. (No, no, that’s not fair: The on-premises club’s website boasts of its sauna, hot tub, and heated outdoor pool.)
Personal note: I’ve gone into the Atlantic on three separate New Year’s days: It was a lot of fun, but absolutely not something rational people do. And I didn’t have the lure of a free pass to a club – or any other incentive – to serve as justification.
Then again, when I went in I wore a bathing suit and a t-shirt, unlike the Oasis Aqualounge participants, who were skyclad. Props to them – especially the gentlemen, who clearly weren’t daunted by the thought (and reality) of cold-weather shrinkage.
While some organizations link New Year’s Day dips with charity fundraising activities, Oasis Aqualounge didn’t, which is a pity: Doing so might have generated some community goodwill, although there’s always the possibility that recipients might be close-minded about accepting funds raised by such an entity.
That said, the club has raised food donations for the Daily Bread Food Bank, according to its website… but who knows whether the specific provenance of those donations was clear to the Bank?
But that’s a moot point, at least for this year. As Oasis Aqualounge spokesperson Fatima Mechtab told the Toronto Sun, “We are doing this just to ring-in the New Year naked. We believe in the freedom of being nude.”
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Tove Lo’s A Singer, But Is She A Swinger? A Look At “Habits (Stay High)”
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Posted:Jan 10, 2015 9:31 pm
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2015 5:37 pm
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Anyone having a “Did I just hear that?” moment in a public place recently may have caught a bit of “Habits (Stay High),” a tune from Swedish singer Tove Lo. For the uninitiated, the song –
Well, here's the first stanza:
I eat my dinner in my bathtub
Then I go to sex clubs
Watching freaky people gettin' it on
It doesn't make me nervous
If anything I'm restless
Yeah, I've been around and I've seen it all
The song – and the whole EP on which it appears – is autobiographical, with a touch or two of creative license about a bad breakup. As Lo told Out magazine in an article titled “Tove Lo Is the World’s Most Honest Pop Star,” “It’s about one relationship. It’s all in order, that’s how it happened.”
This raises a question, though: Does she, in fact, swing? A reporter for English newspaper The Guardian posed that very question to her in “One to watch: Tove Lo.” As Guardian reporter Tim Jonze wrote:
“Lo has described Habits as her most honest song, so I put her to a quick honesty test. Has she ever, as the lyrics say, visited sex clubs?
‘Er, I can't talk about that… er, OK, yeah, but only once!’”
What about a later line, in which Lo sings about picking daddies up in playgrounds? The Guardian didn’t shy away from that question, either:
“‘Umm… ok, maybe not in the playground,’ [Lo] says, looking like she'd quite like the honesty test to end.”
So much for what happens in the clubs (or the playgrounds) staying in the playgrounds! The Guardian’s Jonze also asked her about personal backlash: Quoth the Guardian:
“Lo says a song can never be too truthful, but being so forthright can cause problems. Her parents, both academics without a musical bone between them, have found her racier songs somewhat difficult to process.
“‘They've been worried,’ she says. ‘They don't watch the videos, they stay away from the lyrics, and my dad has not said one thing about my tattoos!’”
In Paper magazine’s article “Scandinavian Singer Tove Lo Doesn’t Want To Be A Good Girl,” she remains fiercely unapologetic – as she should.
“I feel like there's something good about being there to say, ‘sometimes girls mess up and you don't have to try to be the good, perfect girl,’ Tove Lo says during [Paper magazine’s] interview. In a world that is often completely insane, she laments, ‘there's always that pressure to be kind of sane but you don't always have to be a good girl or act perfectly. You can always correct your mistakes, so don't be afraid to speak your mind.’”
Swinging – or at least singing about swinging – sells, though: “Habits” was a double-platinum single in both the United States and Canada.
So is that the last word on Lo and swinging? Maybe. There’s a quote making the rounds, ostensibly from Q magazine: “It all happened. My habit isn't to go to sex clubs, but I have been. Some people have a problem with me portraying that ugliness, but that's the only way I can write.”
I haven’t been able to find it in Q itself – I’ve only seen it on a few “behind the lyrics” sites, so I’ve got questions about its veracity. But for the sake of argument let’s assume it’s more or less authentic. Ugliness?
The swinging community isn’t any place to work out your relationship issues, whether as a single person, a couple, or a poly arrangement. When folks find swinging ugly, it’s likely because of the baggage their bringing to it. But ugliness in and of itself? No.
I sure hope that quote’s a fake.
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A Capper For The Holiday Season: Kris Kringle Documentary Includes A Swinging Santa
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Posted:Jan 6, 2015 9:25 pm
Last Updated:Nov 8, 2017 1:29 pm
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I’m a touch late for Twelfth Night – January 5, when the Three Wise Men visited wee babe Jesus, is regarded as the end of the Yuletide season. Certainly here in secular New York City the Christmas tree corpses have begun to appear on the sidewalks, although that may be more due to the scheduled garbage pickup day than any ecumenical observance.
Side note number one: An awful lot of photos of the female form undraped, both on this site and elsewhere, feature said subject either in red holiday hats, or posed near a Christmas tree, or both. Save for the naughty/nice duality, this particular motif is mystifying. I’ve yet to see members of my faith pose with nine blobs of burning wax somehow adorning their bodies (safely, safely!) – although if [blog misssquirtsALOT], who coordinates the Half-Naked Wednesday photo community, ever makes that one of the weekly themes, I will personally treat her to all the latkes and dreidel-spinning she can handle.
But a blog about swinging should not let the season pass without a bang – the whimper, one might imagine, will come later, with the opening of credit card bills. To avoid religious strife, let’s move from Jesus to another holiday figure – Santa Claus.
Thankfully, the intersection between St. Nick and swinging has been neatly made in “I am Santa Claus,” a documentary movie about the private lives of four professional Santa Clauses… including the late Rob Figley, who in between donning the red velvet and spreading good tidings was “a proud swinger and employee of a Ron Jeremy-owned Portland sex club,” according to “‘I Am Santa Claus' is a heartwarming and eclectic documentary,” a film review which appeared on Philly dot com web site.
There was some conflict between Figley’s 11-months-out-of-the-year job and his Santa activities, especially since he also served as president of the International Brotherhood of Real Bearded Santas. Alas, the movie, in its rush to cover four different Santas, doesn’t go too deeply into this conflict.
Side note number two: I’ve met a professional Santa or two in my time, and there really is a difference between a Santa who has his own real beard and one who straps it on. Those with real beards get paid at a higher rate (really!).
Why should there be any conflict at all? Guy was a swinger, and played with adults. What happens in the club stays in the club, right? The Columbian, a Vancouver newspaper, ran a lovely obituary for him when he died in September 2013 titled “Longtime local Santa Claus, wedding officiant dies at 57,” which focused on the joy he brought to the role.
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Participants List For The Third Virtual Symposium: Inappropriate Temptation
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Posted:Nov 1, 2014 5:46 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2015 11:32 pm
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Welcome to the third virtual symposium, an informal collection of bloggers who – purely for the hell of it – voted on a single topic (Inappropriate Temptation) and agreed, on or about Nov. 1, to post their interpretations of that topic. There are no prizes or awards, save for the opportunity to build a more-closely knit blog community. All bloggers are invited to participate in this, as well as all future, virtual symposiums. To participate, watch this blog for future symposium topics: We anticipate doing one per month.
The rules, such as they are, are simple: Once a topic was picked, all bloggers were and are invited to interpret the topic as loosely as they choose, and offer any type of post they like which either tangentially or directly addresses the topic, whether through fantasy/fiction, essay, photographs, image collages, poems, one-liners, or any other form they choose. Contact me to be included on this list, which I will update as new participants make themselves known.
We (that’s the editorial we – or perhaps I have a tapeworm) hope readers will use these virtual forums to discover new, interesting voices. A request of readers: If you find an entry you especially like, please don’t be shy about leaving an attaboy/attagirl on the appropriate blog. Applause never hurts!
A continually updated list of participants can be found below: Please check back often, as I’ll add new posts as often as appropriate (and as other responsibilities allow). Feel free to toss me an email if I haven’t included your submission!
AND... BY ALL MEANS, IF YOU HAVEN'T CONTRIBUTED AND WANT TO, PLEASE DO SO! Was hoping to get most of the submissions input at the start of the start of the day... but people do keep checking the list for new contributors... so if you're so moved, write a post and let me know so I can include you.
One more note: November 1 marks the beginning of National Novel Writing Month. Several bloggers are participating in this event (details can be found at natnowrimo dot org). If a blog post is a nice warm-up sprint, their efforts for NatNoWriMo represent a marathon, Be sure to give ‘em encouragement, caffeine, and fresh reams of paper as needed.
In no particular order at all, our participants include:
Kzoopair: Take two- they’re small Inappropriate Temptations
Kathynj: Done and Dusted [post 3514897] The Ultimate Inappropriate Temptation
N_Joimi: Driving For Pleasure The Inappropriate Temptation of quotNo married men except you, of coursequot
MidcoastMILF: Before you Write [post 3514925]
PeterLongHenry: Whispers Inappropriate Temptation You Know You39re Not Supposed to
KItkat1415: Kinks and High Jinks [post 3514865]
Tazzerman2000: Cosmic Debris Part Three! Inappropriate Temptation
Humorguaranteed: Confessions of a Lifestyle Man Virtual Symposium On Inappropriate Temptations Some Swinging Solicitations Are Not In The Cards
_Lady_X_: Long, Cool Drink of Brainjuice [post 3514341]
misssquirtsALOT: Normal By Day Naughty By Night [post 3514480]
spudluvr: The Other Side of the Hill Inappropriate Temptations
fun_tchr951: mundane to the max [post 3514995]
MnSweet: Sweet Musings [post 3514996]
Sweet_VM: In your Dreams Virtual Symposium On Inappropriate Temptations The cabin story with a twist FFM part 1
Osphena: My adventure as Osphena [post 3515107]
smartasswoman: Please Send Me Absolutely Free Inappropriate Temptations
Mature43Sums: MatureMocha Inappropriate Temptation
1EroticauthorTwo JJ's Fantasies and Thoughts [post 3515439]
demonicsexkitten: Life, or something like it Inappropriate Temptations
intendadiversion: Inside an Adultress [post 3516172]
Eros_Space: LOVE AND ROCKETS [post 3516772]
apollorising2021: Going LOCAL [post 3518758]
LadyLuck2: Play the Hand You Were Dealt! Inappropriate Temptations 3rd Virtual Symposium
xSativaMaximuSx: Bliggity, Bloggety, Blu Milfy Monday Allen, Semester 1
Note: The site's system is being temperamental about posting hot links: Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't... sometimes they take a few attempts. If a link isn't hot, please track down the appropriate blogs. They're worth it.
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