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The Sweetest Thing...
Posted:Apr 8, 2015 6:38 am
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2015 6:11 pm
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Sorry I've been MIA for a few days- I got into my new workout routine and well, everything hurts. Including my fingers, lol. But I feel GOOD-- like really, REALLY GOOD. I feel motivated and excited to see what's ahead. My body aches and I'm exhausted to the bone, but it's a positive thing .

Today and tomorrow will be days off from my workout, but not days to relax. I'm taking classes, yall! I actually started last month...I'm learning specialized baking and decorating techniques at the Wilton School in Illinois. Today, I learn to make Macarons, tomorrow will be petit fours. Some of what I learn is a refresher, those who have seen my baking know that I'm hardly a beginner. But I've learned a lot of new stuff as well:



Like how to make pretty bows out of pulled sugar and isomalt . The really great thing about these classes is that they give me a chance to get away and have some ME time. Since it's a considerable drive, I just stay overnight at a nearby hotel. Tonight I'll be meeting THAT GUY for beers and pool, just like the good old days. However, unlike days past there will be no hanky panky. He doesn't deserve it.

And speaking of lukewarm...

I think Doc and I have run our course. He's a nice guy- really he is. But it's just not THERE. I have a couple other potential dudes to evaluate. I'm taking my time though- letting them come to me. It's not a 'playing hard to get' tactic, (though I AM hard to get), it's more just a function of wanting to be cautious.

But in the meantime...Does anyone know how to hook a rabbit to a Die Hard car battery?
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Deep Thoughts on the Pennsylvania Turnpike
Posted:Apr 4, 2015 11:18 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2015 4:56 am
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Betcha thought I disappeared again, huh? Spring Break beckoned and we packed up the car and headed to our nation's Capitol for a good old-fashioned family road trip! Needless to say, private time was slim to none, and we all know that opening this particular site can be a hit-or-miss proposition when the kiddos are in the vicinity. Better to err on the side of discretion, I always say .

But now I'm back home where I belong- a bit tired and mentally drained, but safe and sound.

I had a lot of time on the road to think (never a good thing). I gave myself permission to really THINK about what it is I want, why I'm sad and angry, what needs to change and how to go about changing it. Deep thoughts, indeed. I won't go into all of it, but I had an epiphany of sorts somewhere around Pittsburgh...

What I realized is that deep inside, I am NOT a happy person. I used to be, at one point. But for the last two years, I have been angry, resentful and bitter and it's affecting my family. I know Hubby looks at me and wants to know why, but he won't ask. He already knows why, deep down in his heart. He knows it's his fault.

Imagine a flower...Put it in a beautiful, expensive pot and place it in a sunny spot. Decorate the pot with diamonds and surround it with other equally lavish pots with plants in them. But don't feed it. Don't water it. What'll happen to it? It will eventually shrivel up and die.

And that's what's happening to me.

All the praise and compliments in the world don't mean anything when they aren't coming from the person you value the most. And when you humiliate yourself and ASK that person for what you want and they don't give it to you? It's fucking DEVASTATING.

So what now?

Well, I need to channel this frustration and anger into something POSITIVE. Prior to leaving for DC, I made a decision to make some MAJOR changes in my eating and exercise habits. Part of my decision was based on some pretty crappy bloodwork that came back from the doctor- my cholesterol is of the charts. So I'm increasing my workouts with my trainer to five days a week and starting the BodyBeast workout/eating plan. I quit smoking in December and i haven't looked back. I think if I focus my energy on feeling better physically, it'll help my mental state as well. I can't make major life choices when I feel like shit, ya know?

So that's where I'm at. Not sexy or glamorous or exciting, but it's my reality for the next few months. I told Hubby what to expect and he claims to be on board. Whether he is or not, it's not my problem anymore. I need to make changes for MYSELF now.

Not much more to add right now...I'll bring y'all up to speed on my search for a new fella when I have more time. Right now I need to catch up on my sleep, lol.

Xoxo
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Tell Me Sumthin' Good...
Posted:Mar 26, 2015 5:41 pm
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2015 12:19 pm
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Do y'all remember back in the day when I used to ask you all manner of silly questions? I kinda miss that. It's been a while since I've done this....let's see how it goes.

Complete the following five phrases:

1. I want...

2. I need...

3. I wish...

4. I miss...

5. I love...

I'll even start us off:

1. I want to find a man who can make me smile.

2. I need him to have sex with me after he makes me laugh.

3. I wish I could lose 50lbs overnight.

4. I miss having a good old fashioned belly laugh.

5. I love the way my skin has cleared up since I quit smoking .

Okay, Guys and Dolls-- your turn!!
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Le Sigh...
Posted:Mar 26, 2015 3:35 pm
Last Updated:May 24, 2015 4:57 am
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I don't generally post memes or random stuff I find on the interwebs...I figure that y'all are fairly tech savvy and probably see most of the same stuff on FB and Instogram. But this touched a nerve...a GOOD one. Or maybe just an HONEST one. So I'm sharing it with you.

Hopefully it won't be removed by the powers-that-be...

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Grant Me the Serenity...
Posted:Mar 25, 2015 7:57 pm
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2015 4:35 am
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...To change what I can,
To tolerate what I can't,
And enough ammo to deal with whatever is left.

I swear, some people just need a kick up the ass with a steel-toed boot, amirite?

When traipsing around in the realm of social media, there are rules. I don't care where you are; Flitter, Instogram, Pintrust, Crapchat, or otherwise. They may be unspoken, they may be implicit, but they are there and we all recognize them on some level. The three rules that I see consistently being broken are as follows:

1. Thou shalt not offer thy unsolicited opinion, especially if thou hast no idea what the fuck ye referreth to.

2. Thou shalt refrain from bullying others, lest ye be labeled as a 'Troll'.

3. Thy privates shall remain thusly private, until otherwise deemed apropos by thy audience.

Now, I understand that by posting my thoughts on the interwebs for all and sundry to gaze upon, I'm granting my readers tacit permission to offer their opinion. And sure, I understand that not everyone is going to agree with me (in fact, sometimes I'd rather you DIDN'T agree, as I enjoy alternate viewpoints). But sometimes (and this is key), it's okay to keep your opinion to yourself. It's okay to refrain-- really, it is. Believe me- The Hornet rarely had a thought she didn't feel compelled to share and honestly, is THAT who you want to be like?

I think not.

I don't want to discourage people from commenting, that's not my aim here. I'm just venting because I've had it with people on social media who think the only way to get my attention is to belittle me or correct me when I'm pretty fucking sure I know what I intended to say.

And because Gottaring v2.0 is a raging bitch, please note that if you find yourself blocked from my Flitter or my blog, it's because I've had enough of you. I find that I have less time and patience these days, especially for bullies, trolls and know-it-alls.

And if that bothers you, go fuck thyself.
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It's Just Another Wicked Wednesday...
Posted:Mar 25, 2015 12:52 pm
Last Updated:May 1, 2015 9:57 am
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I've forgotten how much I hate tan lines, lol. Although I have to admit that I REALLY miss the sunshine that causes them...

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Tasty Tuesday
Posted:Mar 24, 2015 5:32 am
Last Updated:Apr 2, 2015 11:22 am
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Nothing like getting the day off to a finger-licking good start

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