Austin Swingles
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Posted:Sep 2, 2014 3:35 pm
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2014 5:59 am
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For those that don't know, I run a group here in Austin for singles in the swinger lifestyle called Austin Swingles. We’re very happy about all the interest in our group so far and would love to see it grow!
In order to do that, we need some new blood. lol For anyone that might be interested, let me take some time to tell you about it.
Maybe you're a single that has party time available but the couples you know are busy and you'd like to find someone to hang out with? Or you've been asked to "bring a friend", but don't know any other singles you could bring along for the ride.
New to the single side of swinging and don't know where to start, how to get involved, or where to meet people? This is a group for you! Unicorns and single males welcome!
Also, after having been asked by numerous couples if they could join and after a LOT of consideration, we've decided to open up our Swingles group to select couples that PLAY as singles (ie. 100% FULLY open relationships), and see how that goes. As they have one foot in each world, so to speak, we felt they should be included.
We'll be hosting Meet & Greets, and both singles-only and singles-friendly parties. Let's all get to know each other!
We’ve received some very good questions along the way, so I’d like to take a moment to explain our group a little bit and answer some of those questions.
"What if we’re just boyfriend/girlfriend (ie. not married, so ‘legally' single?) Can couples join? What if we have a hall pass? What if we only want to meet single females?"
This is group created by, and for, singles. We created the group for our singles to meet, develop some new friendships, and support each other in our unique position as singles in this lifestyle. And, as any moderator of any group knows, you have to draw the virtual line in the sand somewhere.
There are many thousands of groups available for couples only, or couples and single females only, and we fully respect those groups for their choices. This group is about inclusion of all our single members, regardless of gender. We want our single males to feel just as welcomed and valued as our single females. Part of being able to do that means that it needs to remain a group that does not foster a “no single males” mentality.
It is also not our intention to define “single” as a general term, but we feel we have to provide some clarification on what single means “for our group”.
We understand that there are many different levels and types of relationships, and that there are those married/committed couples who have completely open relationships, play as singles (ie. permanent ‘hall pass’), even maintain both couple and single profiles on swinger sites, etc.
If you are in this type of relationship and want to join our group, we will want to meet, or speak with, you and your partner/spouse first. We are not here to judge anyone or their choices, it is only so that we can verify that the relationship is entirely open and your being involved in our group is not going to breed drama with you, your partner, or anyone else. We have several moderators/hosts available for you to meet with or talk to and we will consider membership on a case-by-case basis.
*If you have to ask your spouse/partner for a "hall pass" before seeing someone else, have soft swap or same room only type restrictions on play, or your spouse/partner limits your contact with singles, then this is not the group for you. Thank you for reading, though.*
Please remember that this is, first and foremost, a SINGLES group. Thank you very much for your understanding! If you're interested in joining our group, please message me and I'll be glad to discuss it with you.
**IMPORTANT** RESPECT, RESPECT, RESPECT at all times. This is a closed private group and any creepiness will be handled by instant exclusion from the group going forward. We are looking for quality people!!
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If I'm on Messenger.....
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Posted:Aug 27, 2014 10:12 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2014 9:22 am
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If I'm on messenger in the middle of the night it means that I've opted to stay home for the evening. I have a very busy life and sometimes I enjoy having the chance to slow down and relax at home.
I'm most likely sitting on my bed, nice and comfy, watching an episode of any number of good shows and enjoying the occasional chat with someone at the same time.
Declining your request to rush out the door to meet you somewhere does not make me a fake. It is not an "excuse not to meet anyone". Contrary to popular belief, NO is a very valid response to meeting a total stranger, whoever you are, at o'dark thirty. Being pushy and trying to tell me all the reasons why my reasons for not wanting to are stupid is not helping to further your cause, that being actually getting to meet me, or anyone for that matter.
On another note, I have a 'which comes first' kind of question. Have people always been so incredibly impatient, or has social media and the advent of "instant communication" technology made everyone forget their manners?
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PSA: This Doesn't Work
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Posted:Aug 25, 2014 4:24 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2014 9:14 am
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I have had some wonderful conversations on this site, met a few very lovely people, and would love to say all the communication has been positive. Unfortunately though, I have had my fair share of creepy initial contacts, like everyone else, and while I'm normally a very pleasant person, once in a while one actually does piss me off. I've had a few initial contacts like this one, and frankly, it'd prefer not to get any more.
The following is one of those and this time, I'm going to share so that everyone out there can see how you can make an actually nice woman, who is NOT fake or flighty, and honestly does enjoy meeting new (select) people, to definitely NOT want to talk to / meet you.
(Yes, I've edited out his face, user ID and phone number. I'm not into publicly shaming people.)
It helps to remember that people often get hundreds of messages a day, and while some of us do try to respond to as many as we can, we can only do so many and when we have the time. PLEASE have a little patience and self respect when corresponding with someone.
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