The Perfect One...and how it changes
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Posted:Apr 25, 2011 11:02 pm
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2024 7:30 pm
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The Perfect One
I was trying to put into words the perfect match for me the other day, just as an exercise, and I was surprised at the things that I came up with. I know that dating is a mixed bag, you really have to put up with a lot of crap to get to the good stuff a lot of times. Sometimes, you luck out and get it right with your high school sweetheart. I never really had a "type" that I always went out with...I guess that is why it is so interesting to try to nail down what it is that I like in the opposite sex. I know that I have matured a lot since high school. I remember really just sort of "hanging out" as considered a date. A bunch of sort of sitting at McDonald's just sort of being friends was considered a group date, I guess, of some sort. I was always one of those guys that liked the girls that had it sort of together. They were the ones that you could count on in chemistry as lab partners, and they always came through when it came to group projects. I guess you could say they had purpose. They were doing the same things everyone else did, they just did it better. Of course, I always hated the "goodie two shoes" because they always brought other people down. Anyhow, I am glad that page in my life is over and I've moved on.
I guess it becomes more murky when you get to college. For some reason, the girls that were the "goodie two shoes" became intensely hurt and jealous when you, the normal straight guy, found someone interesting to date that they didn't approve of...of course it became even more evident when you were in the dorm social lounge making out. ANYHOW, I guess it wasn't hard to figure out that they were good at information gathering....and gossip is what kills a good friendship. Of course, the whole campus somehow finds out that your third cousin on the maternal side had some birth defect, and because of that, your offspring were somehow going to be mutations. (I think that was probably the product of studying genetics and Mendel's theories at 3 in the morning.) Anyhow, I sort of avoid nursing students for that reason...I mean...if you are normal, it is statistically probable that will be normal Of course, about that time, you the normal straight guy, figure out that you really LOVE kissing...and all that mushy gushy stuff we guys do to figure out how to get past second base. (I can be a romantic sometimes...but there had better be a potential there.)
Anyhow, the work study starts to burn you out, and you start to meet the that are probably going to be future deans and professors(they always hang out in the Administration building.) It doesn't hurt to know an important person or two down the line. By the time you hit the senior years in college, somehow, the glamour of the college has started to wear off...and the community bathroom in the dorm is horrible from the football team's partying and puking contests. Of course, the blatant group sex in the football dorm is always interesting...but then it isn't necessarily a bad thing. Anyhow, the girlfriend material starts to become less and less obvious. The really cool chicks are always married and pregnant by the time they graduate. For some reason, I always ended up being the best friend or big brother...someone that the girls came to for advice...but not to date.
Of course, the apartments off campus have super appeal, because the girlfriend can hang out and you can do grown up things....like cook candlelit dinners and barbecue on the porch. I had a roommate that had to be in every "group" that was social on campus, so I sometimes was asked to be the wingman at the sorority parties at Ohio State, even though I had a girlfriend. Of course, most of the time, I was just to stay in the background, but sometimes the girls were worst than the guys. We were sitting at a barbecue at some sorority, when the girls at the table next to us(who had had too much to drink) started cackling like hyenas.(BIG PET PEEVE) I think we were probably talking about sports, and that is when we noticed the girls checking out my friend. We had a pitcher of beer, and she came over, squeezed my friend on the butt, and whispered something in his ear(we later found out she was trying to get a man to marry her....and that was SCARY.) Anyhow, her girlfriend, staggering, came over and pulled out a tampon from her purse...and put it in the pitcher of beer...and said to everyone..."maybe next time, boys...." Of course, those are the kinds of girls we guys tend to avoid like the plague. I don't think it is a big deal to talk about women and their reproductive cycles, but I do think that there is a time and place...and I have always respected ladies with class.(I later found out that she was the of an important executive in Cleveland, Ohio, and probably a multimillionaire- and flew in a private Lehr jet to New York to go shopping on the weekends.) Of course, that sort of brings me to what I don't like...ladies like the ladies on the Housewives of New York....brash, cigarette smoking, classless souls that probably don't get why most of American guys don't really get the whole concept.
Anyhow, I think after getting engaged, married, and divorced, much of my desires in a person to date have changed. I don't want to be a part of any "group" and I rarely conform to group pressure. Most guys sort of do the girlfriend thing to be with their girlfriends, and sometimes the girlfriends need a time away doing their herd instinct at the beauty salon. (I love women- so don't take this as gender bashing.) I also love this about women, the fact that they like to make group decisions and they sometimes do cool things in the corporate world in team projects. I just don't like it when they rely solely on their girlfriends for bad advice.
Before I get all starry eyed, and say the one must have the following traits, I have to say it is probably the cool chicks that got married early on and divorced that are the ones that are the most sensible and make the best dating partners. Of course, I don't know if marriage is something I would want, but long term friendships and relationships are the way most guys are wired. A few things to get to the long term friendship level with me are:
1)Nice personality= sincere and straight from the heart
2)No Games
3)Nonsmoker or light smoker
4)Purpose- what really turns me on is an intelligent lady that sets goals
5)Health conscious- not the super anorexic type or the bulemic
6)Open-minded- I might not object if you were to read a Cosmopolitan Magazine article on the use of sex toys, bondage furniture, blindfolds....whatever to get to the next level
7)Maturity
 Drug free
I think the ideal "one" for me is also a little kinky...blindfolds and a little light bondage/submission is a huge turnon for me. *That is for another Blog*
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New Years Eve
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Posted:Jan 2, 2011 11:37 am
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2011 9:41 pm
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I had the misfortune of being at work during most of the festivities during the New Years Eve bash, so I guess I missed out on all the fun. I prefer the quieter, laid back crowd anyhow...I guess. I don't think missing that in exchange for a weekend in a log cabin curled up with a bottle of wine or two and a sexy mistress was that big a deal. Now the hard part...the sexy mistress. I used to do the bar scene, but it is sooooo crazy these days. I don't do drugs, don' smoke...so that leaves the drinking. I don't drink that often...I love nonalcoholic beer as much as the real stuff. Saint Pauli's is my favorite...but I don't have to have that even. I am more at home in front of a secluded log cabin with a big roaring wood fire and down filled bed with a thick quilt than I am in the big fancy hotels. The only thing I would have to say that I love the most more than that is a big hot tub...because then there is a reason to be nekked. Of course, I had the pleasure of a big wood sauna one winter...and to be honest...three ladies and myself in a big wooden sauna without a stitch of clothing would not be a bad thing. Of course, the one time I tried it, I was with my girlfriend at the time and her friend from work...so we couldn't do the naked thing...which is why I am on here to begin with...to never have another missed moment....no regrets. I later found out that her friend came to the cabin with us in the hopes of getting a threesome with me and my girlfriend...which my girlfriend arranged. I guess I don't understand the female mind...they always have some sort of plan for us guys to follow...and somehow we miss all the cues. I later had that threesome, but it was as if an afterthought instead of the actual thing it was. I think that is why we make the choice to live life...and enjoy it. SOOO, that being said...I am interested in pursuing fantasies and fun as often as I possibly can in the next year. Anyone interested or with an idea...just let me know what you have in mind. I am not a mind reader...obviously. If our schedules work out...we can have a lot of fun...
Some hard and fast rules for me:
NO drugS
NO MEANS NO
NO NONCONSENSUAL STUFF
EVERYONE RESPECTS EVERYONE
I am especially drawn to the 25 and over crowd....nonsmokers, nondrinkers, non drug users is fine by me. I do drink..and I do tolerate smoke...but moderation is the key. Some people don't like moderation.
I am in NE COlumbus, Ohio...and always game for a cup of coffee to get the game started...there are tons of places to do that and usually the conversation tells a lot about the person. Before I get naked I usually like to have a little conversation...and for everyone's benefit..a public place is cool for me. Anonymity and discretion is also important...so this also works.
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