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Scientific repercussions  

wickedeasy 74F
11203 posts
5/4/2016 11:15 am
Scientific repercussions


In my 8th grade science class, I ran an experiment with my best friend Margaret. We were entered into the science fair and we won. Our experiment was heartless and cruel and today would no longer be allowed. But the times were different then and we were loaned equipment from Harvard which was quite the coup and supported wholeheartedly by our parents.

It became clear to me about halfway through the 10 week experiment, that Margaret was suffering along with the tiny creatures that we tortured daily. I had always been able to divorce myself from the process and simply noted the changes and graphed out the variables. But Margaret would hold each tiny creature as if it mattered somehow and try to ameliorate its pain, knowing full well that the degeneration was the intent. The very outcome that we were studying.

After the fair, our two families went to dinner to celebrate our blue ribbons. It was rather grand for my family to go out to a restaurant. Something that we almost never did. As we sat there in our Sunday best the grownups chatted and indulged in cocktails. Margaret and I sat, squeezed in next to each other on the banquette.

I whispered to her that now that it was over, she could take all the rest home with her.

Tears spilled over onto her cheeks and she shook her head. I reached for her hand but she hid them in the folds of her dress. The chocolate pudding had spirally whipped cream on it.

That summer, my family went to Maine as we always do for a week on the lake. Margaret was supposed to come with us but her mother said she wouldn’t be able to because she had a family obligation.

My new best friend came with us. Her name was Andrea.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
5/4/2016 6:46 pm

What a memory! This is lovely, and poignant, Wicked.

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wickedeasy replies on 5/7/2016 10:27 am:
smiles

I wish that I had been Margaret. eventually as I grew more empathetic, I understood what she had experienced so viscerally. I often think about why it was so easy for me to not think about it all then.......

is it just that children can be such savages? but then, Margaret wasn't, was she?

canyaz 56F
17128 posts
5/5/2016 5:32 am

Interesting insight. Thanks for sharing.

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wickedeasy replies on 5/7/2016 10:21 am:
it was an awful time.....a pivotal point for me.

Seraphim13 109M/53F
726 posts
5/5/2016 7:17 am

Very nice post
I think you should share it on the symposium {=}


wickedeasy replies on 5/7/2016 10:21 am:
if I knew how to, I would, but i'm hopeless with adding brackets and sending things.

FitAndFun321 62M  
6104 posts
5/5/2016 9:00 pm

Jeepers, WE.

That was a pretty nifty piece of writing. It hit me like a ton of bricks.

Each day I've been sitting with my mother in hospice, whose abdomen is filled with tumors. They bring her three meals a day, but she can't eat them. Instead, I feed her little bits of freshly peeled orange, which is all she has room for. She thinks it's the most delicious thing. I don't know if she will see Mother's Day.

I end up eating the meals while she drifts in and out of dreamland — and they always include a delicious dessert.

The chocolate pudding always has spirally whipped cream on it.


wickedeasy replies on 5/7/2016 10:20 am:
my darling fit

I have done hospice work forever. what you are living now is the most difficult and the most wonderful time you will ever share with your mom. I see you handing her the tiny pieces of orange with the lovely smell filling the room. joy is there from your hand to hers and soothing her throat. it filled me with such a sense of communion of mother and son.

how I wish I could hold you for a moment.

your journey with your mother is a sacred one. may it bring you both to a place of peace.

JN63JPN 61F  
27439 posts
5/7/2016 10:36 pm

I've heard that some people struggle through veterinary school because of what they have to do.

Great post. Thanks for sharing

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wickedeasy replies on 5/8/2016 1:15 pm:
yes, my friend L is a vet and she found it very stressful. I think she kept going for the end result which would be healing.

I think back on this now and look at my coldness. I am a healer now and so very different than that person....but then I was so distanced.

without Margaret, I would never have seen the harm of it

effer2910 60M
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5/7/2016 10:53 pm

Merci pour ce souvenir plein d'émotion et de détails intéressants et exotiques.

Thank you for the memories full of emotion and interesting and exotic details.

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wickedeasy replies on 5/8/2016 1:17 pm:
thank you for reading.......smiles

it was not a pleasant memory. but one I am glad to have placed outside of my head.

VenusRising11 71F
4677 posts
5/8/2016 6:32 am

I don't know what to say. This touched me deeply, as well as Fitandfun321's comment. It appears we are all running the gamut of emotions today.



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wickedeasy replies on 5/8/2016 1:20 pm:
yes, fit's comment tore me in two. I can see the room and smell the orange slices......

satyrnsheepzskin 46M
5939 posts
5/8/2016 7:33 am

Some are suited to the scientific impartiality and some are not, which is not entirely a bad thing. I know that there were kids in my early science classes that refused to dissect worms or frogs as part of our science class.

That is of course different from studying the degeneration of something.

It is sad that you lost the friendship you previously had because of this experiment. Perhaps you were the experimental subject as well as your charges, learning something about yourself in the end as well as whatever your scientific hypothesis was.

Thanks for sharing.

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wickedeasy replies on 5/8/2016 1:23 pm:
I think for me I had to learn about empathy. I had no idea such an emotion existed. Margaret and I eventually reconnected in junior year in high school. I was her maid of honor at her wedding. we see each to this day......smiles. and while I know that scarred her, it was a powerful moment in my life. perhaps the first time I learned something on my own about emotion.

TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
5/8/2016 8:09 am

I read this earlier and felt at a loss for words. Subsequent commenters leave me feeling even more word-inadequate.

Thank you.


wickedeasy replies on 5/8/2016 1:26 pm:
you're welcome........not sure what for.

for me, this was a dreadful time. such loss to understand the reason on my own. when I did, I was not really adult enough to apologize.

it was several years later when Margaret and I became friends again.

spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
5/8/2016 8:16 am

I remember my science lessons at school though not always fondly. I liked physics and chemistry lessons and I did like biology classes until we had to dissect frogs and rats!


wickedeasy replies on 5/8/2016 1:28 pm:
I adored chemistry - it made sense to me.

but on the first day of physics, I sat there and I felt utterly overwhelmed. I dropped it like a hot potato

rm_Idoknowyou2 69F
97 posts
5/8/2016 8:00 pm

I can see how one can be detached while doing such experiments. I think of med students with a cadaver. There must be some detachment, or that work could never progress.

Life is so good at teaching us lessons by breaking our hearts.


wickedeasy replies on 5/9/2016 9:47 am:
maybe that's the only way.....

pain, I mean

and nice to see you

Seraphim13 109M/53F
726 posts
5/9/2016 6:32 am

Hiya
Not sure if you have managed to post on the symposium yet, but here's some help... ( I hope it helps...lol)

- Copy this post code (as you can see it just bellow... Scientific repercussions
- Follow the link left to you above by Honeydripper126
- And Paste it there at the 'Add A Reply' box ... Voila!
(You can also leave a message with it to Humor... I'm sure he will like it...Lol)
{=}


NaughtyInSO 113F
9755 posts
5/9/2016 11:13 am

Thank you for sharing this memory.
Empathy obviously is an emotion that most of us weren't born with but develop in time and with experiences. Margaret was blessed, and maybe somewhat cursed, with empathy that strong at an early age.
What a poignant story...

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wickedeasy replies on 5/11/2016 9:20 am:
Margaret was the kindest and strongest person I know.

she still is

KItkat1415 61F  
20051 posts
5/9/2016 5:32 pm

And now I understand how you responded on my post.
I now know that you are in the midst of what I am in the middle of currently, but you choose to do that every day. Empathy is both a blessing and a curse, I should know.

Great post and poignant memory. Our memories make us who we are today,
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wickedeasy replies on 5/11/2016 9:22 am:
yes, they shape us, but they also haunt us.

what we choose to remember clearly are the ones that have the most to do with who we are.

you are very intuitive

veryfunnycple64 60M/60F
21770 posts
5/10/2016 4:44 am

yes....science does have its repercussions....you lost a friend and gained some wisdom.

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wickedeasy replies on 5/11/2016 9:22 am:
I did.

missthee 58F  
4511 posts
5/10/2016 2:46 pm

Excellent post. Thanks for sharing.


wickedeasy replies on 5/11/2016 9:23 am:
thank you for reading.

I was nervous that people would find it too sentimental

Fatgirl1976 48F
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5/11/2016 6:28 pm

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Golly06 71M
1932 posts
5/12/2016 8:28 am

This brought back some memories from school. Even through college lab-work remained difficult although I was majoring in a life science. I can imagine her sadness and distress. Sometimes such feelings can build a wall around us that others can't breach, no matter how caring they are. Sometimes those outside our shell are hurt as well (whether this is our intent or not). These are hard lessons, but I think they make a better person. Very nice writing and so much to think about.


wickedeasy replies on 5/14/2016 3:54 pm:
thanks for reading with such insight

rm_Idoknowyou2 69F
97 posts
5/13/2016 11:35 pm

This is my alter ego, created back in 2010. She has come in handy as I killed off the original. Life has been tough lately, and I took myself off FB, as I cannot freely discuss issues I care about. Sad, isn't it?


wickedeasy replies on 5/14/2016 3:53 pm:
that it is.

let me know if there is another way to keep in touch

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