Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
| Blogs > nawtyinaus > Tales of the Nawty |
Why Do I Want to Fuck You? - Symposium 19: Science
|
Why Do I Want to Fuck You? - Symposium 19: Science I'm looking for an address to a place I've never been. I come upon a large modern home, that at first look is obviously brand new. It's beautiful with dark stained wood planking lining the exterior. I've arrived and I'm nervous. There's a long sidewalk of huge rectangular stone pavers laid out with just a few inches of perfectly manicured green grass residing in between. Nothing is out of place, which lends a slightly cold feeling as I walk up. I softly on the huge wooden door, careful not to disturb peace. He knows I'm here, but it feels weird to walk up to a door and not announce your presence. The door immediately opens. He has been waiting for me. I can't tell you the trepidation I'm feeling right now. Having no idea what to expect, I'm about to meet a man for the first time. At his home. It's late, he has and his babysitter was a no show, so we adjusted our dinner plans. It's rather dark, so I can't see much in that first moment--that very first hello. He moves into the kitchen where there's light. And he looks me in the eyes and smiles with these big glorious dimples and bright brown eyes. And in that very moment, not one before, and not for any other reason than for what simply cannot be explained, a wave of intense desire rushes over me. Ah fuck. My panties just gave up and went home. The immediacy and the intensity of that rush is what I want to know more about. The man behind the door that night has become one of my most favorite lovers. Our sessions play out vividly in my mind weeks, even months after they've taken place. It's as though this man found the remote and pushed my button to "on" (and you, the great men of this site, are reaping the benefits, seriously, if it were days of ore you'd be sticking a 10 cent stamp onto a thank you card). Exerting a sense of control over my raging libido that I've never experienced. And why is it that the seemingly 'perfect' match on paper never seems to live out its potential? I had a date with a guy about six years ago. He aggressively flirted with me while I was out for a drink with a girlfriend one night. Took me to an amazing concert a few days later. Saw each other a few times after that. We had sex - I remembered him having a wonderfully huge dick. Yet, we fizzled. Fast forward to recent times, we reconnected and were both excited for a reunion. I had been attached for over four years, as was he. On paper he's an amazing "catch": 33 yrs old, 6'3", very fit, dark hair with bright blue eyes, fantastic smile, smart (engineer with multiple degrees), strong work ethic with multiple real estate investments paying off for him, and he's a lover. Ooh, then there's that big cock! And you know what, not one thing about him gets me wet. Around him I'm just dry as a desert. Excuse me, waiter? Can I get some water, please? Oh, and can you leave the pitcher? Thanks. So, I ask, what is it about a man that has me desiring to wrap myself around every inch of his being? The deep desire to be the junkie to his drug. Can chemistry be explained? So, do tell science, why are we -- or why are we not, attracted to someone? Science correlates the initial chemistry of attraction to obvious fertility and masculinity cues. Yeah, we all get that, but not every human who's in love, fucking their brains out, or happily communicating is modern society's narrow definition of beautiful. Especially when we report that 75% of the men in this country are overweight! I do agree with study findings that confidence, self esteem and happiness go a long way towards attraction. Those attributes tend to affect good posture, which is a hugely attractive quality to me. Some of those classic studies say that: like attracts like, proximity holds a lot of power (heeey neighbor! wink.), there's the power of winning you over (oh snap, I play into this one), and that there's the perception of increased sexual desire in a high anxiety situation. But yet... I can't help but think there's something deeper involved. Physical attraction seems to have some biological qualities. There's gotta be a DNA or 'past life' explanation for that person who we just never want to be without. Just gonna keep fucking and having fun; surely we'll solve the mystery over a glass of whisky and lingerie. This is my first contribution to the virtual symposium. Want to see what others have to say?! The full list of contributors can be found here: Participants List For the Nineteenth Virtual Symposium Science  |
||||
|
Le cerveau est si complexe, pourra t'on savoir un jour ce qui fait qu'on est attiré par quelqu'un et pas par quelqu'un d'autre ? Est-ce souhaitable d'élucider ce mystère ? The brain is so complex, perhaps we can find out one day so that you are attracted to someone and not someone else? Is it desirable to solve this mystery? Sommaire Et la souffrance vgtale L'être idéal ? Un ange dévasté par l'humour. E.M. Cioran
| |||
|
I do agree with study findings that confidence, self esteem and happiness go a long way towards attraction. No it doesn't. This is your pre-frontal cortex talking. Attraction is not generated in pre-frontal cortex. I can't help but think there's something deeper involved. Physical attraction seems to have some biological qualities. Yes. Attraction(lust) is generated in the limbic system. that very moment, not one before, and not for any other reason than for what simply cannot be explained, a wave of intense desire rushes over me. There is a prefect scientific explanation and you explained it."Having no idea what to expect,..The immediacy and the intensity of that rush ...Exerting a sense of control over my raging libido that I've never experienced." It was the dopamine and adrenaline rush compounded by high cortisol (fear and exitement) not one thing about him gets me wet. Around him I'm just dry as a desert. No mystery here. "Nothing is out of place, which lends a slightly cold feeling as I walk up." You are a dopamine junkie, possibly a adrenaline junkie as well. Your conscious mind(frontal cortex) says he is perfect. The subconscious mind (lymbic system) is screaming boring, boring,. I am not going to let you fuck the dude. I am going to make sure that you are dry as Kalahari desert. Can chemistry be explained? Yes.Absolutely. "Rules for happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.”― Immanuel Kant .
| |||
|
Some things cannot be explained by science. Kismet is not a quantifiable quantity. Sometimes there are just things, even subconscious in our own minds, that push our buttons. Good post and good question. Satyr in Sheep's Skin Peruse my many stories at Satyr39s Storybook Corner or my Renaissance Era BDSM fantasy story at Serial Story Reinport39s Crowning Index. 
| |||
|
I've never been able to explain that kind of chemistry either. It's either there or it's not.
| |||
|
Scientists would be much better researching attraction than some projects they work on.  
| |||
|
Scientists would be much better researching attraction than some projects they work on. watch?v=BEHHKV-xkFw and for Nawty is the guy in the picture hot enough for you. He will hug and you draw your blood. His name is Dr. Paul Zak. He is a neuro economist, he discovered oxytocin, the love molecule/moral molecule. his nick name is Dr. Love. Dr. Fisher has been studying this for 40 years. (Doesn't she look fantastic for her age?) she is the most quoted scientist on the subject. and Dr Zak is a global star. "Rules for happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.”― Immanuel Kant .
| |||
|
This was an interesting post showing us a slice of your life and how it pertains to the symposium. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
| |||
|
IMHO emotional attraction is something we've been socialized to experience and respond to in a particular way, while sexual attraction is physical, spontaneous, occurring in spite of our social programming. Sometimes we experience one but not the other.
| |||
|
Specificity of response - I think it has to do with the specific geometries in our brain/mind. There's something similar going on with music - while the broad outlines of what give people chills is known, it's very specific, even among trained musicians. And somehow the subtleties of timing and emphasis maximize the emotion that is present - in music, but also in speech and the movement of the body. "Something in the way she moves, attracts me like no other lover". So there is literally chemistry involved, but I guess I'm a geometry mystic in the way I want to understand it - why do these moves, these shapes, cause the limbic, chemical response for this person?
|
Thanks for stopping by!
Become a member to create a blog
