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Blogs > GrayEyesSearchin > My Blog

I itch so I write.  

GrayEyesSearchin 51F  
9 posts
6/5/2016 12:21 pm
I itch so I write.

Thought I would write down some thoughts.

This is totally my issue

I have this problem, well two problems actually. Depending on how much I want to get into the details will depend on how far I discuss my issues.

I have this love/hate relationship with pain. I hate pain, I don't like it but without it I cannot orgasm. I love orgasms, so I've learned to accept pain in order to have it.

I have super control over my orgasm. I can stop and completely turn off any physical reaction that I am having to what my partner is doing. I could be in mid-orgasm and stop, just completely stop the psychical reaction.

I never realized how much men think that having an orgasm defines "good sex" because for me it's not. I have a different definition of "good sex."

Good sex for me is fairly simple. Did my mind get turned on? When the sex is over does the thought of the next time he touches me leave me craving him, his touch, and or next encounter? Does the mere mention of his name leave me wet and aching?

Here is the other side of the control issue when I had my hysterectomy years ago the surgeon decided to tighten my pelvic floor. What he didn't tell me was that it makes me tight, like virgin tight.

I'll wait for you men to wipe the drool off your chin ....

While in theory it sounds great the reality is it can be painful (remember I have a love/hate relationship with pain) for me and 99% of men cannot last due to it. Given men's idea that orgasm is so important it creates problems .. ego problems.

So men pay attention, orgasm is not the most important part of a sexual encounter, at least for me.

If you can make your name hover on my lips, even if I don't call out your name, well then honey you are doing everything right!
XXEnchantedBlisXX
hrdallnght4u 67M

6/5/2016 12:32 pm

 I agree sex is more than having an orgasm..It is the way they make You feel before and after the sex...as far as the tightness that's why they make lube..
plus using My tongue to get it hot and wet..
You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!


bestfriend2156 68M
840 posts
6/5/2016 12:33 pm

 I love your definition of good sex. due to a med I was taking last year I had a very hard time cumming. In several sessions I did not cum at all but really loved it. Yes she sucked me beautifully. I licked her. She rode me and I lasted forever never coming. It may have been the best ever. She is the only one I can think of. Laying naked with her afterward was phenomenal. My ego was not hurt in the least.


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