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Submit or Surrender?
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Submit or Surrender? An acquaintance and I were having a conversation about BD (without the SM). He used the word submit and on the inside I bristled. So I started thinking about the words submit and surrender and what they mean to me. To me submitting is doing something that I don’t necessarily like or want to do but do it because I’m submitting to the other person and their desires. Some definitions of submit in the dictionary are “ 1. Yield to the control of another, 2. Hand over formally, 3. Accept or undergo, often unwillingly.” To me surrendering is letting go and letting that other person have complete control. It is a choice made and a gift given. Some definitions of surrender are “1. give up or agree to forgo to the power or possession of another, 2. The act of surrendering (usually under agreed conditions), 3. Relinquish possession or control over.” I am not saying that the first time that I am with someone that I would surrender like I would say after several meetings. Trust is key to being able to really let go and be who you are when no one else can see; being the you that can admit yeah I like that or no do that and I will not be happy. The you that can strip down (or be stripped down) and not be self-conscious about the stretch marks, love handles or whatever physical thing you think is “bad” about your body. While there are parts of my body I’d love to tone I also admit I have had four babies, nursed those babies and with that comes a body that shows the marks of being a mother. From running from one appointment to the next and making the god awful dinner choice to hit a fast food place because it’s convenient and you know by the time you get home food will be the last thing you want to make. I’m open and honest, sometimes too honest and it can get me into trouble. I just don’t believe in wasting people’s time or energy and I appreciate being treated the same. I have replied to emails, a lot of emails and the one thing that I just don’t understand is why the request for a picture? I never ask for pictures because to me it doesn’t matter. What attracts me to you is not your face or body .. it’s your mind. If you can’t turn my mind on then I’m not interested in meeting. There have been times when people’s fantasies just don’t line up with mine and I never expect anyone to change their fantasy for me. I’ve learned the hard way that it is much better to say while "I respect your mind and thoughts but for me that doesn’t work", rather than submitting just so I can meet up with someone. Surrender taste so much sweeter! I submit for you, I surrender for me! XXEnchantedBlisXX |
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Well said. Though I must admit, I need a picture, to go with the potential "cerebral" attraction. : / If you don't stand for something , you will fall for anything ! 
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If you got it, flaunt it!!!
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