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Can;t say I am, and if it exists in mem then it;s retracted so deep inside, almost like going out for a run naked in the middle of winter and seeing your sexuality disappear before your very eyes
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I agree with NeedOptions, there was always such negative association with the term slut or whore. That being said, I also know that not just anyone has the ability to bring the total sexual openness you are referring to. I feel there has to be a special level of trust to have that ability.
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Ooo I love this topic! As I type this I have no idea how long this comment will be. Therefore, at this point I apologize if I go too long. I am a slut, not always in practice however. I am very selective. To me that doesn't mean I'm not a slut. It means I am not promiscuous, even though folks mix the terms. For me being a slut is more than loving sex and having it frequently. I do indeed love having sex often (which I don't), but that is only part of it. For me to let my slut flag fly, there has be certain things in place. I have be comfortable with someone in order to have sex with them, period. When it comes to letting the slut out, I have to be extremely comfortable. I also have to know the person it also comfortable in their own sexuality, as well as a more progressive view of sex. See anyone can benefit from a slut and enjoy one, but not everyone can truly appreciate a slut. Yes they appreciate what the slut does for them physically and their ego. Not all of them can see what a slut does and not think they are dirty or naughty. You hear it all the time: "she a freak!". These people, to me do not deserve the slut. Even if I don't get my slut on with a person, they benefit from my "Slut Identity". I will explain that later. I am in a sorta kinda similar situation which I just blogged about here - Trying to Get Nasty. I have someone I can explore the more "nastier" sides of sex, but getting started is proving to get a bit daunting. Now on the other side of that coin, I have someone who I already slut for as often as possible. We also have a D/s dynamic as well. So things get pretty steamy. I loved that i give him so much pleasure. As far as what makes a person a slut, well I guess that can be subjective. I don't think that is frequency or desire alone. I think being a "slut" is to fully embrace and revel in your sexuality. To really own it, not just scratching that itch. To make sex like a serious hobby. You will want get better at it, to grow in it, and perfect it. Anyone can lay down and spread their legs or stick their dick into someone. Being a slut is more just act of fucking, but the art of it. Because I try to make an art of it, even when I have not made that "slut connection" with a lover, he or she still benefits. Let me use this analog: I am a good cook. When I make a grilled cheese I still make it amazing (right amount and type of cheese, the right crispiness on the outside, the right kind of bread and so on). It doesn't matter to me it just a grilled cheese. Now, when I make a steak I take the same care (a great cut, the right doneness, the perfect seasoning.......and so on). In other words it doesn't matter what i am cooking, I do the best I can. It doesn't matter who I am fucking, I do the best I can, even if they are not "slut certified". Anyway, hope this gives you some insight to my thinking. This is a Copy of My Profile Want to know even more about me? Read my Introduction Post. Feel free to drop me a line here: Give me All the Messages. Don't worry it is private! Check out all my rambles here, BlackRayne74!!   Desire becomes surrender, surrender becomes power. -Joker
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What he said, plus add the word fuck to the list of words with bad connotations associated with them. How they are used and perceived can create problems. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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It's so subjective... Personally being a slut is a negative, sure there's a lot of sex involved but it's sex for attentions sake, for validation. And with a taint of desperation. But again... That's just how I view the term. Used lovingly by a partner during sexytalk, it has a completely different feeling. I'd rather be thought of as open minded or hot to trot.
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Personally I hate the words slut and whore...when being used as describing someone who loves having sex, or someone who has sex with many different men. I have a friend of mine who don't mind being called that at all...but for me it only brings up bad stuff. To each their own I suppose 
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This reminds me of conversations I've had about the dreaded"N" word. No matter how positive a spin one tries to put on it, if someone hurls that term slut or whore at a woman,most of the time it is as a dirty stain, not a compliment of her open sexuality. On the flip side, I have had relationships where that term was used but it was after we were pretty established and he was comfortable that *I* was comfortable with it. with the right person, under the right circumstances it can be very erotic (but not with any and every person and not every time). One of the things I dislike today is how many people expect a woman to be okay with that term because they think it's okay, or they read the book The Ethical Slut, or because their last partner thought so. It's okay to not be okay with being called a slut or whore or using it as a self description. I don't think anyone should eery use ist (or suggest anyone else use it) without getting explicit permission from the person they are using it with. English is a rich enough language that there are all sorts of ways of describing being sexually open and adventurous without using whore or slut if someone doesn't want to.
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This reminds me of conversations I've had about the dreaded"N" word. No matter how positive a spin one tries to put on it, if someone hurls that term slut or whore at a woman,most of the time it is as a dirty stain, not a compliment of her open sexuality. On the flip side, I have had relationships where that term was used but it was after we were pretty established and he was comfortable that *I* was comfortable with it. with the right person, under the right circumstances it can be very erotic (but not with any and every person and not every time). One of the things I dislike today is how many people expect a woman to be okay with that term because they think it's okay, or they read the book The Ethical Slut, or because their last partner thought so. It's okay to not be okay with being called a slut or whore or using it as a self description. I don't think anyone should eery use ist (or suggest anyone else use it) without getting explicit permission from the person they are using it with. English is a rich enough language that there are all sorts of ways of describing being sexually open and adventurous without using whore or slut if someone doesn't want to. This is a Copy of My Profile Want to know even more about me? Read my Introduction Post. Feel free to drop me a line here: Give me All the Messages. Don't worry it is private! Check out all my rambles here, BlackRayne74!! Desire becomes surrender, surrender becomes power. -Joker
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Hmmm inquiring minds want to know...
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the meme says it succinctly and Baby girl says the rest. i'm fine with being HIS slut. and I am one of the kinkiest out there folks. so probably, most would categorize me as a slut. lots of folks think BDSM I sjust chock full of sluts. thing is most people I know in BDSM are monogamous. go figure. and if they are poly, they are poly with one Dom. so how slutty can you be if you are essentially in a committed relationship. slutty connotes to me someone who has no morals and will do anything anytime with anybody. that means and that means they have to be kind of stupid. you're too smart for that so we need to find another word. You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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11/14/2016 10:35 am |
Slut or whore are harsh words. Everybody love sex, whether man or woman, person shouldn't be called names if they like sex.
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It always amazes me the conclusions that some people come to. And as for me being a SLUT hell no unless it's brought out of me with a special someone then all bets are on.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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It made perfect sense to me. You and I think a lot alike is probably why it made sense. 
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I think what you are saying there is .... blah blah blah... you know... yada yada yada... Now do you understand???
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I personally don't care for the word "slut" as it was used as a derogatory term when I first heard it and for many years after. It really is only recently that it has been used as a term of a friendlier nature though that doesn't mean it isn't still used derogatorily. Going by the dictionary which is of course usually behind how words are being used in current times, you don't really fit the definition. You are not slovenly or at least I doubt you are, you are not promiscuous nor a prostitute. You may be saucy though so I guess that part of the definition could apply. Are you impertinently bold and impudent or amusingly forward and flippant? I think maybe you might be when you find the right guy to be with but otherwise not so much. I don't care to hear guys use "slut" as a term to describe a woman that likes sex as I said above it has negative history with me but I do like women that like sex and don't think of them as sluts or in a derogatory nature. Sex to me is something that everybody should be able to enjoy without being judged by others in a negative manner as it is a perfectly natural function. I do agree with you that sex is best by far with someone you care about and are free to express and explore your wants, interests and desires without fear of being judged. The body and mind are a sensual playground to be explored and enjoyed as frequently as possible.  I can understand a woman finding it a turn on to be called a slut when engaged in sexual play with her lover or a FB as the mind is really where the best sex comes from and the mind has many convolutions that make it so interesting to explore. If the term "slut" just meant a person or woman who loves sex then I guess it would apply to most of us though some may not be willing to admit to it, or are so hung up on the many prohibitions religious or otherwise to let go and enjoy themselves, or worse yet never explored themselves for their own pleasure. Vive La Difference
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