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  I agree complety, think you have hit the nail right on the head
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It's obviously going to vary from person to person, gender to gender. Personally if I have no attraction to a woman on any level then no, I won't be doing anything with that woman whether it be oral or more. I think how we're raised and how we seek to show respect to another person plays a big part. Wouldn't I be perceived as shallow or disrespectful to allow someone to give me oral but refuse anything else based on looks? Plus I respect myself and don't need bed anything that moves or get it out any chance I get. Don't know if I'm much help, have been told I'm not like most men just a couple times lol.
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I can only speak for myself as a male. I refuse to lie to a female about my intentions toward her just for oral sex or just to get a f**k out of her. Also a female doesn't need to lie to me If she just oral or just to f**K. I have enough emotional intelligence Not myself to be wounded or wound others. Beside looks can only take a person so far and for a limited time. Thanks for your opinion.
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Mutual attraction is a must. I do think men will go there more than women just to get oral satisfaction. For me, no way.
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I agree with the view of oral sex as an appetizer; I would not personally give it to nor receive it from someone that I would not also be willing to fuck. I do consider this stance less of a moral high ground though and more of what goes into my own enjoyment of sex - a mixture of oral and vaginal pleasure with no predetermined script. I could have a one night stand with someone I thought great looking and a reasonably good human being (i.e. not a cheater or a jerk) even if I would never want to see them long term. Is that any better than some man (or woman) who is willing to have oral sex with someone they wouldn't fuck? I'm not sure.
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Oral sex is just that, a sexual act. I will not engage in a "sexual" act with someone I am not attracted to. I would be being dishonest with them and dishonest with myself. Save a horse, ride a cowboy!!
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I don't think I could give or receive just oral with someone I am not attracted to in mind and body. I wouldn't even get as far as kissing, never mind touching other body parts. I think the same as you on this Lala
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For me personally, it takes mutual attraction, for oral is the lead to sex. So I would have to be attracted to that person.  Please Visit My Blog MAMACITA38DD
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Well written, and I definitely agree with you!!!!  WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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I might not be representative of my gender, but I have never thought "I have no desire to fuck her, but I'll let her suck my cock" Am I supposed to pursue women I don't want to fuck on the off chance they will suck my cock? 
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When you say Attractive, I am thinking you are meaning looks, for me it's about the whole package, sure looks mostly matter. However, not in all cases, its about how they make you feel when your with them. One if they can hold a conversation, if they can make you laugh. Also how they treat you so I would have to say depends on the person and what it is they find attractive in a person.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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This is not true for me. If there is no attraction (physical or mental) then I have little interest in sticking my dick in their mouth (or anywhere else) in or near them. Haven’t done it cause it just seems to be yuk. A test for this could be . . . a “straight” guy sits on a chair with a large box (large enough to also hide a person) covering him from his waist down. He cannot see who enters the box to “service” him. He is told it could be anyone from the most beautiful woman ever to the ugliest GUY ever, so he knows either is possible. Does he stay in the box to possibly get serviced by ugly guy? While I hate to admit this . . . your question made me think of . . . another “straight” blogger here, who often talks about giving oral to men. “Another night in the box” When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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There has to be some sort of attraction to even go oral, in my opinion, but this is a damn good post !!!
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Sorry, I tend to go ‘all scientific’ when these things ‘come up’. I know you prefer Latin, which comes out to be “Fellatio Nogudyuk”  . It is truly scary that we would both think of IT. I’ll take “another night in the box” cause that guy’s closet is all messed up.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Nope, if I won't fuck it, she won't suck it. If I could do that, I'd probably let carbonclosetturd blow me, AND THAT AIN'T HAPPENING! When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Interesting that CarbonRoadKill keeps getting mentioned... It has been said- crudely said, it's true, but nonetheless said- that some guys would fuck a snake if somebody would hold its head. I suppose oral sex is off the table in that context. It has also been said that some guys would fuck a rock if they thought here might be a snake under it. I do believe these quaint truisms might have more than the ring of truth to them when speaking of the hormone addled brains of adolescents. Part of maturity is learning to keep it inside your fly except for special occasions. As I grew older I think my own standards grew as well, and I began to feel that a different sort of attraction was necessary beyond my prospective paramour simply being female. I want an attraction of some kind to want sex. Oral sex can be an end in and of itself or it can be a preliminary bout of three rounds, not necessarily for the championship belt, but entertaining anyway, so as to warm up the blood lust of the crowd. Sex isn't all about orgasms and "getting". Cuddling, canoodling, petting and touching are satisfying in their own right. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Interesting that CarbonRoadKill keeps getting mentioned... It has been said- crudely said, it's true, but nonetheless said- that some guys would fuck a snake if somebody would hold its head. I suppose oral sex is off the table in that context. It has also been said that some guys would fuck a rock if they thought here might be a snake under it. I do believe these quaint truisms might have more than the ring of truth to them when speaking of the hormone addled brains of adolescents. Part of maturity is learning to keep it inside your fly except for special occasions. As I grew older I think my own standards grew as well, and I began to feel that a different sort of attraction was necessary beyond my prospective paramour simply being female. I want an attraction of some kind to want sex. Oral sex can be an end in and of itself or it can be a preliminary bout of three rounds, not necessarily for the championship belt, but entertaining anyway, so as to warm up the blood lust of the crowd. Sex isn't all about orgasms and "getting". Cuddling, canoodling, petting and touching are satisfying in their own right. Annnnd . . . when you say "bout of three rounds, not necessarily for the championship belt" . . . that means you think Mohammed Ali is kinda cute . . . right?  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Just so we are clear . . crystal clear . . . which one is Frick and which one is Frack? When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Welp, says you. Captn’ Jack Frick, says I. And it comes (or cums) to me mind that IT “who shall not be named' came to yer mind afore it was typed by me hand. What say ye bawdy wench? (we really need an emoticon with an eye patch) When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Soooo you're saying humping a snake is OK . . .right? Annnnd . . . when you say "bout of three rounds, not necessarily for the championship belt" . . . that means you think Mohammed Ali is kinda cute . . . right? As to the boxing analogy, I was thinking of Woody Allen and Louise Lasser in "Bananas". A must see film for connoisseurs of the higher arts. Muhammed Ali is not cute. He is the greatest heavyweight champion of all time, a judgement independent of his skill in the ring. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Really again with disinclined to blah, blah, blah supposition. The court will stipulate that the Lala in question did in fact admit that the thing that “shall not be named” crossed her mind during drafting of the post in question. The persecution submits (NOOO, not in DOM/Sub way) that the thought thereof constitutes a covert, yet equally overt, act of naming. Therefore, if the court will graciously allow, the persecution strenuously rejects the move to strike any notion of such slanderous testimony from the record. The eye patch emoji motion is hereby FUBAR'd with prejudice. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Let me just say that if that snake is a constrictor and you aren't willing to try it, you are missing the thrill of a lifetime. You don't have to make a regular thing out of it, but you owe it to yourself to sample it once. As to the boxing analogy, I was thinking of Woody Allen and Louise Lasser in "Bananas". A must see film for connoisseurs of the higher arts. Muhammed Ali is not cute. He is the greatest heavyweight champion of all time, a judgement independent of his skill in the ring. Higher arts, you mean Mc right? Ali, cute, lovely that is just semantics. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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*slamming gavel* Who the heck gave the ACCUSED a gavel? They are overruled When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I agree too
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i have alot of male friends that have told me that same thing! i won't fuck her but i'll let her suck my cock...really? i just can't! no attraction no sex! ..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one? 
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Hi LaLa, This idea has actually come up in conversations before that I've had. A great way to look at it is this: I'm heterosexual. If a guy wanted to suck my dick, I'd say, "no thanks." Why? Not because I'm a homophobe, or afraid of what people might think, but because I am not attracted to men. I know guys who have had this exact thing happen to them, and they were fine with it, they just got their dick sucked. Um...no. So, if a woman came up to me, and offered to give me oral sex, and I was NOT attracted to her in anyway, the answer would be no. It would be unsexy, even repulsive. That's of course my perspective, but I'd be willing to guess that for others it's partly an attraction thing, and partly a sexual practice thing...meaning, some men will let anything suck their dick, because it's the act, the release that matters. While for others it's a 'degree' thing. I've had a few situations where I wasn't necessarily thinking, "I want to have sex with this person," yet if they offered oral sex..."meh, sure." But, older and wiser, I would rather have a very pretty face looking up at me. Stroking for answers... Q
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What I was going to say has been said by everyone else. Wanton_Wench If you apprehiate this blog,please give a   or a
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There has to be a mutual attraction!
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Hello BiggLala... you do write some interesting blogs... makes a grown man ponder, how in the heck do these ideas enter into your mind... I'm not judging, just sayin' I've never looked at it that way... and, so, in a way, that is the answer... I consider oral to be part of the total package... I enjoy giving and receiving, but, there must be an attraction for me... what is the point? Are we (me) just animals in heat that have an itch to scratch? maybe... but, this animal, wants to see, find, explore, seek to understand, and then, maybe you can get into my pants... but, this ain't no toy... there are so many people willing to just get or take or give... I'm not looking for my 'one & only' I'm looking for my someone... a sameone, or similar one, as me, with different tastes... different buttons.. something of interest... I talk to women on a professional business level everyday of my life, and I'm not thinking of banging or eating them every second of the day... today, I had a 30 minute discussion with a co-worker, we shared ideas, discussed some of the challenges of our job, but, I never thought of banging her or anything... so... yes, for me, just a simple man... give me an attraction whether it be a superficial something or a story that she can make up or a song or lyric or something that just moves me... there are over 3.75B women on this planet, surely I could find 100k that might be up for this naïve and fragile soul... just sayin'... so, I'm not going to throw a grenade out there and see what falls out... no, no, no... give me somebody that interests and that can be interested in me... and, I'm not looking for a clown or a ventriloquist, I can go to a zoo or to another Jeff Dunham show for that... meet me somewhere... whisper sweet nothings in my ear... lie to me... but, enchant me in some kind of way, otherwise I can play cards or read a book or go to a strip club, or read and write blogs... I like how you think BiggLala... thanks for the post... COLDPLAY - "Shiver" So I look in your direction, But you pay me no attention, do you? I know you don't listen to me. 'cause you say you see straight through me, don't you? And on and on from the moment I wake, To the moment I sleep, I'll be there by your side, Just you try and stop me, I'll be waiting in line, Just to see if you care. Did you want me to change? Well I changed for good And I want you to know. That you'll always get your way I wanted to say, Don't you Shiver? Shiver Sing it loud and clear I'll always be waiting for you, So you know how much I need you, But you never even see me, do you? And is this my final chance of getting you? And on and on from the moment I wake, To the moment I sleep, I'll be there by your side, Just you try and stop me, I'll be waiting in line, Just to see if you care. Oh, oh, oh, oh. Did you want me to change? Well I changed for good And I want you to know. That you'll always get your way I wanted to say, Don't you Shiver? Don't you Shiver? Sing it loud and clear. I'll always be waiting for you. Yeah I'll always be waiting for you. Yeah I'll always be waiting for you. Yeah I'll always be waiting for you. For you, I will always be waiting. And it's you I see, but you don't see me. And it's you I hear, so loud and so clear I sing it loud and clear. And I'll always be waiting for you. So I look in your direction, But you pay me no attention, And you know how much I need you, But you never even see me. To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!! 
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I have not done this. I need a connection and attraction with the woman before I can have sex with her and oral applies as well.
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Call me a typical man, but I'm honestly more willing to receive and usually save giving to a relationship of sorts
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Whilst I agree with the main post, yes there has to be some attraction, it raises the question of glory holes and blindfolds. For some, male and female, the use of glory holes and blindfolds remove the ability to see the other person, so the only focus is the item to perform oral on. Does this imply that perhaps for some, it is just the act of oral that matters, not what the person or persons involved look like or there attraction level.
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Agree that there has to be an attraction on some scale. I prefer the benefits of both physical and the emotional.
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Change it to fingers. Would you let an ugly man finger you if you had no intention of having genital sex with him? I know this probably seems like it is changing your original question too much, but I think the parameters of sex for men and women are too different for the oral sex question to be equally applied. I think men enjoy getting head more than women, in general, enjoy receiving cunnilingus. At present, I believe, women feel cunnilingus is an act that leaves them more vulnerable and open, technically men should too, but I don't think the power dynamics play out that way in real life. Change the scenario to the woman getting a foot massage, then a calf massage, and then it proceeds up her leg, if she wants to, to vaginal and then clitoral stimulation, again, if she decides to let it proceed. Would your women respondents who gave an emphatic 'no' to the oral sex question give a similar blanket negative response to this scenario, if the person in question wasn't attractive enough to actually merit having genital sex with? I'm talking really good with his hands.
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Gotta have some attraction, no matter whether is oral sex or regular sex. I will admit, I've had a few experiences where I got caught up in the moment and would probably reconsider choosing that partner again, both male and female.
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It differs from people to people
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I agree with you on this, I would have to be attracted in either the brain or the hunkyness of the guy! But on the other hand, the fact that glory holes are very popular these days seems to dissolve this theory! Who knows why people do what they do?! Have fun! Fox I am dedicated to helping you create a better sex life! All Yours, Fox20
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Very much agree! 
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Definitely would have to have some attraction involved. Excellent question, excellent points made.
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11/20/2015 4:57 am |
your right that any woman can give me oral ..give back ...it really depends doesn't it
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He use her - she use him = it's all a grand illusion! Never give up the hunt!
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While I don't think I fall in to the category of a male that would take a BJ from ANYBODY willing to give me one, I do see now how you directly lnk oral sex and intercourse. Fall Fruits of my Labor, on HNW My Loins are on Fire Hotel of Choice [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secret
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