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Intimacy...what's the difference
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Intimacy...what's the difference It started out easy...no pressure, Just 2 adults having fun. But how long can you have fun before feelings begin to evolve. I had it set in my mind that FWB was the way to go. No pressure for a relationship, no questions about what you did the night before, just some plan and simple easy fucking. Then the feelings start. Wondering what he's doing, if you'll hear from him. After a while, he starts to notice some subtle differences. Sex is awesome, he knows what to do to make you cum over and over. You please each other and all is good. You leave his house and drive away with tears in your eyes because you know how he feels. FWB.. fuck buddies, is all he wants. You keep going back, but question yourself each time. He shares things, more than a fuck buddy would share. You lie in his bed and he touches you continually, Always making you warm and comfortable. Things seem to be going so great, then you confess your feelings. He doesn't contact you like before and when he does the conversation stays on the subject of sex only, Is the intimacy you shared more for you than him? When do you walk away after that line has been crossed and how do you stop the feelings? Any thoughts?  |
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9/5/2014 4:23 pm |
So true SteadyRide. It is a dangerous game we play, never knowing where we will end up.
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My thoughts come from a similar situation...only I met my 'casanova' under different circumstances. 1. He enjoys the game. 2. He will keep playing until the stakes get too high. 3. He already knows how to "keep you in line" with the game. So...learn the "unspoken rules" of the game.... Meaning, make some rules up of your own to stay on equal footing, IF you choose to continue see him...otherwise you've gotta let go & move on.
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Do you know other people? Do they fill your needs in other ways which are satisfying? I'm not only talking about sexually. I think it's rare that one person can mesh so perfectly with another that all needs are filled, so there is some compromise, if the relationship is monogamous, and other friendships are limited. If it's poly, then there is an underlying economy of time and attention ... we are limited in what we can provide to anyone. We are also unlimited in how small our expectations can become. So, we are left alone, in the dark, making decisions as well as we can. One thing might be to think of the world as an abundant place, so there is less fear of loss. This might help a bit. Is it possible to believe in abundance?
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7/29/2017 2:12 pm |
Listen..feelings for another person can get deep. I not only have feelings for a woman that I see here and there during the week but deep emotions too. We communicate not as much per her request, but its been hard! We are fwb's, not just fuck buddies. Catching feelings for a woman for me has to be deep and genuine in order for me to be "hooked" to her. It's a tough subject and everyone has feelings, but how true are your feelings to who you love is the question. You want more but can't have it. Does anyone know what that does to a person? I know because I've experienced it but we all, including me, have to be strong in our minds not to push when it doesn't need to be pushed, we just have to step aside and evaluate where we are and where we want to go in life.
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