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Toxic Male Syndrome
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Toxic Male Syndrome Something happened yesterday that forced me to sit back and evaluate my behavior again online. A few says ago, I was sitting in a chat room here and interacted with someone I thought was nice. Nothing too lewd, just casual conversation. Days passed and I saw her online and shot her a message. After my introduction, she immediately asked to move the conversation to another social chat platform.. which we did and that is when the train came off the rails almost immediately. Typically, after the first exchange, one will ask for a pic. I sent her a pic of my face.. with clothes on and with a quick comment that the chin was really mine. In return, I got a topless pic of her bare breasts. I didn't ask for that, but I complimented her anyway. I totally misread that situation and fired back with an equally compromising pic of myself which turned into a soap box moment for herself. So, I was called a Toxic Male and the following rant was all about me and my entitlement. She doesn't know me, but this is the last that I am going to speak of this woman. So, I apologized as much as I could, because ultimately this woman online was right. I really need to watch out how and who I interact with from here. I will never be running for Supreme Court Justice or even any public office that requires a back ground check and/or drug test. With that said and out of the way, I often confront guys on their inability to read a situation and the ability to accept, no, as an answer. Yet, here I am being called out for my bad behavior. I KNOW that I shouldn't be sending pics like that to someone that I just exchanged three sentences with, but I fell for the trap. There was nothing that I could have said or done that would have changed that woman's mind about what just happened. It would be my word against hers. The last thing that I wanted to do was lash out with an angry response, that would have just added fuel to her fire. I think that is what got me angry the most. Not with her, but I had a moment of stupidity that is going to sit in my head now for the next few months. |
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soooo...she sends her naked pics to someone and don't expect that she will be treated the same??? and here in the United States of America, women are asking equal rights...so she gets it. and now she is mad??? WTF??? 
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Dang... I would have read the situation the same way. It's like her picture was the carrot and then when you responded, she beat you with the stick!!!
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Weighing in from the male point of view . . . with some prior experience on this site, I should perhaps add . . . Cynicus seems to understand very well about "Pussy Rules". You know about pussy rules, right other readers ? As in "The one who has the pussy . . . makes the rules." Too often true here, given the probable ratio of something like 30 active male profiles for every active female one. I don't disagree with Jules' advice about not giving the woman a second thought, since her behavior seems toxic. On the other hand, it seems to me that Cynicus's second thoughts were mainly about his own behavior in interacting with the toxic-Miz . . . not so much about her. I applaud his "Don't feed the trolls" actions that followed. Just drop it, and drop her. Still useful to reflect on the point that there will always come opportunities to share dick pics in future - grin. Seldom any harm comes from being patient that way. Fun story - ok, probably more fun to read about than to experience personally, but well told!
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I've always been a promoter for fairness. That woman was not fair. If it ever happens to you again, you have every right to protest to the woman about unsolicited boob pics! Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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Your behavior was nothing to apologize for. She sent skin first. Sounds like she's got issues. Walk away shaking your head, it's all you can do. You seem like a nice sweet guy.
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