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Am I just…
 

khuXBFXM8u 62M
6260 posts
8/29/2014 1:28 pm
Am I just…
I don’t know… I don’t have the right words… but I was just left scratching my head after hearing this.



I’m out and about, driving, radio on, when I hear the DJ talking about a woman, wanting to divorce her husband. No big deal right? Happens all the time… hardly news worthy… except for her reason. It wasn’t the usual: he was abusive, he became an alcoholic, she is not sexually or emotionally fulfilled, or… wait for it… she found his HotMatch.com profile. Nope, none of the above. Her reason for wanting a divorce.. HER HUSBAND IS TOO NICE!

Thoughts please…
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kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
8/29/2014 1:38 pm

 I can SORT of understand it. I had a girlfriend once who was very sweet natured and even tempered. Apparently nothing anyone did pissed her off. A girl she worked with treated her very badly, and my girl would not even say that she disliked the woman. In fact, she went out of her way to claim that she liked her. My girlfriend was not killing her with kindness- the other woman thrived on this and needed to be smacked. It drove me nuts. I never would have stopped seeing her for this reason- she wanted marriage and I didn't- but I suppose I can see where there could be some personality conflict when someone refuses conflict under any circumstances. It seems shabby on the face of it but he might not be the right man for her.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/29/2014 3:51 pm

 Nope... just too nice.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/29/2014 3:55 pm
    Quoting kzoopair:
    I can SORT of understand it. I had a girlfriend once who was very sweet natured and even tempered. Apparently nothing anyone did pissed her off. A girl she worked with treated her very badly, and my girl would not even say that she disliked the woman. In fact, she went out of her way to claim that she liked her. My girlfriend was not killing her with kindness- the other woman thrived on this and needed to be smacked. It drove me nuts. I never would have stopped seeing her for this reason- she wanted marriage and I didn't- but I suppose I can see where there could be some personality conflict when someone refuses conflict under any circumstances. It seems shabby on the face of it but he might not be the right man for her.
Ok... but don't you figure that out before the "I do"
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/29/2014 3:58 pm
    Quoting  :
Being a pushover and being nice ard not the same thing. By I understand what you are ssying.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/29/2014 4:33 pm
    Quoting  :
Didn't you see this before the "I do",for did he change?
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pal334 69M  
45821 posts
8/29/2014 4:57 pm
Well, it just goes to show you,,,,,,,,,,, well, honestly, I don't know what it shows us
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TXArmyWife 51F
1964 posts
8/29/2014 9:11 pm

 There has to be more to the story! You can be to nice, as someone else said, to the point of being a pushover, or never stand up for yourself. To can be to nice, to where you lie about stuff. Someone that is alway nice, I think, is one of those people that you don't want to be around when they finally blow up.
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spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
8/30/2014 2:31 am

 I must admit I don't like being called nice; perhaps she'll marry me next!


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/30/2014 4:39 am
    Quoting pal334:
    Well, it just goes to show you,,,,,,,,,,, well, honestly, I don't know what it shows us
I know exactly what you're feeling.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/30/2014 4:47 am
    Quoting  :
Alcohol and depression will definitely impeed someone's decision making ability. I have heard of nasty people pretending to be nice... but I have never contemplated the reverse.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/30/2014 4:49 am
    Quoting  :
Oh yes... that's what was reported
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
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8/30/2014 4:54 am
    Quoting TXArmyWife:
    There has to be more to the story! You can be to nice, as someone else said, to the point of being a pushover, or never stand up for yourself. To can be to nice, to where you lie about stuff. Someone that is alway nice, I think, is one of those people that you don't want to be around when they finally blow up.
It's all I got... still I don't equate nice and pushover as synonymous, or that they will explode at some time in the future.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/30/2014 4:57 am
    Quoting  :
wait, you mean I'm not enough
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/30/2014 4:59 am
    Quoting rm_hungmixedguy:
    Most women are assholes-bitches-cunts and dont deserve decent quality guy! they get treated like shit by asshole guy cuz that what they deserve!
Ok then...odon't hold back now.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
8/30/2014 5:03 am
    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I must admit I don't like being called nice; perhaps she'll marry me next!
I'll put in a good word for you.

I don't mind being called nice, some see me that way... others not so much.
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sweet_VM 65F
81699 posts
8/30/2014 1:27 pm

 Well if he never told her he was on this site. Shame on you! He gets what he gets from her. I am sure if he was up front and honest she might have understood. Finding your hubbies profile on this site is something that really has to be discussed. Why are you still married I would say.. hugssssssssssssss V
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kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
8/30/2014 6:33 pm

 "Ok... but don't you figure that out before the "I do""

If we could figure everything out before "I do" we wouldn't have either marriage or divorce. I sympathize with your position here. It sounds awful, dumping a guy for being nice. But are you sure you're getting the whole story on a radio station? It's hard to know exactly what is going on in a relationship. I had a very good friend who was nuts. He was a sweet guy and a very good man, but he was nuts. Not the PC term for it, but.... His wife finally couldn't take any more and filed for a divorce. A lot of folks were cussing her for dumping him, quoting "for better or for worse" but they can't have known what she went through. I didn't have to live with him, and he made me want to tear out my hair sometimes.
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hotsandy5 49F
10514 posts
8/30/2014 10:24 pm

 Human beings are very complex.
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sensualpassion72 59M/51F
3559 posts
8/31/2014 6:34 am

 Hmmm.. Only thing I can think of is I do like a man that can tell me "no. " I see it as a form of being "equal". If he says "YES" to everything I want versus considering what he'd like as well... it simply wouldn't be the relationship I want. It would qualify for me as he'd be to nice. I would leave him and I have in the past.. I want to grow with someone versus be his queen. Make, sense?


sexysixties2 106F
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8/31/2014 11:02 am

 She's an idiot.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
9/1/2014 7:14 pm
    Quoting  :
You may be right boner... it seem to a lot of people marriage and divorce is like change socks.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
9/1/2014 7:19 pm
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I just don't see being nice and lacking confidence (or being a pushover) as going hand in hand. This seem to be the feeling of a lot of women... but then it comes full circle when I hear about how selfish and prickly former partners were.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
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9/1/2014 7:20 pm
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Yes definitely.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
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9/1/2014 7:22 pm
    Quoting sweet_VM:
    Well if he never told her he was on this site. Shame on you! He gets what he gets from her. I am sure if he was up front and honest she might have understood. Finding your hubbies profile on this site is something that really has to be discussed. Why are you still married I would say.. hugssssssssssssss V

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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
9/1/2014 7:26 pm
    Quoting kzoopair:
    "Ok... but don't you figure that out before the "I do""

    If we could figure everything out before "I do" we wouldn't have either marriage or divorce. I sympathize with your position here. It sounds awful, dumping a guy for being nice. But are you sure you're getting the whole story on a radio station? It's hard to know exactly what is going on in a relationship. I had a very good friend who was nuts. He was a sweet guy and a very good man, but he was nuts. Not the PC term for it, but.... His wife finally couldn't take any more and filed for a divorce. A lot of folks were cussing her for dumping him, quoting "for better or for worse" but they can't have known what she went through. I didn't have to live with him, and he made me want to tear out my hair sometimes.
You are right I don't know the whole story. The post wasn't intended to focus on the individuals involved in the divorce, but the purported rationale for the divorce "being too nice".
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