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Blogs > khuXBFXM8u > The Down and Dirty

Blind Dates
 

khuXBFXM8u 62M
6260 posts
4/24/2014 7:43 pm
Blind Dates
We are all familiar with the concept… someone you know and hopefully trust, who knows you well, sets you up on a date with someone you don’t know.



So let me run this “what if” by you. A close friend here on HotMatch.com has a friend who is in the lifestyle, and your friend thinks this person would be perfect for you. The friend of your HotMatch.com friend in not an HotMatch.com member; they could be a member of another sex dating site, a work acquaintance, someone from their gym… whatever. Your friend shows you a picture, you like what you see; then describes their likes, dislikes, kinks, and it matches what you are looking for, spot on. Your HotMatch.com friend informs you that they have talk to their friend, and they are really interested in meeting you.

Would you do it, go for the meet?

Would you prefer to go in alone like a real blind date?

Or would you want the matchmaker there to make the introductions?

Would you want the matchmaker to stay for the duration, or beat a hasty retreat at some point?

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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/24/2014 9:15 pm
    Quoting Discretewizard:
    Yes I'd go for the meet. And probably go for one on one.
It's really not a whole lot different from what we try to do here is it.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/24/2014 9:16 pm
    Quoting  :
It's unfortunate things didn't work out better.
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sweet_VM 65F
81699 posts
4/24/2014 9:56 pm

 KHU I sure would go for it! If you like what you see in the picture why not. Your friend might have good call on this one. I would think I would not have the match maker come to the first meeting. Go alone! If you guys work out so be it no pressure on your friend who tried to set it up. hugs V
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openagenda 108M
6275 posts
4/24/2014 10:34 pm

 Geeees Khu, reluctance for "blind dating" went out with high school.

Adults meeting adults is always a good thing. Tis called "communication".

Hmmm, ooops, seems someone wrote a blog about that huh?


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
4/25/2014 2:10 am

 I'd go for the meet alone but with minimal expectations. All my blind dates - numbering two - were disaster dates. Despite what my friends said, I had very little in common with whom they set me up. TC


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 3:29 am
    Quoting sweet_VM:
    KHU I sure would go for it! If you like what you see in the picture why not. Your friend might have good call on this one. I would think I would not have the match maker come to the first meeting. Go alone! If you guys work out so be it no pressure on your friend who tried to set it up. hugs V
Thanks V., I guess if the match making friend was there I would be a little pressure on them.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 3:32 am
    Quoting openagenda:
    Geeees Khu, reluctance for "blind dating" went out with high school.

    Adults meeting adults is always a good thing. Tis called "communication".

    Hmmm, ooops, seems someone wrote a blog about that huh?
Yes, I did write a blog about communication that's why this follow up. I wondered if people would stick to their same M.O. Chat first, get comfortable, etc., or if the referral is enough for them throw that out the window.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 3:37 am
    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I'd go for the meet alone but with minimal expectations. All my blind dates - numbering two - were disaster dates. Despite what my friends said, I had very little in common with whom they set me up. TC
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. I haven't had any disasters, but I have had one memorable blind date flat line.
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sexysixties2 106F
Ask me for a photo
39750 posts
4/25/2014 4:00 am

 I would go but would not have the matchmaker there. No harm in testing the water so to speak.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 5:47 am
    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I would go but would not have the matchmaker there. No harm in testing the water so to speak.
Never any harm Sexy
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openagenda 108M
6275 posts
4/25/2014 5:47 am
    Quoting khuXBFXM8u:
    Yes, I did write a blog about communication that's why this follow up. I wondered if people would stick to their same M.O. Chat first, get comfortable, etc., or if the referral is enough for them throw that out the window.
Khu, thank goodness people are very much like snowflakes; no two the same.

"The referral" doesn't change you. It simply opens the first door to enable communication with her.

Enjoy !!!


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 5:48 am
    Quoting  :
I understand wanting control, but it's not like you still don't have a choice.
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pal334 69M  
45821 posts
4/25/2014 6:08 am

 Would you do it, go for the meet? I think so

Would you prefer to go in alone like a real blind date? Alone would be best

Or would you want the matchmaker there to make the introductions?I think I would trust the match maker and try it alone

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TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
4/25/2014 6:13 am

 Hell yeah I do it! Alone of course, but for coffee or happy hour or something along those line! Not a full blown, stuck together for a couple of hours kind of thing, but a short happy little coffee hour would be fun, even if it doesn't work out!


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 10:00 am
    Quoting openagenda:
    Khu, thank goodness people are very much like snowflakes; no two the same. /:>

    "The referral" doesn't change you. It simply opens the first door to enable communication with her.

    Enjoy !!!
The funny thing is, I have had such a referral. My friend doing the referral is not an HotMatch.com member, neither was the person I was referred too. And the setup wasn't full blind, were knew each other when we were much younger, but had run into each maybe 4-5 times over a 20 year gap. It was a great referral.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 10:02 am
    Quoting George_W_Johnson:
    Intresting concept for sure, for ME it would like come down to how well My HotMatch.com friend knew me - there are only a hand full of people I would trust enough to allow them to convince me to see anyone, but if it were one of THOSE friends I'd go in a heart beat and I would not hesitate to meet them alone

    then there is the OTHER kind of blind date.... [image] ZERO hesitation LOL
Ah yes. I haven't had that other kind of blind date, but its on the list.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 10:05 am
    Quoting pal334:
    Would you do it, go for the meet? I think so

    Would you prefer to go in alone like a real blind date? Alone would be best

    Or would you want the matchmaker there to make the introductions?I think I would trust the match maker and try it alone
Pal, you think like I do.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 10:10 am
    Quoting TicklePlease:
    Hell yeah I do it! Alone of course, but for coffee or happy hour or something along those line! Not a full blown, stuck together for a couple of hours kind of thing, but a short happy little coffee hour would be fun, even if it doesn't work out!
Tickle, you would treat it like a regular meet and greet. It's funny that you would mention being stuck together for a couple of hours. I always try and arrange meeting when I will have lots of time on the backend, so that the conversation can go how ever long it goes.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 10:17 am
    Quoting  :
Passion, IMHO all meeting should be pressure and expectation free... just light enjoyable fun.
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TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
4/25/2014 12:40 pm
    Quoting khuXBFXM8u:
    Tickle, you would treat it like a regular meet and greet. It's funny that you would mention being stuck together for a couple of hours. I always try and arrange meeting when I will have lots of time on the backend, so that the conversation can go how ever long it goes.
Well... the "stuck together" part is really only for a true blind date, someone I've not talked to before! I'm as up for adventure as the next gal, but unless I've already chatted with someone a bit first, and we've both realized that we're compatible when it comes to interests, I prefer to limit my time. Just in case he's a closet Sarah Palin fan or something... (hope my american political joke doesn't get lost in "translation")

If I've already felt an interest, I too like to have lots of time on the "backend" as you say.... I like that phrase!


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 2:47 pm
    Quoting  :
Could you be more enthusiastic.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 2:57 pm
    Quoting TicklePlease:
    Well... the "stuck together" part is really only for a true blind date, someone I've not talked to before! I'm as up for adventure as the next gal, but unless I've already chatted with someone a bit first, and we've both realized that we're compatible when it comes to interests, I prefer to limit my time. Just in case he's a closet Sarah Palin fan or something... (hope my american political joke doesn't get lost in "translation")

    If I've already felt an interest, I too like to have lots of time on the "backend" as you say.... I like that phrase!
The humor is not lost when you come north of the border. You don't get our news but we get all of yours. Sarah may have an HotMatch.com account.
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EnchantedViolet 59F
2795 posts
4/25/2014 4:48 pm

 Definitely go. Definitely alone. I would have some questions, about the whole HotMatch.com/non-HotMatch.com dynamic. Like, does this blind date know that I'm on HotMatch.com? If no, how would they feel about it... is it something I need to keep secret? That matters.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/25/2014 7:59 pm
    Quoting EnchantedViolet:
    Definitely go. Definitely alone. I would have some questions, about the whole HotMatch.com/non-HotMatch.com dynamic. Like, does this blind date know that I'm on HotMatch.com? If no, how would they feel about it... is it something I need to keep secret? That matters.
They don't need to know the specifics, just that you are like minded going in.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
4/28/2014 5:21 am
    Quoting cinnamontaste69:
    I would welcome the opportunity to go on the meet without the matchmaker. I would treat this meet just like any other meet and arrange a setting where we’re both comfortable and relaxed.
It is kind of like meeting some for here, isn't it.
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