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Is that a revolving door closet?
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Is that a revolving door closet? I have written and rewritten this post, not quite able to corral a wandering mind (herding cats) in order to ask my question. Are you "out" as Bi to friends and family? I have been for more than a few years, around 20ish. It took me about a year and a half to explain myself to select family members, mother, sister then dad and step mom. I never told my step dad. He was a close minded of a bitch although he did accept my nephew when he came out. Got to give him props for that, but our relationship was strained from the beginning so I chose not to share that with him and my family all understood and agreed. Since his passing we are all open when I discuss my "dating" life. I know I have an "other" than average family and circle of friends. My nephew is out and my sister's best friend is a Drag Queen "Greater Tuna" style who we call our "hairy" sister. His roommate is out as well, think Robin Williams in birdcage and you will not be far. My sister is Marge, her husband is Homer. so my role as the "twisted" sister is tame in my world. I have never felt the need to hide that part of my life, so I was taken aback when a woman I was chatting with was so adamant about not telling her adult that momma was thinking of switching teams. Now I'm not confusing this with a need for discretion. She is a divorcee, who has soured on men and wants a woman for a closeted lesbian relationship. This is not about playtime but about a relationship. I was offended. I have had a few long term relationships with women and lived openly and out. I cannot imagine having to hide your lover because of living a lie. I once had a lesbian tell me that being out when you're bi is liking hiding in plain sight. I know married women who are out to their spouse. But what about other bi-women who are single? I suspect the reason there are so many woman on here who chat and text but don't actually ever meet, is that they are afraid of the reaction of their friends and family, if they were found out. I understand discrete, just not fully closeted. I am curious if I am an anomaly. Are you bi and out? |
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sure thing  Cheers
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While I am not bi, I do live an alternate lifestyle, polyamory. I've thought on the subject of telling my extended family, but honestly...I rarely tell them much about my life other than I'm happy and doing well. I don't live anywhere near them, and we are not that close. so I don't feel the need to tell them anything. However, all of my friends, brother, sister, and adult child know and accept me for who I am. I have met many in poly who are not out and many of those people are bisexual. Some of us are just in different places in our "outness" for a variety of reasons. But, I'm with you, I don't want a closeted relationship and won't accept it. For that reason, if the need were to arise to tell my extended family, I'd be more than happy to. But, so far, no one asked.  Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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