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Blogs > greatnsgirl > Sleepin single in a double bed

Double standard  

greatnsgirl 62F
171 posts
1/11/2015 7:57 am
Double standard

I am a single woman who has a high sex drive and I enjoy a variety of sexual activities. I respect others and I have morals. I try not to get involved with attached men. So why is it when someone asks about the number of partners I have had I feel slutty? I know part of it is my very catholic upbringing. If I was a man I would be considered a "stud" in this day of open sex and equality I shouldn't feel guilty.

The other thing that bothers me is the negative use of the word Cougar. Recently I was being teased by a vanilla friend about being a cougar. He really has no idea LOL but I admit it bothered me a lot. It shouldn't. At my age if young men are interested I should be flattered right?

So how do I stop myself from feeling the negative side of these things? I am a good person....I just REALLY like sex.....
Jilly {=}
standingtall45 65M  
Ask me for a photo
90 posts
2/8/2015 1:49 pm

 Doesn't matter what others think all that matters is your Happy age doesn't matter ... g for what you Want and like...


siss573 58F  
58 posts
1/27/2015 7:23 am

 I have to say, I have had some ask. and Yes at times made me feel a little slutty, But I LOVE sex, and getting on here meeting people and having fun as long as no one gets hurt Hey there is nothing wrong with it. As far as them asking I usually respond with several and I keep thing lite and vague for a while with a new FWB. I have one that we have been playing for nearly a year now, and we talk about everything. including others past and current, But the many thing what total strangers think of me matters not. I have been called worse by better, more important people in my life. Have fun and Enjoy


greatnsgirl 62F
67 posts
1/11/2015 3:04 pm

 Thank you all for your positive feedback.
Jilly {=}


Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
1/11/2015 10:02 am

 If you enjoy something very much then embrace it and don't get
hung up on what others think. Outdated thoughts on sexuality
are exactly that.


hughjarce 68M
Ask me for a photo
595 posts
1/11/2015 8:32 am

 It's nobody's business how many partners you've had and no-one has the right to judge anyone else on sexual matters. The simple answer was 'Not Enough!' and that's why you're on this site lol.
Good luck to you and try and relax and have (guilt free) fun.

PS: The Catholic Church made a lot of us guilt ridden and paranoid, but just look at the number of priests etc that have committed far worse 'sins' than we will ever consider...


veryjuicykitten 29F
105 posts
1/11/2015 8:13 am

 I don't think its anyone's business how many previous partners you've had, especially if they want to judge a person negatively and with envy if it is more than themselves. Condoms are there for a reason.

Be a cougar with pride.


moses4862 66M  
333 posts
1/11/2015 8:04 am

 You need to ignore the stereotyping and other peoples opinions and just be yourself !!!! Live, have sex as much as you want, its none of their business !!!!! ...\8


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