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"Cat-ism" #1
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"Cat-ism" #1 Sooooo....having been divorced for almost 14 years now, I've developed some theories and while they are far from being 100% fool-proof, I've found them to be good guidelines for mature adult dating in the 21st century. The first is that following the end of a marriage (or significant long-term relationship even), that everyone should get out and play for at least a year before considering another relationship. And that's if you are the divorc-ER...potentially longer if you're the divorc-EE. I know that prior to filing for my divorce, it took me about 2-3 years to mentally "uncouple"; and by the time the ink was dry, I was ready to move on...but not to a relationship. I was, emotionally, an 18 year old (age I met my husband) in a 34 year old body. When you're the one who made the decision to take the step towards the big D, I believe you've done a lot of the healing along the way but if you didn't know it was coming (or were in denial), then that healing process takes much longer. In either case, once you're ready to get back out there and start dating/playing/whatever, it's a lot like Halloween after you get home from trick-or-treating. There's a WHOLE big bag of candy...some seem familiar and you know you like, some you know you can't stand, some probably need an xray to see if they're dangerous and there are those you just need to sample. If you eat the whole bag at once, you get sick. If you only eat one piece from the whole bag, you'll always wonder what other goodies were in there. But if you take your time, sampling carefully before making a choice, it can be SO satisfying! |
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Makes very good sense to play with no intent of a relationship. If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well. 
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