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Blogs > spiderj72 > Going to Hell for sure

Chaos  

spiderj72 51M
5951 posts
5/26/2014 10:43 am
Chaos

There was a saying when I was in the north working we had a little saying that went "chaos is cash". It was very true. When the plant went to hell there was usually a bunch of overtime to be had and money flowed like water.

Well my life is chaos right now. Meaning that I have changed my job to be closer to my in a time when she needs me around. It means a pay cut and some real changes. Mostly sleeping in my own house and sleeping in my own bed.

However as part of the divorce my soon to be ex seems to think that I am still living the high life. As if I ever lived the high life. Hell I was moderately comfortable. So once again I am running around on my few days off trying to get paperwork together to fight the increases in payments etc. So truly my chaos is cash, only this time it seems to be costing me cash.

1chellee 37F
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5/26/2014 12:23 pm

 Paying child support is not chaotic it is a duty and honestly less chaotic than taking care of a child 24/7...

Every cost today is higher than it once was...you get less and pay more for practically everything...that includes the costs of taking care of a child...they did not ask to be here, so step up to the plate and do the right thing.

Find a job that makes more money or get a second one...taking care of your responsibility should be more important than finding a way to get out of it.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
5/26/2014 3:10 pm

 If you think I am not paying child support you are sadly mistaken. And I take care of my daughter half of the time so I know the chaos of a child. It would be nice if you gave the same speech to my ex who isn't going to find a better paying job and instead continue milking me dry. Know the whole story before you jump in with suppositions.


stars_light4U 66F
3808 posts
5/26/2014 4:13 pm

 I know you are a loving and caring dad... My thoughts and sympathies are with you..

Looking forward to a good year ahead!!

Stars_light4U


1chellee 37F
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5/26/2014 4:51 pm

 First off learn reading comprehension...because i did not say you were not paying child support..

Secondly who you laid down with and chose to have a child with is your own fault...own up to it and deal...real men do not need to complain about the issues or in your case "chaos" they create for themselves by the choices they consciously make

Really get over it...you are just as responsible as she is


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
5/26/2014 5:48 pm
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I do wish she would. here is to trying to reason out a solution.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
5/26/2014 5:51 pm
    Quoting 1chellee:
    First off learn reading comprehension...because i did not say you were not paying child support..

    Secondly who you laid down with and chose to have a child with is your own fault...own up to it and deal...real men do not need to complain about the issues or in your case "chaos" they create for themselves by the choices they consciously make

    Really get over it...you are just as responsible as she is
did I ever say I was not responsible or give that impression? I think what I was doing was venting a little over the chaos of the situation. if you think that for a second I am not owning up and dealing with my situation than you are wrong. just because you are irritated doesn't mean you get to shut up and deal with it and not vent a little. if that offends you then I am sure there are other blogs you can enjoy.


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