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That is a tough situation to be in...I can definitely see your point on what you would do with it.
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GOOD
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I would then look at it this way. Take the money and invest it in the kids. Or take the money and give to me. I need it more right now than anyone else. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent 
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You can pass the money on to me and then not worry about how to spend it.  Send the old bag to South Africa - I will take her around and keep her happy, and even spend some of her own money on her!Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning Come visit my blog to know what I get up to from time to time: [blog 4jasmine2]
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Well you could look at it that way...or you could actually be a tad positive and think she might actually have appreciated the stuff you've done for her lately and shown it the only way she knows how...I know I'm probably wrong, biut I like to at least "think" the best of people...sigh...hope you can just smile and take it in the spirit of the holidays...
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Since you're driving her around this week, take her to lunch and a shopping trip or to the nail salon and pick up the tab and laughingly tell her you're helping her spending your inheritance on her! Try to convince yourself she has good intentions. Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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She'll be gone soon enough and you can do what you want to with it. Until then just sit it somewhere to earn interest. Just wanted to stop by to wish you a Happy Holiday and catch up with you. Kisses, LA   
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11/25/2012 9:00 pm |
Well a gift from Satan is one none of us needs. Fold it neatly, stick it in the cookie jar and put the lid on it. Checks eventually expire, so do other things............ just sayin.  Hey what are you doing NYEve? I was having a thought.... 
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"A gift given with caveats is not a gift." Totally agree. I am very keenly aware of motives of 'gifts'.. having been fortunate enough to experience gifts that were given freely and from the heart, and also having been trapped and bound by 'gifts'... even if a motive isn't as clearly expressed as she expressed it... I am ever so suspiscious of a 'gift' when i know a person doesn't love me wholeheartedly. --Author Unknown
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wow. that woman finds ways to turn the knife doesnt she. Maybe lose the check. I feel for you. Wish i had a magic solution for you. Breathe deep, smile in the mirror and remember that there is a metric tonne of love for you up north.
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I think a lot of folks had good answers...let the check sit a while. Even when done with strings attached, you can still work it to your advantage. Put it into a 401k or similar savings vehicle, show her how well it's managed. Show your kids the benefit of investing, let it ride, and when she's gone, spend it however you like (outside of the 401k part, of course). I do like the idea of investing in a 529 for the college expenses of the kids. I think she would be pleased with that? I know...the big picture is she is giving you this, and if you accept and follow her terms, she's "won". But find a way to make it a win for you too. At least it's not like that movie, who was it...Redford, Woody Harrelson, and Demi Moore (?), where Redford gave them a million bucks for a night with Demi. At least it's not THAT kind of set of terms! My former mother-in-law is difficult. She lives near me now. She has her good and bad sides. She is a caring woman, but she also has no filter on her mouth. My daughter tolerates her. She loves her Grammy, but finds that she says things that are unkind without thinking about it. Her religious zeal bothers my daughter, too, who is still finding her self with her religious faith. I remember my former M-I-L showing up one Saturday to our house, and the first words out of her mouth to my ex were "You've gained weight". Technically true, but again...no filter. The tough part is she means well, even if her delivery of this info sucks,
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It seems you can't do right for not doing wrong regarding the Hornet  
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I've been giving to various charities since I was 14 and half and had my first job. Giving should always be something, the giver never expects either credit or acknowledgment for...unfortunately many people do see it as.... "well, I did do this for you"? what ever money was given over for your children, use for your children.... what was given over to you? Give it back! Dice is here!!!! and soooooo! Not queer!!! are feeling it????
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Well GR...you are who you are, and if she's been paying attention at all, then she knows that you will likely pay some of it forward. So she finds out, and you never hear the end of it. How long will that be in reality? From what I gather, it doesn't sound like a very long time. Kind of a mean thing to say, I suppose. But best to be true to yourself. Thank her for the gift with your note and snip the attached strings. How she reacts to that is her bad Karma, not yours.
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Give to your kids for their education. This is not meant to offend any one in any way.     
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Write the thank you note which will help your feelings and in it tell her that you are investing the money for her grandchildren's futures. ~~Anais Nin~~
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Since you don't need the money for vibrator batteries, I'd suggest you buy something mechanical, like a French automobile, maybe a circa 1970 Citroen or Renault. That way, every time you see her and she talks about giving you the cash, you can tell her in great detail all the problems you've had with that damn car...how it constantly needs service and how much more money it has cost just to keep it running. Then you can tell her that you would just sell it, but since it was a "gift" from her, you could never do such a thing because gifts come from the heart and not from some crusty old bitch's purse. 
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As Slender Gal said, put it away and put it out of your mind and think about it next week.. or the week after  As for the thank you note, it will write itself once you are settled in your mind."You've seen my descent, Now watch my rising!" - Rumi Some women are lost in the fire. Some women are forged from it - Michele K.
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between Uncle Sam and you, you're the lesser evil to her, put it away for her grandchildren, your children, they will need it when they get married and have spouses and children of their own    je ne regrette rien
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Can't you just donate it to the GB Pacific Northwest Blogger Bash Foundation? Lol See you in Seattle my sweet! Thoughts from the Garden...
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Can you give it back? Of have your husband give it back?
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Put the check away for a moment. It's Thursday, tomorrow is Friday then the weekend. Maybe next week you won't feel so angry about it all. "To Be Consumed" Blog : I want to be your drug of painful withdrawals.
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