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Blogs > thegrlsnme > Thoughts from a late bloomer

would you date someone if they were not considered normal  

thegrlsnme 67F
2769 posts
9/4/2014 4:03 pm
would you date someone if they were not considered normal

I read a friends blog about dating out of race. It made me think of this blog.

Some of you know I used to walk with a cane with what I call my ganked up cerebal palsy walk. my right leg was 2 inches longer that my left leg, and I also in extreme pain.

A little over 2 years ago, I had my hip replaced, lost the ganged up walk, and lost the cane, as well as the pain. In other words, if you say me today, you would never know what I just told you.

My question to you is, would you date or meet a person that uses a cane, wheel chair, has a ganged up walk, or has some other sort of what people consider disability.

With that being said, I do know I chose not to start a conversation with a man because he walked with a cane. Yes, I did. looking back, I realize I may have missed out on someone fantastic. I also know that several men did not go out with me because of my cane.

On the other hand, I believe some men dated me just because of the cane. I believe it brought out the I am the man and I want to help her mode. I also had a man tell me my cane was not an issue, my thoughts on it were.

We all have issues, some more noticeable than others. I do believe we should be honest and up front about anything that may be a surprise to someone when we are meeting them for the first time. I have always said I don't want to be the surprise.

I do know the men that passed on me because of my cane, lost out on meeting a totally awesome hot sexy woman.

good luck in what your are searching for here............thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls
sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
9/4/2014 4:20 pm

 I myself used to walk with a cane for years, then had a medical devise implanted and don't need one anymore.

therefore, I wouldn't have a problem at all dating someone that either used a cane or otherwise.


RideACowboy3021 62M
820 posts
9/4/2014 4:23 pm

 I did date a woman, many years ago, that had one leg slightly shorter than the other. She walked with a slight limp, but she was one very sexy lady and we had a great time. It got so that after a while I didn't even notice her limp.

I haven't thought about her in years... thanks for bringing back a good memory.
Save a horse, ride a cowboy!!


Han54boat 71M
11637 posts
9/4/2014 5:01 pm

 Many decades ago, I dated a lady who had back surgery to straighten her back. Her back had scars up and down. Because of the surgery, one of her boob was smaller than the other. She was a lot of fun. We were very young at the time.

Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.


rm_travelguyoh 63M
12264 posts
9/4/2014 6:00 pm

 for me it's about the mind and not the outer package
some times the things that comes from between my ears makes me pause for reflection


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:31 am
    Quoting mcmaniac:
    I've never dated a woman with a cane or handicap, unless crazy is considered a handicap, then I've dated handicapped almost exclusively!
I thought of that when I wrote the blog, I knew it would be brought up. and yes I have been out with a few myself. haha
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:33 am
    Quoting  :
I'm great, but it also could have gone the other way. I am thankful everyday it went the way it was supposed to.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:35 am
    Quoting sphxdiver:
    I myself used to walk with a cane for years, then had a medical devise implanted and don't need one anymore.

    therefore, I wouldn't have a problem at all dating someone that either used a cane or otherwise.
I think when it first happened to me, it was something had to deal with. Here I was newly divorced after 30 years and then the hip thing came up. It did hurt my self esteem at first, but I got over it and moved on.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:36 am
    Quoting RideACowboy3021:
    I did date a woman, many years ago, that had one leg slightly shorter than the other. She walked with a slight limp, but she was one very sexy lady and we had a great time. It got so that after a while I didn't even notice her limp.

    I haven't thought about her in years... thanks for bringing back a good memory.
I applaud you for dating the woman. and I am happy to bring back a good memory.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:38 am
    Quoting  :
I am like you, if it's there, it's there. I put mine out there, because I know some people did not, and when you met them at the meet n greet, there it was. I guess it's like not being forth coming about other things as well. it will eventually come out. and, as well, if someone did not date me because of it, it was their loss.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:40 am
    Quoting Han54boat:
    Many decades ago, I dated a lady who had back surgery to straighten her back. Her back had scars up and down. Because of the surgery, one of her boob was smaller than the other. She was a lot of fun. We were very young at the time.
mmmmmmmmmmmmm a messed up back, affected the boobs. that's a new one. glad you enjoyed yourself anyway.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:44 am
    Quoting Cybersport16:
    Theegrls, I'm not sure if you literally meant you have Cerebral Palsy. I'll assume not. But I have CP. And I've always felt extremely self conscious about it, especially because I think the whole gender thing takes on a different tone when the guy has the disability and the woman doesn't.

    I've always felt a guy having a disability when the woman doesn't kind of upsets the natural order. I could be wrong here – and please correct me if I am – but I think most women get turned off by a guy who doesn't fit the "ultra-masculine" arch-type, and they can't accept it when they're the physically "dominant" one in the relationship (i.e.. all their body parts function "normally.") It could just be that hundreds of thousands of years of evolution has made men naturally a more physical specimen and women have gotten used to that, but some part of me wishes that some women wouldn't mind taking the lead role in a benevolent way.

    I think I may have hit on a blog theme of my own here.
no, I do not have cerebral palsy. I used to walk in the worst way like a person that did. It was my way of coping when I saw the doctor. I would make a joke about the walk. He would laugh and say now Linda.

I don't know how it can be from a man's perspective. that may be a good blog. I know from my perspective if I was dating a guy and had to be the dominant one I would adjust. I just don't like being the dominant one, when the guy should be stepping up to the plate.

I have run into many "normal" men as you could call them, and have felt like I was the babysitter, making all the decisions. No matter how independent a woman is, she does like the man to take control. At least I do.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/5/2014 7:46 am

 I appreciate all the comments on this blog. Sometimes things happen to us for a short time, or for all of our lives and we do not think about another person's perspective on things.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


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