Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
If the email is registered with our site, you will receive an email with instructions to reset your password. Password reset link sent to:
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service
Forgot password?
Blogs > hornyguyMN > Inside my head

Crisis of Faith  

hornyguyMN 43M
2355 posts
2/20/2013 1:50 pm
Crisis of Faith

I'm not talking about religious faith. But more doubting your identity, or your ability to do things important to you.

I was at a meeting recently of a group that deals with D/s relationships and this was the topic that day. It got me thinking about what other people do when they are confronted with a crisis of faith. We all doubt ourselves now and then, even if we don't want to admit it. But I'm not talking about the small doubts (though they can add up to a big one). I'm talking about something that shakes the foundations of who you are.

I've had my own crisis to deal with, though mine isn't really a crisis of identity, but a renewal of old insecurities that center around a lack of experience. The only way I know to deal with it is the same way I deal with anything. Put my head down and try to run through that wall. Sure I get knocked on my backside with a concussion now and then, but I eventually figure it out. Sometimes I'm lucky enough to get advice on how to get around the wall.

So how do you deal with this type of crisis?

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
2/20/2013 7:14 pm

 Crying. Lots and lots of crying. I'm doubting my ability to be a human of this (or last) century. I believe in True Love, honesty, honor, loyalty, faithfulness, keeping one's word, etc. And besides discovering (and constantly re-discovering) that the truth of my life of the past 4 years was not, in fact, reality... I am also constantly meeting people that have beliefs of such extreme opposites of my own that it destroys me anew each time. Dang it... now I'm crying Not sure if this is quite the same thing, but I'm on the verge of giving up.


hornyguyMN replies on 2/21/2013 10:36 am:
Sorry I didn't mean for this post to be a trigger for anyone. I know it can be hard. My crisis has come close to breaking me more then once. Those same values you mentioned are important to me as well and I try to live my life by them. So I know what it is like to run into people that do not hold them in the same regard.

What works for me is to just keep telling myself that "This will NOT beat me, I wont allow it to. I may bend but I will NOT break." But I admit that is also a very male exjock mindset.

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
2/21/2013 4:59 pm

 Well, whenever struggles hit, I usually say "I was born fighting." (I was born 3 months early and barely 2 pounds) and use that as some sort of base rallying cry to build around for whatever situation requires it. I also have stubbornness and pride on my side usually to help. But sometimes the wounds are too deep and take a while to heal.

"Eat. Rest. Be well of heart. Breathe." That's been my motto since October. When things get too out of control inside me... have I eaten yet? Am I getting enough sleep? Calm down inside myself. Deep breaths. Don't worry about anything else for the moment, just stick to the fundamentals.


hornyguyMN replies on 2/22/2013 9:49 am:
We have to take strength from where ever we can. Sounds like a good system you have there.

Become a member to create a blog