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Frequency of sex VS length of relationship... 4 couples sat together for dinner and true to form, I scare everyone with my relationship downer...well, I did help bring it back up later...          . . .  . . . . MajorEasy's Blog... There is no use getting, into heavy petting it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting...... |
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 One woman remarked that one couple couldn't keep their hands off each other and they somewhat admitted that they are having sex all the time. The guy of the oldest couple (not by age, but by length of the relationship) mumbled that he can remember the good old days...everyone laughed at this except his partner...  To spare him further embarrassment as she looks about to launch into him, I decided to explain the reason to everyone... First point of order is to state that everyone of us are different in how much we want, need and enjoy sex. All present agreed to my point..... Now... Each relationship starts with some mutual admiration and curiosity...I call this the start state. Once the start state is more settled, sex comes into the picture.... for some, this may take a month or two; for others, it could take a few hours....Regardless, new couples past the start state begin to fuck like rabbits... >>! ...Yup, par for the course.... This period is termed the honeymoon period...and almost without fail, majority of couples will be all over each other...most people love this stage of a relationship, whether they are sex-crazed or not. It's the exploration, bonding and expression of feelings that draws us into a new relationship despite the devastation of the previous one... What most people don't pay attention to; is whether we are up to it.... Let's say, I normally am happy to have sex three times a week (or get horny roughly at that rate), and during the honeymoon period, my partner wants it three times a day...we kinda know we will have a problem sooner or later...don't get me wrong, I will be up for it, it is my honeymoon period after all...  However, I should know that it is her honeymoon period too so her libido may be hyped up slightly. What I should do is to check if I can handle maybe 50% of her needs. If I cannot, then once the honeymoon period fades, I am not going to be able to keep it going... To me, this is the main reason for sexual unhappiness in any relationship...the sexual compaetibility during the honeymoon period cannot translate to normal day to day living. Those couples who can last the distance (sexually speaking), are often most compatible in their sexual appetite....it's sheer luck unless they did a self check during their fuck-like-rabbit phase. Why do people in perfectly balanced relationships seek sex elsewhere? Mismatch of sexual appetites obviously....It is true for women as well as for men. The first person who decides that there is not enough sex is going to cast eyes outside the relationship. It is part of life because we are all built differently. If a partner snores, do we tell that partner to stop breathing while asleep? If a partner is hungry before we are, do we say it's cheating and unfair if they decide to eat a snack without us? No, or at least I hope we don't.... But sex, now that is different...it's personal...it's mine. That is cheating!!! ..b...u...l...l.......s...h...i...t.....I say... Horniness is a bodily function just like being hungry....if my partner is not taking care of it, I will get it taken care off somewhere else. Anyway...my point was and still is...if we find out during the honeymoon period that we are not compatible with each other...we can either put a stop to the relationship and stay friends...or we may have to live with one or both partners taking a swing outside the relationship.... (Disregard the occasional fluctuation in rhythm...take the overall average during the honeymoon period and make sure you can handle half of how much your partner want / willing to play.) Any thoughts? . . . . . . . MajorEasy's Blog...There is no use getting, into heavy petting it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting......
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Isn't this something you can discuss with your partner before the sex even starts? I call myself a once a day, twice on Sunday girl. Though ideally 3 - 5x a week is best. I can do with less in certain circumstances - I mean life stress sometimes just leaves a person too exhausted for more than collapsing into bed at the end of the night.
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Isn't this something you can discuss with your partner before the sex even starts? I call myself a once a day, twice on Sunday girl. Though ideally 3 - 5x a week is best. I can do with less in certain circumstances - I mean life stress sometimes just leaves a person too exhausted for more than collapsing into bed at the end of the night. Sure sweetie, we can talk about it prior to jumping in...but our bodies may not be able to cash the cheque written by our mouth... Well, like you said, you're a 'once a day and twice on sunday' girl...and if you meet a 'once a week and twice during Christmas' guy...I am CERTAIN, he will agree with you, 110% that once a day sounds really hot...you kidding me?...highly doable...especially since agreeing means he gets some fairly immediate action... Now, what happens in 6 months when he reverts to his once a week persona??  Sorry sweetie...maybe you believe what a guy (probably horny at the time) promises or says, but I'm not so sure it's the way to go... . . . . . . . MajorEasy's Blog...There is no use getting, into heavy petting it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting......
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You should research further and do a PhD thesis on this.  Cheers mate...not sure the academics can handle my research....gives a totally new meaning to research fellows when all mine are women craving for more sex...hahahaha Thanks for reading and commenting... . . . . . . . MajorEasy's Blog...There is no use getting, into heavy petting it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting......
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