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How involved do you get?
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How involved do you get? This can be a question about men and women after having sex... Or This can be about getting to know your neighbors and their problems.. Or.. in my case.. Getting involved in my 's lives... How involved should I get...? I hate to see them struggle.. when I seem to already know the answer to their predicaments..Do you let them learn on their own.. making their own mistakes.. suffering the consequences ... Or do you tell them your own advice if they ask you... When does retirement start.. And when the heck are my going to leave home..??? and why ...can't i just live my life the way I want to..????? I don't want to live my life alone.. there must be a middle ground in their somewhere... STars..  Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U |
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pfftt... sleep.. what is that..?? Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U
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Good Morning Stars   My son lives with me, but he has just left to spend 2 days with friends!! Woo Hoo  Visit my Blog Older but no Wiser and find out more
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I agree with Annette. If they are over the age of 21 out they go unless they are paying rent, and doing their own cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I raised 7 young adults and insisted that they find work, and pay their way if they wanted to live with us under our roof and our rules. They soon realized they could make it on their own elsewhere even with roommates. I also gave them a realistic move out date and insisted they honor it. If you think they need advice, then frame it in "I" terms: I had a similar situation once and this is what I did...I read about that once and this is what I found out... Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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You can offer suggestions based on experience, it is their choice whether to go with it. why ...can't i just live my life the way I want to..? You can but life decisions usually come with pros and cons.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Good Morning Stars My son lives with me, but he has just left to spend 2 days with friends!! Woo Hoo i love when kids go out and let me have the house to myself.. Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U
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If your kids r like mine it would go in one ear and out the other they ask my advice but do what they want. Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U
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My son pays rent... My daughter is on disablility, but she is able to grocery shop, clean the house, and sometimes cooks.. mostly she takes care of the pets when I'm out somewhere.. But I think she won't be moving out any time soon. Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U
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I agree with Annette. If they are over the age of 21 out they go unless they are paying rent, and doing their own cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. I raised 7 young adults and insisted that they find work, and pay their way if they wanted to live with us under our roof and our rules. They soon realized they could make it on their own elsewhere even with roommates. I also gave them a realistic move out date and insisted they honor it. If you think they need advice, then frame it in "I" terms: I had a similar situation once and this is what I did...I read about that once and this is what I found out... Mine is totally disfunctional..with alot of damage .. It would take a very thick book to tell you all the things that have happenned in my family. Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U
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I give my advice when asked.......but I'm never asked! I told them when they were younger, but now I let them learn for themselves.
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I offer my advice ONLY when they have asked for it - and I try very hard to make it non-judgmental and neutral. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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Not giving advice is very hard to do.. Looking forward to a good year ahead!! Stars_light4U
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